I am a firm believer that no one should ever tell another parent how to raise their children! Raising children is our own personal decision and we must all do it in a way that works best for who we are as a person and a family. That being said, the biggest thing I would like to say is that no matter how you raise your child, one thing should always be consistent for every parent across the world and this my friends I call “A Parent’s Job” …
A parents job is to stand by their children, to pick them up when they fail and to be the shoulder they need when times are bad. A parents job is not to place judgment but to simply advise the child in a way that directs them in a positive way.
You can raise your child in a way that I could totally not even care for, such as spanking as a form of discipline – I honestly despise using spanking but you will never, ever see me telling another parent not to spank their child. It is not my right nor place to tell them what to do. I may explain why I personally do not spank and of course they will return to tell me why they do spank. It’s all about being friends and supporting each other.
The way you would support your friend is the same way you should support your child. Do not give your child everything they want, it’s okay for them to be mad at you sometimes, it’s okay for your child to make mistakes but what is not okay is not being their when your child needs your positive attitude and good nature to turn to when life gets them down.
So take a moment and give your child or children a big hug, always let them know you are there for them no matter what. Be the open minded person they need, but the firm parental unit they need at the same time. It is okay to hear your child out and it is okay to disagree with their opinions, but just do it in a healthy way so that they know you still love them and will be there for them.
I think that’s what I missed out on growing up, sometimes even today I feel I don’t have a shoulder to cry on, someone to turn to when times get bad … maybe I feel that way because of how I was raised, so today and everyday I make sure to take the time to be that shoulder for my children, hopefully they will know Mama will be there for them no matter what and when they are adults, just like me, they will know they can call me anytime, any day with anything and I will be there for them.
Make it a Happy Day!