The biggest question I have received, when helping others through tough times, is “how can you be this happy and positive after all that you have been through?”
For me, the answer is simple … “because I believe each experience was something for me to learn from and I have so much to live for and be happy for”. Honestly, it wasn’t always easy to feel fully happy and positive, at first it was about faking it on the outside, I would appear happy and positive to everyone. Many tell me I was always a happy little girl, but I don’t remember that little girl. My memory tells of a different girl and a different childhood, one in which few know all of the details about.
I have shared bits and pieces of those mistakes with others privately as a means to help them through tough times that I could relate to. I have shared my story only when necessary and at age appropriate levels to various poeople through out the years to show that no matter what happens to try to break us, we have one simple choice:
To rise above and live life or to let that situation destroy our ability to live.
I believe in living life to the fullest, I lead a lifestyle that allows me to be open minded, thoughtful and often times overly courtesy of others. Who I am today started with a faked happiness, an external smile that slowly progressed into a deep love and happiness with who I am. I thank my first born child for giving me the strength and desire to become a complete human being without any regrets. Sure, I’ve made mistakes I am sorry for, I have hurt people and I haven’t always made the right decisions, but I can say I’ve learned from those mistakes and for that, I am full inside. My soul feels complete, which is what continues to allow me to help others. I know in my heart that everyone can be as complete as I am today, no matter what they have been through.
My advice to others who want to know how I am happy today after all I’ve been through in years past is this:
I chose life. I found my deep happiness in letting go of everyone else, I make a choice to be in control of my own feelings. No other person can dictate my happy and neither should they dictate yours.
I agree that no one can dictate our happiness. I like that you share your experiences with others when you have that instinct that your words will help. That is very generous to do.