We all have decisions to make in life, whether we choose to involve drugs and alcohol in our lives, or spank our children, or have a drivers license. Every single thing we do in life requires the process of thought and action. This is true with friendship, relationships and parenting or any area of life really.
As a friend you can watch as another person self destructs, destroys other people’s lives or suffers from issues either past or present. Sitting back and watching is so much easier than admitting to yourself that maybe you should step up and do something to help that friend. It doesn’t matter if you are talking about a serious issue or a mild issue, friends are there to tell you how it is and give you an outside view on your life, even if you do not wish to hear it.
As a partner in a relationship you can sit back and allow your partner to slack off and make excuses for the things they do in life or you can step up and show you care by saying something. To be honest, this partner may not feel you are being very kind to them and they may get hurt by the things you say to them, put it this way … the truth hurts. Although who are you to tell this person a truth?! When you think about it, are you really the bearer of a truth for another human being? All you are is a partner providing an opinion of a situation you have watched over for a specific period of time and made the choice to step up and say something about the circumstances.
As a parent, you can sit back and allow excuses to rule your child’s life or you can hold your child accountable for their actions. It is often all too easy to fall into the trap of allowing excuses to work for your own or your child’s behavior, after all taking blame is hard for an adult to do so really you are going to have to teach your child this skill of taking blame and accepting the consequences for their actions.
It is hard to take action and assist, especially because most of the situations in life that may require a little assistance, helpful hand or piece of your mind are going to be challenging situations. The person may not want to hear what you have to say, the person may get hurt, the person may feel anger towards you, confusion, etc. There is a lot of emotions behind trying to help another person in their life, but if you are strong and keep positive, do not let their hurtful words bring you down, then you and your child, friend or partner will be overjoyed at the results that come from you taking action and assisting.
Keep your head up everyone! Life can only be lived one day at a time, try not to look too far ahead and look back just far enough to learn never to make the same mistake twice. Live for today, hope for tomorrow and remember yesterday vividly.