You Have a Choice, Everyone Does

What frustrates me the most with human beings, mainly adults, is that as we age we start to have negative experiences, mistakes, mishaps and heartbreaks. The negative things that occur in our world can make or break us; you see we all have a choice to make each day. You can be that person who looks in the mirror and notices the stretch marks, the cellulite, and the teeth losing their shiny white appeal; or you can make a conscious decision to be that person who notices the light that shines when you smile. You can be that one person who looks in the mirror each morning and sees beauty for you have survived tragedies, you have survived the mistakes made and you have earned the right to live another day.

Each day you wake up and breathe that first breath of fresh air is another day to be thankful for. Each day you wake up and are alive, you can make a choice; to be better than yesterday, to smile over the pain, to use mistakes as a stepping stone to try harder today. You see, we all have a choice … each and every one of us can make a choice to dwindle deeper down into depression or rise above and be strong to move forward in life.

Oh you had your heart broken? Oh the bills won’t be paid, or will be paid late. Oh I really liked this person, but they hurt my feelings. Oh my kids are running crazy and being awful. Oh my world has crashed down upon me because of x,y and z that went wrong. That’s your choice, to focus on such negative things, we are free as human beings to think that way. I much prefer to see people rise above those challenges; find a creative way to work with the pain you feel. Allow yourself to realize that you deserve better, that you can do better and in order to achieve that goal all you need to do is change how you think.

The energy you put out into the world with your thoughts is what comes back to you, many will call this the Law of Attraction or Karma, which is perfectly fine, you have a choice to call this scenario what you wish. Just call it something and notice it, recall what happens when you wake up grumpy and continually focus on that negative that has been bestowed in your life. I bet not a whole lot good comes into play and you may even start to get sick; I have found negative people are sick more often than positive people, so why would one put themselves into this downward spiral?

Great question! For some, they lack the environment that allows them the creative mindset to climb out of the downward spiral, hop off that pity train and hop onto the positive train. Surrounding yourself with uplifting, positive thinking, creative mindset people will change your world completely! I always tell people that you have a choice in life, you can certainly spend your days alone and negative, never wanting to be better, never wishing for change and just be miserable with your own self, but I promise you that if you continue to live that life; not much happiness will be bestowed upon you.

We all have our baggage and lost loves as well as challenges that make us wonder how we will ever climb back up from here. I am extremely positive and optimistic in life, but even I am guilty of having those down moments; look at me a single Mom of three and divorced – many will view that lifestyle as a failure. What I see is three happy children, because their parents are happy! When you are happy, the world around you is a happier place. When you start to realize that YES you deserve this, things start to go your way.

I get laughed at sometimes because I firmly believe that everything will work out for me, I believe the same for my children. Because of this all knowing power of confidence in life going my way, things eventually pan out and get to a place where I can smile. I did it. I succeeded. Are there moments in my past I wish I could go back and change my decisions on? Maybe. Sure. Don’t we all sometimes have that small glimpse of our past where maybe if we had taken a different path, today would be different? Well I say today can be different; today is the day to make the decision to go a different path. I don’t care if what happened in your world to knock you down happened 10 years ago, I don’t care if it happened yesterday …. You have a choice. The joy of being a human being is that freedom of choice, the ability to say I AM BETTER THAN THIS, I WILL SUCCEED!

I invite you to take a deep look within yourself today, look in the mirror, and notice the things you love about yourself. Maybe it is that one freckle just below your left eye, maybe it is your wonderful smile, maybe you never drank coffee, smoked cigarettes and have the whitest teeth in the world; whatever it is that you can see about yourself that shines? Focus on it. That is step one … we will discuss more about step two later, but for today; I ask you this – what can you do to make today a better, more positive day for yourself and those around you? I promise if you live each day like this, eventually you will have good things come your way. You reap what you sow.