Relationships are Hard, But

So many have told me “relationships are hard” or “blending a family is hard” and I couldn’t agree more, I totally understand that relationships or blending two families into one are no easy tasks. I totally agree and comprehend that you have to have two hard working partners in order for a relationship or a blended family to work. I get that, deep within my whole being, I comprehend the depth of strength and work it takes to hold any family or relationship together.

The issue I do have, is that two people who have a relationship whether with or without children, who made an agreement on how to handle certain things or need to adjust as time goes on must do so together. A relationship isn’t going to grow stronger when one person is handed off all of the dead weight, issues and scenarios that go on in life. In my opinion, being in a relationship means that two people are giving their 100% each into this thing called love. I firmly believe in giving your all into things, but what if you find out your partner is giving their all but it’s simply not enough or the right method for who are you?

Well then, you have to do some hard thinking and be aware of what’s going on, open up communication with your concerns. I personally feel it is always best to discuss your concerns with your partner, come at them with your concerns in a non-judgmental pointing-fingers sort of way and see where that conversation leads. Sometimes one partner may not realize they are not giving their all in the way you need, they only will realize this if you speak up. Other times, your partner may try to be what you need them to be, but they simply are not that person. Both outcomes are okay, but one leads down a path of splitting up while the other could lead down a path of building the bond.

When kids are involved it gets even hard, is the partner the person who bore children with? Is this partner not the parent of the children you bore? Who and what is involved in the splitting up of a union between two adults with or without children? There are many things to think about as to how to proceed, but there is also little to think about: your gut instinct.

One must always remember to be true to their own self and go with their gut instincts, being aware of your intuitive nature inside of your own soul will really help you to make a decision that has you rested and in a place of peace. Sometimes praying can help, and letting go to follow His word to you, but really it comes down to whatever method works for you to sit down, relax and come to a final resting place that has a peace about you deep within your heart.

Once that feeling is there, you are secure with it, then go with it. Follow that feeling because your gut will never steer you wrong. Ever. Sure others around you may whisper, judge or question what in the world you are doing, but you have to grow a thick skin and remember this is your life that you must live to the fullest. Do not waste a day in a situation that you just are not feeling is the right fit for you, you deserve to always lead a life that makes you feel whole.