Many parents are out there planning things for the kids to do for their Mom this Mother’s Day as I sit here on my kid-free weekend for Mother’s Day thinking about why I don’t mind having a kid-free Mother’s Day.
Each week day I wake up, usually after sleeping through my alarm, to make sure my kids have eaten breakfast, gotten dressed and have their bags packed for school. I then make two trips out of the house within an hour of each other to ensure each set of children get to their particular school on time. I then return home to get my work done; ghostwriting, freelance blog posts, PR contacts and paid opportunity replies among still marketing myself to new prospects. After that I shut off my brain from work mode to Mama mode as I return to pick up children at their schools within half an hour of each other.
Meanwhile I am making sure to bring a little something to perk up my teen daughter, because middle school just sucks. I try my best to bring her water or a special drink along with some chocolate for her after school treat, because chocolate fixes anything. I get the boys from their school and listen as they vent about their day and discuss what happened in school. After that there are homework duties, dinner duties, making school lunch duties and the bedtime routine to end their day.
I then return to work mode to complete client work, my own blog work and pitch myself out to more people to ensure work continues in. While my first born goes to her Dad’s house two nights a week in addition to every other weekend, my sons are with me two weeks straight during the school year and when Summer comes they spend two week DAYS with their Dad as he returns them to me before he has to go this second shift job, that’s in addition to the same every other weekend as their Sister.
Life is a little bit of happy chaos, I am constantly on the run and juggling multiple duties so when Mother’s Day happens to fall upon a co-parenting weekend where the kids are with their Dads? I am okay with that. I deserve a two day break from the duties of motherhood and I am happy to have that break. Being okay with this two day break and being kid-free on Mother’s Day weekend doesn’t make me a bad Mama; it actually makes me a better Mama for when my kids return to me I will be renewed and rejuvenated to jump back into motherhood as if it were day one of this motherhood gig.
I am forever thankful for positive co-parenting and the ability to teach my kids that absence truly makes the heart grow fonder, with each day they are at their Dad’s being happy and enjoying all that Dad’s offer a child; they are able to miss their Mama and I am able to miss them which solidifies our bond as mother and child. I wouldn’t trade a thing in my life for what someone else says is the best life ever and today I am okay with having a kid-free Mother’s Day weekend for a break from motherhood is just the perfect present any parent can receive.