Positive Term: Co-Parenting
Growing up my parents divorced somewhere around the time I was 9 or 10, and…
In recent news I read an article online that discussed a boy who was being bullied due to bringing a My Little Pony lunchbox into school. Apparently, due to the theme of My Little Pony seeming more feminine than masculine this young boy was being picked on about his choice in cartoon character lunch box. I am all for boys being masculine and girls being feminine. Totally, 100%. With that being said, we all can like similar cartoons or shows that appear to push to be liked by one gender over the other. I know many shows I watch are geared towards men, but I enjoy them just as much as the next male in our society would. There is nothing wrong with that.
We are raising our children to be judgmental and rude.
There is something wrong with that.
The part of the lunch box story that really struck a cord was that the school system denied the boy from using this lunchbox any longer, citing he had to bring a different lunchbox because this one was causing too much of a ruckus. Rather than dealing with the children who were picking on the boy, they decided to shun the boy for his choice of a lunchbox. I could see if this was deemed inappropriate content for a school, but I am pretty sure My Little Pony; a cartoon that promotes friendship, doesn’t fall into the inappropriate category. The children who were picking on this boy got a message sent to them immediately upon hearing this boy was having his lunchbox banned, the kids heard, “we can be in control of our elders and our peers”.
What is wrong is that our school systems appear to be sending the message to children that they can rule the world if only they be cruel & mean.
We need to be raising our children to accept and embrace our differences, this is what makes us a unique society to live in.
A more recent article that popped up on my feed was about a young girl who shaved her head in support for a friend who is battling cancer. The school banned the 9 year old girl from attending school because their policy cites that the child must have a wig or her natural hair grown back. That is their policy. Of course, the girl was able to return because this story got enough media coverage, but again, what in the world is wrong with our school systems?!
We ban a child, a girl child, who I am sure didn’t think that shaving her head in support of a friend battling cancer would cause such a ruckus. We send the message that “supporting our friends isn’t acceptable in schools”. It seems the more I read, the more frustrated or flabbergasted I get with society today.
Are we not to raise our children with the heart of one who supports their friends in times of need?
Why are so many suppressing these young children? It is wrong. On so many levels.
Why am I so upset about both of these stories? I will tell you why ….
As a Mom who recently found out her middle child is autistic, I have zero tolerance for people teaching children to not be accepting of those who are different. In reality, we all are different. Do you not agree? While I knew my son may be autistic, having a professional psychiatrist evaluate him and provide that diagnosis allowed our family more fighting tools and resources for our son. Based on our experiences as a family and individuals we are a united family of people who will support others, people who have compassion for those who may be different, people who have what I consider wonderful people skills.
We are a family who believes in having good morals, in giving to thy neighbor when thy can. We are a family who believes that we do not say mean things to those who we just don’t really like for whatever reason. We are a family that accepts others have dreams, goals and beliefs that we may not understand nor believe in. We wouldn’t ever make another human being feel like dirt, at least not on purpose.
Society has started to show a trend, specifically in the public school systems, that our children are not to be taught to live outside of the normal mold of what a child should be. Society has started to teach children it’s okay to hide who you really are, because we don’t want to work to teach bullies or mean children how to behave properly. After all, most of our society is built up of higher end people who are bullies. Who have learned that the meaner and more intimidating they get, the more they succeed.
That is wrong. On so many levels.
Let us teach our children to be different, to be who they are. Let us teach our children that intimidation isn’t going to break us. Let us teach our children to accept those who are different. Let us teach our children to have an open mind, a big heart and compassion for others. Let us teach our children that a school system cannot shun us for our choice in lunch boxes or our decision to shave our head to support a fellow friend battling a hefty disease. Let us show that kindness rules the Earth, not intimidation tactics.
Haven’t read the stories I referenced?
Click here to read about the boy and his lunchbox.
Click here to read about the girl and her shaved head.
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