This is a very interesting video topic that was shared on Her Channel and I just have to discuss this because I have a very strong opinion on how I will keep my kids in the loop about alcohol yet not so 100% sure on how to deal with the drug talk.
From my experience I dealt well with my father who spoke to me about drugs and alcohol from a young age. You see, I thank my Dad for this open nature, why? Because even though I did get into some fun high school night life times, I always went to my Dad to ask questions and he would tell me his full out right opinion on what this drug could do, if he felt it was healthy for me or not. My Dad was pretty straight up with me and because of that I never got into cocaine or some of the other drugs I knew were around back in the day.
Although I steered clear of most drugs, I was a BIG beer and hard liquor drinker back in the day, Jim Beam anyone? He is was my buddy when I first started drinking. I spent my first night drunk losing control of my bladder and being called “pee pants”, so really I have some majorly embarrassing stories that I can share with my children to keep them from getting too far into the situations I did. My children are not old enough to get into “what Mama did back in the day” but they do know what alcohol is, they know it is for adults and my five year old actually calls it “adult soda”. I am okay with this, because I know my children would never get into “adult soda” as they know what it is.
Curiosity is one of the main factors for teens trying out things and to me, if I am as open as my father was I really do think my children will not feel they need to “rebel” against my wishes or dabble too much into alcohol and drugs. I got a DWI at age 18 and lost my license for blowing .05 which is legal if you are 21 but not so much when you are underage. I have stories to share and I will be open & honest as well as age appropriate because that is what worked for me.
Of course, I say “that worked for me” and as I read what I am writing, clearly I made some bad choices but I do think that no matter how hard you try to parent and educate your child they will still make these mistakes on the path to adult hood and that’s okay. Children and teens need to learn there are consequences for their actions as part of the path to growing up, so I don’t think you can ever know for sure what method will work for different personality children.
I am willing to go with the open and as honest as possible without telling “too many inappropriate details” approach & hope like heck it works!
What worked for you or how do you think you will handle this talk?