7 Months of Feeding off Energy

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March 20, 2016 marks the seven month anniversary of being with a man who treats me with respect, encourages my business & individual growth, holds doors for me and takes me out on dates. To this day we have encountered many bumps along the path of our road to being a couple, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. We are two people feeding off energy of each other, living life fully and building each of our own selves up to the best possible person for each other and our own individual self.

The mindset of “tomorrow is another day” is the biggest factor in what keeps us ticking and chugging forward, we may get into a little bicker one day and then the next day, with a clear mind, we discuss it as a means to clear the air and make room for a new day. Because I feed off other people’s energy I must ensure that the man I am with has a good energy about him and while it was difficult at first to see through the rough exterior of my man, as time continues on, I see that his rough exterior is not as rough as I initially thought.

This man has not only stood by my side {both virtually & in person} to assist in my business venture online, but also he encourages me to be the strong Mom I need to be for my children. We share similar morals, beliefs and future goals which is a huge part of why our bumps along the road keep us coming back to each other to grow, learn and further our relationship. Feeding off energy of others is something that has affected me my whole adult life, if I am around negative energy or people who refuse to grow each day, it ruins my personality and in turn I lose all of who I am. Upon many discussions during our road trippin’ adventures my man and I have learned a lot of each other.

I know what he enjoys, I know what he doesn’t enjoy and vice versa. In the last 7 months we have gone through so many things and while you won’t be reading on the specifics, it really has strengthened our bond as a couple. He is the realistic, down to Earth person who doesn’t allow emotions to run his world while I tend to run free with emotions. I used to get all defensive telling him that I like being emotional, I enjoy that I am a female and tend to run with emotions. While I can enjoy being a female with emotions and he respects that, I totally get how allowing emotions to take the wheel doesn’t leave room for the ability to step back and have an amicable discussion about whatever scenario just went down. We had a huge discussion and continue to do so in regards to emotions and since then I have found many “feeding off energy” of other people’s quotes online that simply put say:

If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. -Daniel Goleman

Part of our discussions always stem from a place of wanting each other to grow as a better, stronger individual. My man always says that if he can change for the better or I can change for the better, then we are only making our own self changed in ways that not only help our relationship but if this relationship doesn’t last, we can walk away from it being better individuals. While I don’t like his realistic approach to our relationship, the mentioning of if it doesn’t work, he has a point. No one knows what tomorrow has in store, and so we simply wake up each day learning to feed off energy of each other in a way that benefits our individual spirit as well as our relationship for future growth in all areas of life.

I can say one thing is for sure, I feel truly blessed to have this man in my life, be it growing old together or drifting our separate ways; I know that feeding off energy of him has only allowed me to work on strengthening myself as a woman, as a partner, as an entrepreneur and as a mom. I look forward to seeing what the next seven months brings us but for now, I am off to enjoy this fine day with my family and look forward to the next weekend I spend with my man riding along in the passenger seat for destination unknown road trip!