One thing I have worked hard to do in my life is to stay true to myself. I know what I need and what I don’t need, and I have to work to keep that. You see, sometimes I get lost among the desire of having others be pleased, having others be proud of me; you know how that can go. After a while of realizing that I am working to please others, find gratification from others, and not my own self, I step out of that path and start fighting for what I need.
I have found that I am always successful in life when I follow my heart, my instincts and what I know to work well for me. You see, I started working full time and for some reason that was taking away from the balance. I was more broke working full time than I was working part time plus my business from home. I couldn’t comprehend it. That made zero sense, yet each day I woke up and did my eight hour shift, came home and was so utterly drained both financially and emotionally that I could barely focus on any business.
My blog has decreased in traffic. My mind wasn’t able to think straight. I felt like I was slowly losing myself and to boot, if I kept going that route, I would sink financially. No freaking way! I had to make change. I went to Dollar General with the family and purchased a wall hanging that says, “be the change you want to see” and hung it in my bathroom. This is a place where I can see the sign each day. Finally, after nearly sinking into depression again, I spoke with my boss. I had to let him know that full time just wasn’t working for me. I need balance. Daycare is way too expensive and I had less money working eight hour days.
After looking at my business income, I realized the amount I was making working eight hours days was not even making even from what I ultimately lost during that time from my business. Now I know speaking to my boss was risky, you know, he could have said nope sorry you have to stay full time. He could have said nope sorry you have to leave. It could have gone in so many directions, but I found my confidence and knew I had to be honest. One thing I have learned in life is being honest to who you are and what works for you, usually pays off.
The conversation went relatively well and now I am back to working part time as admin assistant again; my day is balanced well between the admin work for a steady biweekly paycheck, the at-home business getting built up again and raising my kids. I started today for the first day of part time and I am looking forward to positively changing my future; as I always do. The person I am requires a balance, without balance I start going back downhill. I refuse to let myself sink downhill, I must keep climbing up while I work on creating my own little success story for all to hear.
Here’s to you standing firm and being honest with your own inner self, no matter the situation!
27 thoughts on “Stay True to Yourself – Be Honest with Everyone”
Good for you for recognizing that the full time job wasn’t working for you. So many people aren’t as lucky as you to have such an understanding employer and end up stuck in a rut for a really long time.
Being true to yourself is important. So is honesty. If you don’t have those two, your entire life is basically a lie.
Always be true to who you are! It is the easiest and most honest.People will always love you for who you are.
I agree – people will always have more respect and admiration for you when you stay true to yourself!
It’s tough to find the right job and the right path with all things… sounds like you are heading towards figuring it all out and being true to you in the process.
It really is not so tough in my mind, but reality is the work at home pay is net 30, net 60 or net 90 which is not easy to budget on right now while raising 3 kids in a single parent household so I need that extra steady paycheck in addition to the at-home payouts.
Love this! You have to stay true to you to take care of you! Great reminder!
The older I get, the truer this is. I applaud you standing up to your boss!
Thank you Kelly. It was easy to talk to him, because from day one I have prided myself in being as honest as I can be in a working environment and I knew I had to speak up with what was going on rather than sink into a deeper whole of sadness. I love that as I get older, I get more confident in my own needs.
I think being true to yourself and living an authentic life is the only life to live.
Sometimes it is hard to be true to yourself. I’m finding that it gets a bit easier with age.
You definitely have to do what makes you happy in life. Being true yourself is one the more important things in life.
I’m glad you were able to find a balance between both sources of income. I hope both are fulfilling for you!
Life is to short to not be happy. We need to be true to ourselves and follow our dreams.
Thanks for the comment! I agree, when we follow our instincts and dreams? We always will succeed an be at our best.
We can not expect someone else to make us happy if we are not happy with ourselves. I like the wall hanging you put in the bathroom. I love shopping at the Dollar General.
Dollar General is awesome and the wall hanging was only $1. Yet that $1 wall hanging has inspired me to keep moving forward towards what is important to me.
This is important to teach our children. I find as i am getting older i am gaining confidence in myself.
I am working to get my confidence back, it keeps getting lost, just slightly along the curved road of life – but I work hard to get it back which shows the kids that we never give up – no matter what life tosses at us.
That is such a hard lesson to learn, but one that we all need to learn regardless!
It is so easy to get discouraged, but it is always a great idea to stay true to ourselves… Great post. Thanks for the reminder
I love this post. It is always important to stay true to yourself and make sure you are happy.
I am glad you got things balanced. It can be so hard to figure out the balance and being able to decide what is best.
This is SO important to share. I’m glad you’ve reconnected back with yourself and are keeping the true you at the forefront. Such an important reminder that I needed today – thank you!
I hope it helps you and that right there, is why I continue to write and be honest – to hopefully help others in some small way! I do hope today is awesome for you!
That is so true. It is so important to be real with yourself and to follow your heart
Sometimes people look at me like I am insane, because I always go with what is best for me. It may make zero sense to anyone else, but I have found success in being that way.