Loving someone is something we’re destined to do as humans. We’re drawn to those who we find attractive, and we crave that bond that only being in love can give you. Loving someone isn’t easy going either. There’s many things that can go wrong with a relationship.
You’re either going to end up in love for the rest of your life, or someone is going to get hurt during a breakup. It’s a sad process that we all go through until we finally do find love for good. But some people struggle with that process of actually even finding love. Meeting the wrong people and not getting the right vibe is common for most people nowadays, simply because they’re not looking for love in the right way. Does this sound like you? Well, we’ve got some tips for you that’ll help you find love if you feel as though you’re having trouble.
Find Your Type:
Finding your type is the first step in realising what you actually want with love, and realising who you might like as a person. Everyone has a type, and there’s not actually that many ‘types’ as such that you can have. Some people like tall muscly people, others like people a little smaller and with a bit more to them. It doesn’t matter what your type is, as long as you know it’s going to make you happy and that’s what you’re attracted to. Going for someone that isn’t your type is never going to work however, it’s one of the main reasons why so many relationships fail. Because when considering what your type might be, we’re not just talking about looks, and that’s what a lot of people tend to go for.
They’re more interested in someone attractive, and they forget that their personality might be the most attractive quality about them. So what you’re left with is someone who is really good to look at, but someone that you can barely have a conversation with. So before you know it the relationship has become dry, and the end is definitely going to be in sight. But when you connect with someone who is your type on many different levels, that’s when you really find something special. So don’t always go for looks, think about the qualities and attributes that you’d like to see in someone. They shouldn’t be too much different to your own!
Look In The Right Places:
So, from one problem to another. Sometimes people just don’t know where the right places are to look, and often the won’t even be looking at all. Love will find its way to you, but only if you’re making yourself available. If you know you’re a bit of a home bird who loves to stay in and relax rather than going out, then it’s going to be pretty hard to find someone. Luckily for you, there are some ways that you can work around this. Using websites such as iMarriages will put you in the right direction. Using dating websites or apps like this allows you to connect with someone on a conversational level to begin with, and then you can slowly start meeting them as and when you feel ready.
So, it takes away that sort of awkwardness that you might have from a blind date or just a first date in general when you haven’t really spoken to them much. It gives you the chance to see if you have a connection, and if not you don’t have the awkwardness of sitting in silence wishing the night would come to an end. If you’re not into using dating websites or apps, then you need to get out there and into the real work. Go to bars, cocktail bars, clubs, events etc. to see if you can find someone that you like. It’s probably one of the best ways to find someone, but also one of the most risky. When people are out and fueled by alcohol, all a lot of people want is one thing, and that’s not what you want to give them. It’s all well and good having a talk, maybe have a drink bought for you and trying to get to know them. But try and restrain yourself from letting it go any further, it’ll either still end really well, or it could just be a drunken mistake that you’ll hate for the rest of your life.
Making Yourself More ‘Dateable’
This one sort of ties into the part of getting yourself out and about to be able to meet someone, but there’s a few more things you can do to make yourself more ‘dateable’. Firstly, focus on your personality and who you are as a person. If you’re confident and outgoing, then you need to make sure you’re not coming on too strong on a first date. Sometimes it can scare people off, and that’s the last thing that we want! Try and be reserved, but let your confident side show as well. You’ve got to get that perfect balance of not being too outgoing and making yourself seem overpowering, and not being too reserved that the other person is the one making all of the effort with the conversation.
Then, you want to make sure that you’re maintaining your appearance so you’re looking your best all the time. If you’ve been single for a while, it’s easy to lose your way a little and let things slip. But being single is the perfect time to get yourself into the best shape you’ve ever been in, and enjoy getting yourself dressed up so that you look and feel great!
The Art Of Dating:
Now, if you’ve been single for a while then you might have forgotten how to date as such. This can just lead to some of the most horrible and awkward situations in the world. So, to start off a date, you need to make sure you’re looking your best but always dress for the occasion. If your first date is the cinema, you don’t want to be turning up in a dress just to try and impress. Jeans, a nice top, and some wedge heeled boots will look just fine for anything that is more casual than drinks or a nice meal out. If you are going out out, then it’s time to dress up. You want to find an outfit that shows off your best assets of your figure. If you’re slim and curvy, rock a bodycon dress so you can really impress! If you’re more petite and have killer abs, then a skirt with a crop top and heels will be the one for you!
Dating etiquette states that the conversation should be equal. No one should be over powering, and you should try and avoid awkward silences with random questions. Even if it is the most stupid question you could ever think of, it’s better than sitting in silence. Try to get to know the person as much as you can without firing twenty questions. One final tip we have is to never assume that the person you’re dating is going to pay all of the bill. We live in a time where things are equal, and it might put you in good light if you offer to pay half, even though they’re likely to refuse the offer. Nail all of those and you’re going to be on your way to the perfect date.
We hope that by reading this we can make your quest of finding love a little bit easier. There’s someone out there for everyone, get out there and find your someone!