I Met My Love Online: Crystal and David’s Love Story
Today I am sharing a lovely story of two people who met on AOL personals,…
On July 1st my boyfriend and I combined families into a new home, while his kids live with their mother for residential purposes they are with us three weekends a month so we still needed to be sure to address how we would parent five children together; his and mine. Communication is one of the most important factors when you are working to blend two families together and is an important part of a healthy relationship. Both my boyfriend and I were acutely aware that we needed to find a middle ground to parent our five children together.
I have parented my children with a positive parenting approach all of their lives so they are used to my rules, and while I am pretty much a big kid and very lenient there are some things that are simply important in keeping that parental boundary up with your children. My boyfriend wanted to be both the parent and friend all of his children’s lives but struggled with finding the happy medium that I had found as a parent wanting the same result. This alone is why we work so well together, he can see how I approach situations and set rules makes sense; I am all about give and take, teaching kids respect, trust and allowing kids to have an open forum in my home. I would much prefer to have built a strong relationship with my kids so that in the future when big deal issues arise they will not be afraid to turn to me for answers, advice and support.
Prior to moving in together my boyfriend and I came to a middle ground with parenting, the issue is that his kids are not used to many rules. It’s been a difficult transition as we when discussed how we would do things it involved poster board in a common family area in our new house with lists of house rules, and we have yet to create this poster board. We have yet, in two weeks, to been able to sit down and truly implement how we planned to parent our children together in this home as a family unit, but are going to take time this coming weekend to really get implementation started.
Here are some ideas we have put together to keep a happy, healthy home with boundaries, happy kids and teach our kids responsibility as well as consequences;
You see, my boyfriend’s children are amazing kids but they really have been raised differently and like most co-parenting children each home is slightly different or extremely different. While it’s recommended that co-parents work together to establish similar parenting rules across households to alleviate transitional issues with the kids it’s not always how life works. This is our way of working together to implement structure ito our home so that we can all love each other as a new formed family unit, and help make transitions from one parents house to ours slightly easier.