Story Telling Time: Making Memories & Building a Relationship

In mid 2015 or about there I was out there in the dating world, and by dating world I mean that I put up some online dating profiles as a means to simply see what was out there. I figured I wouldn’t meet anyone being cooped up in my home, with the trio or out at the office job and so online dating profiles just seemed to make sense. Sure there were a lot of replies, I even had some interesting conversations that don’t even need to be repeated, have you seen what these dating site members say to others? So glad that part of my life is over, because in August 2015 I met someone pretty awesome who is making memories and building a relationship with me.

It all started with a humorous message regarding height, because height in a man is very important to me as I clearly made obvious in most of my dating profiles, I don’t want to be all standing over my man, if a man is going to be with me then they must be taller than me. I really think height is a bit of a sticking point for me, and well this man is 6’6” so I think my 5’5” height and his work pretty well together! Many of our making memory moments just started by accident, and while he can recall the beginning better than me, as my memory is horrible, the day we started taking our road trips is the day we started building a stronger bond.

Every other weekend, when my children are away at their Dad’s we hop in the car, stop at Dunkin Donuts for coffee and sometimes our breakfast sandwich, pop $20 in the tank for gas and we are off. Where are we going? We don’t usually have a plan in mind. One of my favorite moments I recall vividly and that was the day that Mike drove into a parking lot, asked me to close my eyes and then he proceeded to turn the van around and around until he stopped. All the while my eyes were closed and at this point, with eyes still closed, he asked me to point in a direction. I pointed and off we went! Our road trips usually turn out this way, with one of us making a North, East, South, West or Right or Left decision and this led us into Vermont all the way to the Canadian border during our last trip!

When I think about all of the fun memories we are making both together as adults as well as with my children, I smile. I have over 100 photos that I recently organized into a file so that I can share them on Facebook, because one of the things we love to do is share our experiences, our humor and our smiles to others so that their day is made better. One example of how I witnessed Mike actually make someone else day is when we went to our local Jiffy Marty/Subway location to pick up some dinner and the girl working on the Jiffy Mart side as a cashier was washing the cooler windows. Mike, being the goofball he is, started waving as if he was washing the window too. The girl wiped the glass in one direction, Mike copied and this went on for a little bit until finally laughter ensued. Later on, when I ran into this girl outside of her work, she told me that the moment that evening of Mike just waving away all silly actually had made her night better!

That moment. That memory. Those are what we live for, to realize that we are not always going to like each other, that we are not always going to agree, and we are sure as heck not always going to speak our thoughts in ways the other understands, but at the end of the day, after all that we have been through in the last seven months; we want the same future together, we want similar things and are very aligned in this path called life. This relationship can be difficult for me at times as it is for him, my own reasons are because I am not always good with spoken word, I can write you a book on how I am feeling both good and bad, but when I go to speak those words come out all wrong every single time. This is something that I am working on but Mike understands that about me. I understand that Mike is way more in touch with his logical and reasoning skills than I am, and I understand and appreciate that about him. We learn more and grow more together every single day that we have in each others life and that is what it is all about; learning to appreciate all of the little moments that build up into a future plan that aligns with your partner! I am happy that we stick beside each other, because at the end of the day, he is the man I want to snuggle up for an end of night hug before we turn to our more comfortable positions for sleep; because all night cuddling is not as comfortable as people tell us.

Cheers to making your own story in life and building relationships, both in a marriage/dating world as well as friends – money may make the world go round, but long-lasting strong bonds with another human being is what makes that round and round all worth it!