Learning About Myself & Others; Introvert vs Extrovert

I recently was shared an article on It’s My Life about Introvert and Extrovert. I really never gave these two words much thought before, but reading this blog post in the beginning I thought I am more of an extrovert with a bit of introvert qualities at times. Then I read more about introverts and extroverts.

Direct quote from It’s My Life {{totally me}}:

Did you know that extroverts recharge their energy by being around other people? It’s like we feed off the energy being put out. Most extroverts come home from parties buzzing and high on the collective energy they bathed in all night. Introverts on the other hand, are drained by being in public and recharge by being alone.

This may be a big reason why I love going grocery shopping and getting out to the store anytime I can to talk to other adults. I always get a buzz from simply talking to the people in the store, the cashier that waited on me, etc. The buzz from shopping interaction dims faster than that from a party or get together.

Having every area of my life revolve around kids and being inside of my house makes me feel drained. If I were to have more get togethers, friends over, etc I would feel recharged because that social interaction is what helps fuel my energy again. Right now I have noticed my positive energy is diminishing and well of course I partially blame it on my walking back into the past that always diminished my positive energy, I know that it’s because I have certain needs that need to be met. I have needs to be out there, with people, chatting, interacting face to face in order to feel something positive.

Another direct quote {{totally me}} {regarding extroverts}:

Sure, we’re loud and boisterous, but we’re still shy and insecure. We just hide behind our bravado.

This particular blog post has come to me in a time when I am faced with decisions to make again. You see I keep going back to a relationship that I probably shouldn’t be in, nor should he. I keep blaming myself for being so quick to say okay let’s come back together again.  I want to believe that it will work, however, the reason to me why this doesn’t work & drains me is because of the needs I have, as an extrovert . For me, I may find it hard to be with a person 100% like me. I think being with a person who is too close to a personality of mine will create a volatile situation, however, I do enjoy being with someone who enjoys being out and about like I do & loves to socialize. I have had great times with people who are high energy like me, but not sure if the high energy would be TOO much in my already high energy household!

I don’t know what I need in a relationship partner honestly, but I do know what I enjoy and what makes me energized … simply put it’s being able to have friends over for weekend fun. The relationship part of my life is really just a void, I have removed myself from the idea of relationships to get back to me again. Maybe this time I will stick with my gut feeling and stop worrying about hurting people’s feelings!

Gatherings or events outside of my home. Being near people as often as I can with or without kids that allows me to let my ramblings roam free out of my mouth instead of on paper all of the darn time is what I need more of to get back on balance with myself!

So …  the question is .. are you an Extrovert or an Introvert? And if you want hop on over to It’s My Life to read her post as she poses another question and interesting tidbits about this topic!

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4 comments

  1. Heather (79 comments) says:

    I read and commented on the post at It’s My Life last week (I think it was last week!) and this stuff just facinates me. I’m definately an introvert. Grocery shopping is my most hated chore…I hate being in crowded places – it makes me all anxious and jittery and yeah, I feel exhausted once it’s done. My favorite place to be is curled up under a blanket with a book. Alone.

    This doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy other people….I just enjoy them better in little bits :)

    • Shop with Me Mama (Kim) (138 comments) says:

      Ditto!!! This exactly!! But then again, I go out (when I am in the mood) and totally feed off of other people and LOVE it! So, maybe I am like you Brandy, and am a bit of both?

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