There is this unwritten law between girls called Girl Code, have you heard of it? Urban Dictionary defines Girl Code as; “The code of guidelines that are {all} girls most obey in order not to get kicked out of the community.” So what is this girl code & is it different for every clique?
For me I have my own set of girl code rules to abide by and I have let them be more of a basis of my moral character than a code between girls. To me, there are just certain things friends do not do to each other, that is unless they have no soul, no morals and are truly a bad person. Mistakes are mistakes, we all make them but I am not talking about a random mistake, I am talking about real best friend girl code!
Here are some of the girl code rules I have lived by and/or found others live by:
When attending a girls night out, do not invite your boyfriend, husband or brother, it is a girls night out only.
You are never in any case to date a friends ex, a guy who she was really into, or her child(ren) father.
You are never in any case to have sex with a friends ex, a guy who she was really into, or her child(ren) father.
A girl should never chase a man, let him chase you and show you how much he wants you.
Always stick up for your friend, even if someone else is sharing valid points of a bad character flaw of your friend.
If you want to date a friends brother, you must get your friends permission before doing so.
I am curious where all this girl code came from, seems to me they are pretty simple, easy to live by rules, specifically about dating situations. I mean, honestly, I could not get serious with a friends ex. When a person gets serious or even just dates a friends ex, it causes bad complications in their friendship. This friend will no longer be trusted and the situation could in fact destroy a friendship, thus leaving the person who dated an ex alone when the friends ex dumps her down the road.
To me, girl code is simply another way to help spread good morals and a common respect among friends!
With Valentine’s Day just around the corner many people may be thinking about gifts for her. After all it’s a romantic holiday and a man should be romancing his love, right? Well whatever feelings you have regarding Valentine’s Day, I say make sure to think of some unique gift ideas that will make your loved one smile with surprise!
This time of year brings around those looking for Valentine’s Day gifts but it also is a time for anniversaries and birthdays! Do not forget your wedding anniversary because that isn’t a good thing. When we watch movies, all too often the man forgets the anniversary date therefore doesn’t end up buying anniversary gifts for his wife, but in my household it was me who often forgot about my wedding anniversary when I was married.
Flowers are always a nice idea for birthdays and anniversaries. It seems once we become parents we all too often spend our money on our children most often which means when birthdays and anniversaries come around it’s fun to spoil that loved one that committed to spend the rest of their life with you. Giving someone a surprise birthday gift is also a nice way to make them smile and when someone smiles they are healthier in life and love.
Whether you are shopping right now for Valentines’ Day, birthday gifts or anniversary gifts it’s time to start thinking about ways to show that loved one you care with a heart felt gift.
I have made a decision with myself to keep some things private, mainly relationship status, issues or similar that are very personal in nature. I will discuss topics that almost any relationship may have come up here and there, but there will no longer be any personal posts regarding the status of relationships at a personal level.
The reason I came to this decision was because I wasn’t realizing that me being insanely open and outspoken online could potentially hurt people’s feelings and well honestly I don’t want to be on a reality television show so why would I treat my blog like one? Get what I mean?
There are few taboo topics to me, I love to address everything in life that pops into my little head but when it comes to deep personal issues or even relationships I have to lay low on talking too much about it. I do not wish to keep my personal relationship status a secret, but there are many areas in my life I continue to work on, struggle with and accept. I love writing about relationship type topics, whether they are about my own self, things I watched on TV or heard over the social media world, so I will continue discussing topics but no more personal relationship status type of things, unless of course I run off and get married & wish to share pictures, well that is going to be okay to do!
So far, personal relationship status is the only topic I refuse to blog about anymore, what is your number one, or would be your number one do not blog about topic if you have or had a blog?
I recently received the Like Book for couples from Juice in the City for a deal preview and let me tell you, as a girl who loves positive ideas about parenting and love this is the must have Valentine’s Day gift this year!
Each page has a new inspirational quote about life in love such as,
Love is a game that two can play and both can win – Eva Gabor
As most of you know, my mission in life is to spread happiness and do my part in helping others focus on the positive in life, The Like Book for Couples really assists in my mission and is a fabulous find for anyone looking to remind their loved one of what it is they like about them. Sometimes, in love, we get so preoccupied with life, parenting and work that we forget to let the partner we share our life with know what it is we like about them.
To get the deal from Juice in the City, sign up for their Everywhere Deals market and get daily email when deals go live, keep your eyes out for The Like Book deal to save money off this fabulous gift idea for your loved one! {hint the deal is expected to be live on Friday from what I hear}
Disclosure: I received a copy of this book for free, however, all opinions are based on my own experience & personal thoughts.
It was the summer of 2000… I had graduated high school, and was excited to continue on working in a fabulous office for who knows how long. My resume had been built up, money was great, and then it happened… Credit cards starting arriving in the mail! I must have received a total of five credit cards without even applying for them. Visa, MasterCard, Fashion Bug, you name it! The card would arrive, and instead of cutting it up, as I would do these days, I used them all. At age 18 I maxed out five credit cards and after losing my office job for other reasons, I was in a position where I needed to get out of credit card debt.
I sat on that credit card debt for about three years while it destroyed my credit rating and made it near impossible for me to have a normal, good, credit adult life. Finally, after getting a decent tax refund one year, I decided to look into debt help companies. After reviewing contract after contract, and trying to determine if utilizing a debt consolidation service was appropriate for my financial freedom, I finally was able to locate a company that I thought worked well for my situation.
My decision to work with a debt consolidation company was determined through detailed reviews of how the contracts worked, which company had a great rate to work with, and if my total debt was considerable enough to work with a debt consolidation company. I wanted to be able to pay off bills faster than I would have been able to living paycheck to paycheck. The end result when using the debt consolidation company was that I paid off my credit card debt at a financial rate that worked for my specific needs at that time in my life. The contract I had was open enough so that I was able to cancel the contract, should my need for the service no longer be valid. However, I stuck by the contract, and paid off all of my credit card debt within just a few short years.
Merging my credit card debt into one consolidation plan really helped me to move forward in my adult life in a positive financial way.
I always had a way with words, written down on paper, yet to speak to another human being as if they are a human being with feelings has not always been my strong point when I am upset or annoyed. It is all too easy at times to throw the blame at someone else, specifically your partner in life, when something has not been done or maybe wasn’t done to your liking. One of the promises I made to myself for this New Year is to start being more open about my feelings, both negative and positive alike.
Working on communicating, truly speaking with someone back and forth in a real conversation about a topic that is important, is extremely difficult for me with a specific person. I find it’s easier for me to keep reminding myself of how it used to be, of things that have happened before, essentially I resort to the non-trust mode and therefore shut down completely. Shutting down isn’t going to solve any problems nor is it going to resolve the problem at hand. I realize my fault with the difficulty in communication and have resolved to work harder at letting go of the negative things I do during a conversation.
For instance, I have decided to truly let go of things people have done to hurt me in the past. I found out I was putting someone on a higher level than my own self and expecting them to live up to it. Why I was doing this, I have no clue, because I often feel I have been held to higher standards within some of my family members minds and it’s hurtful to me. I can’t believe I was doing the same thing to another person.
From now on when a problem arises or something doesn’t get done, I no longer lay blame and I no longer lash out in words or write some long email or letter to the person. I am certain to take time to cool off and once my thoughts have been collected, sit down and discuss my feelings in the best way I know how. I also take time to apologize for maybe not using the right words or the right tone in how I am speaking. I calmly address my concern, issue, problem with the other person and we attempt to have a discussion about it.
This communication gig is a work in progress but it has certainly started to make me feel more relaxed and positive about life in general and relationships. I believe everyone should take the time to communicate effectively, efficiently and politely whenever an issue comes to light. Remember, practice makes perfect or close to it
I recently watched Real Steel with my family and since then we have seen it a few more times. The kids love this movie so much that it has become my bribe to be good, clean up your mess or so forth around here. I have raved about this movie to all of my family and friends, as well as created a YouTube video the other night because I could not get it out of my head.
Real Steel releases today, January 24th, 2012 as a DVD, Blu-Ray disc or combo pack and you can see the available options on Amazon.com if you are looking to buy this fabulous family movie! Hugh Jackman, Evangeline Lilly and Dakota Goyo really did a fabulous job in this film.
Hugh Jackman is very nice on my eyes but he does a good job at ticking me off occasionally in this film with how he deals with his long lost son. The father and son duo working together to have an ending I can not share with you all, is well worth the suspense found within this movie.
Meet Atom – My personal fave robot in the movie –
More of my thoughts about Real Steel will come later in a blog post, but I had to write today to share my quick thoughts as well as a way to save money on the 3-disc Combo Pack of Real Steel —
For a limited time, Dreamworks is offering $5 OFF the purchase of the Real Steel 3-disc Combo Pack. Those interested should visit http://www.steelgetsreal.com/, and click on the offer in the upper right corner of the page. Offer ends 1/29/12.
Disclosure: I received Real Steel in DVD/Blu-Ray Combo Pack form in order to fully evaluate my thoughts and opinions on this film. All opinions and thoughts are that of my own.
