There is this unwritten law between girls called Girl Code, have you heard of it? Urban Dictionary defines Girl Code as; “The code of guidelines that are {all} girls most obey in order not to get kicked out of the community.” So what is this girl code & is it different for every clique?
For me I have my own set of girl code rules to abide by and I have let them be more of a basis of my moral character than a code between girls. To me, there are just certain things friends do not do to each other, that is unless they have no soul, no morals and are truly a bad person. Mistakes are mistakes, we all make them but I am not talking about a random mistake, I am talking about real best friend girl code!
Here are some of the girl code rules I have lived by and/or found others live by:
- When attending a girls night out, do not invite your boyfriend, husband or brother, it is a girls night out only.
- You are never in any case to date a friends ex, a guy who she was really into, or her child(ren) father.
- You are never in any case to have sex with a friends ex, a guy who she was really into, or her child(ren) father.
- A girl should never chase a man, let him chase you and show you how much he wants you.
- Always stick up for your friend, even if someone else is sharing valid points of a bad character flaw of your friend.
- If you want to date a friends brother, you must get your friends permission before doing so.
I am curious where all this girl code came from, seems to me they are pretty simple, easy to live by rules, specifically about dating situations. I mean, honestly, I could not get serious with a friends ex. When a person gets serious or even just dates a friends ex, it causes bad complications in their friendship. This friend will no longer be trusted and the situation could in fact destroy a friendship, thus leaving the person who dated an ex alone when the friends ex dumps her down the road.
To me, girl code is simply another way to help spread good morals and a common respect among friends!
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Love it. I am also giggling to myself quietly over some of them. I feel the same exact way! And to me it’s common sense.
I definitely agree with most of it, but it so happens that several of these have happened to me and I have had the misfortune of done a few of them myself. The ones done to me never bothered me as I was not really into the guy. The ones I broke, tended to be more complicated than I can mention, but we ended up looking past it and stayed friends. Plus we realized we were better off without that guy in our lives.