I still am not quite understanding how one person, and you know this happens about once a year, can make the whole blogging community go ape. As a blogger who has been writing on Happily Blended, originally Writings of a WAHM since December 2008 I have witnessed this once per year trend of some random person online putting down the whole industry of bloggers. I presume they focus on Mommy Bloggers for one of two reasons:
- They know Mommy Bloggers have influence, will be all over their negativity and respond gaining that site more traffic.
- They are just bitter people who have had a bad experience and wish to push that negativity onto anyone who will give them attention; misery loves company.
While I am allowed to feel that I have some influence some place in the world, just as you are allowed to feel you are a nobody, at no time is it okay for one human being to summarize their bad experiences into a bashing of another society, community or collective group of human beings. If there are Mommy Bloggers out there learning the industry, trying to find their place among the rest of us, and doing it their own way, who cares?! I say cheers to your success, may you find your little corner of Mommy Bloggers where you reap nothing but benefits from all of your hard work.
I do giggle a little about the term Mommy Bloggers, because damn near 99% of the bloggers I interact with, and the list is rather large, rarely refer to themselves as a Mommy Blogger anymore – that term sort of died a long time ago. Sure, there may be new Mom’s coming on board the blogging train using that term, but it’s simply a term few of those in my blogging community of friends really use. As the industry has grown so has the job titles; Positive Lifestyle Blogger, Freelance Writer, Food Blogger, Photography Blogger, Lifestyle Blogger, Blogger, Parent Blogger, etc. the list goes on and on.
Mommy Blogger is a term I see only in the posts that wish to put Mom’s down. Who gives a crap if you think another human being is doing this all wrong, who gives a crap if your life sucks so bad that you think everyone else life has to suck too. Let’s put it this way, my life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows, but overall? Yes it surely is. I like to focus on the positive and remain steadfast in my optimistic attitude that I also share online – this is who I am to my core. While some bloggers may portray themselves to be something they are not, who cares. It is none of my business what another person chooses to do, we do not dictate each others lives. Each of us is a free human being allowed to do whatever we so please just as long as we are not harming others in the process. Your feelings being hurt, is not my concern either, the only one in charge of your feelings is YOU.
Here’s the most awesome thing about being your own boss, dictating your own future and daily success – it’s your life, the keyword is YOURS, not another person’s not someone else fault. So stop pointing the finger at other people, other companies and brands to blame for your failure. Clearly when you are spending more energy degrading another person and spending your time being so completely negative it hurts, you won’t succeed. The Law of Attraction clearly states your thoughts and what you put out in the universe come back to you tenfold. This is something I firmly believe in, which is why my brain has been reprogrammed by myself to direct all thoughts back to a positive outcome. Some say that’s a fairy tale, some say I am crazy while others know that deep within my soul this is who I am and I am not harming anyone else by living my little piece of happiness in my corner of the world and internet.
If you truly want to succeed as a Mommy Blogger or an entrepreneur then the first step is to stop bashing others because in reality you are the one taking a cheap shot at others as a means to gain more traffic to your website. To me, that is the lowest form of low and I feel sorry that you are that bitter, maybe I should send you a random chip because you clearly have a chip on your shoulder. I now return back to my little corner of sunshine and rainbows.