You were in the middle of trying to have a serious conversation with your partner and they couldn’t stop interrupting and talking about themselves. “I need to look up ball on side of foot,” they said – completely ignoring what you were trying to talk to them about. Unfortunately, this could be a sign your partner is emotionally immature.
If you’re not sure, here are another 5 signs your partner is emotionally immature. Let’s dive in!
1. Selfish With Most Things
While selfishness isn’t always a bad thing, there is a limit when it comes to it. You can be selfish with wanting to make sure you have enough time to do what makes you feel the best. However, in a relationship, there should be a healthy balance. You can be selfless and still respect you and your partner’s boundaries. Yet, if your partner seems to never budge or frequently makes them the center of attention – this might be a sign they’re emotionally immature.
2. Unable to Have Deep Conversations
Do you feel as though most of the conversations with your partner aren’t that serious or involve a lot of small talk? This might be a sign they don’t have the same emotional depth as you do. In order to be emotionally mature, you have to allow yourself to self-reflect and view the world on a deeper level. If you find that your partner gets bored or frustrated when you try to have more meaningful conversations, it could indicate they just don’t have the emotional maturity to do so.
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3. Have Frequent Mood Swings
Part of being emotionally mature is the ability to manage your emotions. If your partner seems to have trouble navigating and controlling their emotions, it probably means that they’re emotionally immature. Emotionally immature partners often behave like children in a lot of ways – frequent tantrums and outbursts. Frequent mood swings are a hallmark trait of someone who is emotionally immature. If you notice this in your partner, it might be time to leave the relationship as this also has the potential to turn physically or emotionally abusive.
4. Never Hold Themselves Accountable
Emotionally immature people rarely hold themselves accountable. In order to hold yourself accountable for any wrongdoing, you have to be somewhat self-aware. You have to put your feelings aside and take a deeper look into how you might have caused conflict. Unfortunately, emotionally immature partners don’t have the ability to practice self-awareness. In turn, this often means they never learn from their actions – as they don’t ever view any wrongdoing on their part.
5. Invalidate Your Feelings
We all have feelings, whether they’re logical or not. In fact, most feelings aren’t logical, but that doesn’t make them any less real. Emotionally mature partners know this and they show compassion and understanding when you express how something made you feel. On the other hand, emotionally immature partners tend to invalidate your feelings. Since they aren’t able to fully understand your perspective, they often tell you that you shouldn’t feel a certain way. They feel uncomfortable with other people’s emotions, as they don’t know how to handle them. How could they when they don’t even know how to manage their own emotions?