Most people don’t understand the connection between health, happiness, and work. If you constantly struggle with work/life balance, here’s how busy (but successful) people manage it, and what you can learn from them.
Consider The Fact That You Do Too Much
It seems impossible to think that we’ve burdened ourselves with too much work, or even too much pay. But, maybe your activities are overwhelming you. When you’re committed to things like school plays for your kids, PTA meetings, work, homework, glee club, and a million other things, when do you have time to just sit and stare at the sky for a moment?
Most people are at least a little afraid to be alone with their thoughts. They don’t know how to introspect. But, more importantly, they don’t want to. This creates stress — stress that won’t go away.
Maybe what you need to do is reduce the number of things you have to do, and free up your time. When everything (or mostly everything) is optional, you don’t have to worry about not doing something.
Consider What’s Right With You
Until you die, there’s more right with you than wrong. Every day, you need to stop, and take a moment to appreciate all the wonderful things in life that you have. Your health is something truly amazing. Think about it. If you’re willing to spend at least a little time taking care of your body, it rewards you with energy and vitality.
If you’re not taking care of your teeth, use CarefreeDENTAL.com to help you with that. If you’re not eating right, pick up an extra bag of veggies and fruit next time you go grocery shopping (and actually eat them this time). If you’re not working out, start by taking a 30 minute walk in the morning — every morning. Work your way up to lifting weights.
Love Yourself Unconditionally
If everyone else in your life leaves you, you’re “stuck” with yourself. You can’t get rid of yourself. So, why bother telling yourself a bunch of negative thoughts and ideas. Even if you do happen to be doing something wrong, don’t beat yourself up over it. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t acknowledge it. You should.
Let’s say, for example, you’re 40 pounds overweight. You could say, “I’m fat and lazy,” which might be true. However, you can finish that thought, “I’m fat and lazy, but I am going for a walk to day and I’m cutting calories out of my next meal.”
This does two things. First, you acknowledge and own your faults and things you don’t like about yourself. Second, you make a commitment to change those things.
Loving yourself doesn’t mean you accept the way things are right now. Sometimes, the way things are are not good. So, change them. Unless you stop breathing, you always have that choice.
Live In The Moment
People often get caught up in what they will do tomorrow or next week. What about today? You can’t live for tomorrow all the time. You do need to spend time thinking about what you will accomplish with your life immediately, right now.
If you can take a moment and live consciously — live in the moment, then you’ll do more for your mental health than most self-help or professional therapy sessions. That’s because living in the moment, and living consciously, requires the actual act of focusing on what you’re doing. You must focus on the state of your thoughts, and of your actions, and take more control over them. You’re not allowed to live “automatically.” That act of conscious thought is your self-help.
When The Tough Gets Going, Don’t Take It Personally
It’s easy to think that the world, or even the universe is against you. It isn’t. People have bad days, and sometimes bad years. When faced with a job loss, a foreclosure, or a death in the family, think about ways in which you can use this as a learning experience.
While death is never pleasant, what can it teach you about living your own life? If you’ve lost your job, it can be financially devastating, but what can you learn from it? Do you have savings to cover 6 months of expenses? If not, this is what you can learn, even if the job loss wasn’t your fault.
Being financially prepared for anything in life is a valuable lesson.
Finally, put the “being” back in “human being.” Live your life in a way that doesn’t make you a victim. Own problems and circumstances, and remember, the world isn’t out to get you. Reality exists. It just is. That’s it. You have to figure out how to make it work for you. And, when you can’t, learn to roll with the punches so you can get back up and try again. That’s what being human means.
Louise Walters is a Mom who likes her family to lead a healthy lifestyle. She enjoys yoga, trying out new recipes, and helping others to live a healthy lifestyle. See her articles around the web on lifestyle, Mom and alternative health blogs.