Although I am a happy type of person and usually do not get stressed out there are times when I can feel my blood pressure boiling and my heart racing. These times usually involve a situation with my four year old. My four year old has been the first child I can’t successfully figure out, it’s always another challenge with him. What gets me flustered is the aggression all day long, not every day but when he wakes up in a “mood” chances are that “mood” will be an all day thing.
One thing I have noticed is that children feed off of our energy, so if we both wake up with some bad energy then that bad energy consumes us and it’s so hard to fight back to become positive again. When you want to remove bad energy and consume yourself with good energy it takes so much strength and will power as well as a GOOD focus to TRULY want this good energy to prevail.
I am capable of doing this, but on days when I am at a cup full of drama with kids, I can tell you it is difficult, as I am sure it is with you at times too. This is just a few things I do to keep my mind at ease, return back to a calm place and deal with the situation properly, with little to no conflict;
- Close your eyes.
- Take a few deep, deep breaths.
- Relax your body and mind.
- Think about what you want to accomplish.
- Take a few more deep, deep breaths.
- Open your eyes.
- Handle the situation with this new found calm, good energy.
For some of you I bet this sounds silly, how can your mind really change that fast? Well I can’t say it will for all of you but for a person who is good at training their mind to react properly to a situation in a positive way then this should be an easy thing to work on. I know this works for me 9 out of 10 ten times. All I have to do is remember that my children feed off of my energy so if I do not get my mind back to a peaceful place then all drama and bad energy will consume the household for the remainder of the day, leaving us all exhausted beyond belief.
What do you do to remain calm or return to a calm state during a stressful situation?
For me, nothing works but a nap! You’re so right about kids feeding off our energy!
I learned the hard way a few years ago. We were under a tornado warning with a possible tornado headed our way and I started to freak out which lead to Zander freaking out. Since then I’ve worked hard at keeping my actions and voice calm when there is a tornado warning which has curbed the freak outs.
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I have to take a deep breath, and I’ve just learned to redirect a little bit. The kids have to say, “yes mommy” instead of arguing and I quietly repeat it until they follow the directions. It helps me a lot