{Personal Story of the Past} I was That Little Girl #divorce #parents #abuse

Divorce or separation hits everyone differently. This goes with death and birth. Each human being, whether grown adult or child, responds to life’s challenges quite differently. Being unique is what sets us apart from each other, yet also makes us work together very well. The story I wish to share today is from my memory banks of many moons ago.

A young girl, around age 12, was found with two parents being divorced. While this young girl could totally see that her parents were better off apart due to a multitude of reasons, she still missed her Dad terribly. This little girl was used to having her Dad be the “fun parent” and here she was with her Mother who wasn’t known as the fun parent. You see, when you are 12, the fun parent is the one who gets all the credit and love, it’s just how life for a child usually goes.

But back to my story…

The young girl felt something missing, this split family life wasn’t appealing to her but the idea of her parents being together again wasn’t any better sounding. Every other weekend with Dad and the remainder of the time was spent with her Mom or other adult family members along with her younger sister. As time went on this young girl was also made to have her younger sister go to sleep overs with her and always be by her side, essentially this young girl had to grow up faster than she could ever be ready for at age 12.

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The sadness, the frustration, the hiding in a book so that she didn’t have to face reality started to happen. Eventually this young girl started wearing provocative clothing and there was nothing anyone could do about it. Sure, the young girl got yelled at, spanked, grounded, etc but she would just run away. No one could stop her, at least that was her mindset. Except that one time when her Grandmother showed up on her boyfriends doorstep, she was about the age of 14 maybe 15 and she had run away to “live with her boyfriend”. This young girls’ grandmother was not having that and came to rescue this child from her boyfriends parent’s home.  Eventually the girl and her mother were forced to speak to each other and the Grandmother tried to get the young girl to fully see her actions as being disrespectful and not okay at her age. Sadly, this young girl didn’t really see the meaning being all of it, she, after all, knew it all. As most children think they do.

This young girl spent most of her young teenage years drinking alcohol, eventually smoking cigarettes and getting into groups of the wrong crowd. This young girl didn’t feel love for herself and she needed to feel love. The clothing she wore and the attention she sought were that of a negative nature, many men {far older than her} did take advantage of her and this led down a bad path. Saying no didn’t matter, because she wanted to feel that love. The wrong love, that us as adults knows is wrong, but children think is true love. In reality it was sexual abuse, grown men taking advantage of a broken young girl who was around age 13 – 14 at this point in time. Reaching out to men for physical loving was what brought her down a path that taught her to manipulate, use men and get what you need from them. There was a detachment within this young girl so deep that no one would be able to get through to her for many years.

Sadly, this young girl learned that love is what other people give you; be it sex, money, food, a place to live, whatever, this young girl learned that she could only feel love if she had something she wanted or needed. This young girl was damaged and hurting inside deeper than anyone realized. This young girl, aside from being emotionally damaged, did great in school. Getting honor roll and/or high honors was the norm for this girl, even during her all night out binge drinking nights, she would still get up, go to school and get good grades.

Finally this young girl became a Mom. Looking into the eyes of this sweet baby girl, made this Mom realize just who she needed to be and wanted to be for the chubby little baby she held in her arms. From that day forward this, no longer little girl, grew up. There were some bumps, it took some therapy and putting herself around positive, loving people. It took time for this Mom to forgive the mistakes others had made, to accept that other people cannot be changed unless they want to change themselves. It took a lot of writing and a lot of prayer, but this young girl grew up to be a positive influence on her children and never looked back again.

While this is a happy ending to what could have ended in teen pregnancy or far worse, STD’s, drug abuse, and more; this young girl was a fighter from day one, it just took becoming a mother as an adult to get her to realize just how much potential she had within her own self. This young girl handled the divorce of her parents differently than others may have, but in all honesty, there is a lot of young girls out there who start down this path and it doesn’t end as happily. The best thing any divorced parents can do is to be involved, to step up to parent harder, monitor your children, keep their safety and best interests at heart. Times during separation and divorce make children more vulnerable to bad people, girls do not have to walk down this path of confusion, just be there for them. Hug them. Love them. Build up their self confidence. And don’t look back…

Inspirational Sunday: Quotes About Love

Welcome to another week of Inspirational Sunday, where we all remind ourselves a new week is about to start with some positive quotes. This week I am sharing some love quotes since it is the month of February and Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. May you enjoy these love quotes, whether they make you smile or giggle, they are sure to warm your heart!

When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile. – Unknown

“A light heart lives long.” – William Shakespeare

“To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia.” – H.L. Mencken

Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end.” – Anonymous

“Love has the power of making you believe what you would normally treat with the deepest suspicion.” – Mirabeau

“Three things can’t be hidden: coughing, poverty, and love.” – Yiddish proverb

“No man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is NOT saying.” – unknown

“A lady of 47 who has been married 27 years and has six children knows what love really is and once described it for me like this: ‘Love is what you’ve been through with somebody.’” – James Thurber

“I love being married. It’s so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.” – Rita Rudner

Shopping for Bras is Difficult

I seriously have issues finding the Best bra possible for me which is why all too often I speak of having a breast reduction. Lately I have been purchasing my bras online because it’s just so much easier than heading to store that sells my bra size because usually that store is more than 45 minutes away from me.

As a person who has had three children I have the curves and all of the fun body angles, as I like to call them, that run in my family more so after you have given birth to children. It’s so difficult to remember that you are an adult now and to fall in love with your imperfections of that “had a baby” body image some woman find themselves in these days.

Seamless shape wear seems to be a good product that I have started looking into because after attending the conference I went to in June I realized many woman wear products to help keep that shape they want underneath their clothing.

Love all of the products they have these days to help woman feel better and look better to stand up more confident in their skin!

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True Love Stories

I read a blog post called An Old Fashioned Love Story today and it simply gave me goosebumps. It is funny how today many have lost touch of what true love is, we get all caught up in finances, life, raising children and other challenges life throws at us that we simply neglect each other or forget to remind our loved one the reason we fell for them in the first place. A relationship takes work, no matter how in love one can be, you need to keep that romance alive.

Romance in a relationship can be something as little as a tap on the butt while your loved one is walking by, a quick hug or even a non-hands on approach with a smile that your loved one knows and can read to be one that says “I love you” without words being spoken.

It is funny because in my mind I know all the little gestures that would keep my partner and me feeling loved but it isn’t about one person, it is about two people on the same page, providing love to one another. It is about learning your partner, finding out what it is that makes them tick and taking time every day to remind them in the right way that they are loved and appreciated.

When it comes down to it, I don’t think I ever really grew up with a true old fashioned love tale, I know my great grandparents have been married a very long time, but I do not see them often, nor did I see them often growing up. My Great Grandmother was my penpal and come to think of it I have never asked how her and my great grandpa met, ever.

Sure I have family and friends who have stayed married to the same person but I will be honest, I do not look to them as a happily married couple, although they may be happy I simply just do not feel they are a true example of an old fashion love story.

Every human being has needs, and some of us have been so lucky to find the perfect match for them where their needs are met more often than not, they are able to keep their marriage fresh, new and alive while raising children and working jobs. I can not say I envy those who do that, I can say I commend them and am proud to see a couple working hard at keeping their marriage and family going strong! I think it is amazing, it is just that I haven’t actually experienced nor seen that in my lifetime yet in person.

I am independent, outspoken and I know what makes me feel loved. I do not need another person to be in my life, I simply want to want another person in my life. It is when you no longer ‘need’ a person that you will find that one true love for you and live happily ever after like the Old Fashion Love Story I read.

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Fantasia/Fantasia 2000 is OUT on DVD & Blu-Ray

Yes you heard me right .. Fantastia/Fantasia 2000 is coming to DVD and Blu-ray today! I am so excited to share this information with you all! I will be reviewing this as soon as it arrives on my doorstep but for now here are some bonus clips for your viewing pleasure ….

Fantasia 2000 –

Rebirth of Destino (Bonus)

Walt’s Perfect World (Bonus)

Fantasia –

Walt’s Importance (Bonus)

Creating Volcanos (Bonus)

So will you be getting this four disc combo pack for someone you love this holiday season?

Stay tuned for my product review on this…

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