Date night, sounds like a crazy thing to plan when you have other demands such as children, work and life as an individual, but seriously you need to take date nights into consideration. If you are looking to have a joyful relationship that turns into marriage or are already married hoping it lasts beyond all odds then you need to make sure that date nights become a priority in your world.
My man and I met in August of 2015, we have spent nearly 8 months of loving each other’s company, working online together and being around my three children. Between both of our online work demands as well as the responsibility of three children plus each of our dogs, date nights seem to be impossible to fit in. While we haven’t joined together for the purpose of residing together, we do spend a lot of time together both working and being a couple. I get it, 8 months isn’t a long time for me to start spewing off why date night is so important for your relationship, but honestly? I feel based on the experience thus far that date night has been a proven way for us to rejuvenate and reconnect.
Being able to fully put 100% attention on just the two of us, really helps me hear him better, share more with him and in turn I just fall in love all over again when we get to reconnect over our kid-free time.
Since I believe that a relationship should be handled like a business arrangement with a bit of intimacy and fun of course, date nights just became part of our relationship duties so to speak. We have made a promise to each other that my kid-free weekends will be spent discussing our plans, goals and thoughts about our relationship. Mind you, sometimes it’s difficult for me to shut off that Mom hat and actually reconnect in the way our kid-free weekend is meant for, we always discuss how to better our relationship, our own selves and how we can work to ensure our kid-free weekends remain just that; kid free.
I have found shutting off completely from all of my regular day-to-day demands helps me appreciate myself as well as my relationship in a whole new way. This in turn, allows me to be the best possible ME I can be!
I believe that our date nights and time away from our own demands of life help us grow together because we spend that time in amazing discussions of life, opinions and other thoughts that only intrigue me to want to listen to him more. My man’s insightful thoughts, creative personality and outgoing personality that is always making others smile meshes so well with me, but we aren’t always able to be that type of couple when kids are on the scene. If I had to share a few reasons why I think date nights are important to your relationship, I would say:
- Reconnects – date nights allow you to reconnect as two people joined together for the future. A time to reconnect where you both are at with your feelings and relationship goals.
- Rejuvenates – taking time to be kid-free, letting go of all the demands life places on you and just enjoying each other’s company helps you reclaim life as partners.
- Inspires – when you set time aside as a couple it helps you to inspire each other and you may realize you fall in love all over again with your partner during date nights.
- Laughter – they say laughter is the best medicine and that’s the case with relationships too, getting away from it all and just laughing with my man helps us to lead a happier life.
Our random road trips, making each other laugh and conversations that go all over the place is what I love most about our kid-free weekends and nights we let go of all demands to reconnect sitting on the couch. Taking time for each other matters, because after your kids are grown living their own lives, you will only have your partner left to be with and wouldn’t that stink if after all those years of loving each other you realized the connection broke somewhere between raising kids and making a living? I invite you all to take time to create a special date night for you and your partner, so that you can work towards a happier future and who knows, you may even fall in love all over again!
So very true that you need time with your spouse away from others to fully connect! I remember when we finally started doing date nights and conversation seemed awkward as we tried to NOT talk about the kids.
A friend of mine is now enjoying an empty nest and reminds me all the time that the years with kids in the house are short. She’s glad she didn’t have her kids move out & then be a stranger to her spouse.
So true!! Our schedule is demanding with my wife traveling, my own travel, and three kids. We look forward to date night every time we can squeeze one in.
It’s more romantic when date night happens. Everything seems so fun and good. you can talk about everything peacefully.
We try to have regular date nights, usually once a week. It definitely helps us reconnect and feel closer to each other.
I love the ideas of date night… it’s SO important! Maybe in the future, I’ll find someone and make sure we make this happen weekly! didn’t do this the first time around and it definitely didn’t help our situation.
Great reminder!
Have a date night or really a date day once a week. My husband has Mondays off since my son is in school you take a vantage of that day and just sort of hang out together or sometimes go out to eat or to a movie.
Yes to all of this. It is very important, and my I am way over over due for a nice date night with my husband. Way over due.
Relationships are like cars, they require regular maintenance in order to keep going. Date nights are a huge part of that maintenance. Great post!
These are some really good points. We tend to go out on Fridays but it’s usually just for dinner. I’d like to start seeing shows or something!
We never go out for date night but we make a point of having a date night in once a week because it is so important, and we know that!
That’s something my hubby and I need to work on. We never get out and never able to have a lone time and it’s long overdue.
I agree! You should never let the spark go out. Always make time for each other.
Time for the adults, no matter what you call it, is definitely important to relationship and family sanity. It’s so easy to let everyday life overwhelm you.
Date nights are really important for couples and married couples. Especially those that have kids. Great post and tips for keeping the intimacy going.
I completely agree with this – it is most definitely an important part of your relationship spending quality time together. x
So true!We always try to have regular date nights and we make it at-least twice or thrice in a month!!
I am so glad to hear you have a regular date night, it is certainly an important part of continuing to date your partner – thus a stronger relationship!
I totally agree with this! Keeping the spark alive in a relationship is really important. Date nights are a must.
Date nights can totally help keep the spark going for sure! Thanks for your comment.
I agree! your points are very important for married couples.
Thank you. I appreciate your comment!
We haven’t had a date night ever since our baby was bron and she’s 10 months! We need this asap.
Oh gosh – yes a date night is a super must! 10 months is a long time, I totally get being caught up with a new baby, it happens but yes please go schedule a date night asap – you will thank me later 😉