I will admit I am a firm believer that you always work as hard as you possibly can on anything in your life before giving up, this holds true for relationships as well. I am a firm believer that you are to work hard to keep a marriage long lasting and happy. This is not to say that a relationship will always be happy, in my opinion a relationship where two people never disagree in a healthy way would be boring. I like to have a little bit of everything in my life and that goes for the perfect relationship for me as well. I enjoy healthy debates, passion and a mutual respect with a person I am with.
Communication and trust are the two biggest factors in my opinion when it comes to a long lasting relationship and next of course is affection, but that may not be the case for everyone, it’s up to you to know what makes you feel loved and then you need to be sure that you find that person who can give you what you need to feel loved and you can return that to them by doing whatever it is that makes them feel loved.
Many times people will stay in a relationship because of the children, it’s like somewhere along the lines we were told that it’s unacceptable for children to live in a blended home life situation. In my personal opinion I was always the strongest and happiest being a single mother to my daughter, it was right for me and it made her a happier, more stable child due to her parents being able to realize & accept they couldn’t be together. That is the case for most children and family’s.
Even if you think you are doing the right thing by staying in a dead relationship for the “children’s sake” it may not really be what’s best for them nor yourself. I am a firm believer that everyone should live their life based on what they believe in and if you live your life based on what makes you happier then everyone around you will be happier because when a person is at their best and their happy with their life choices it is seen in the way they work, the way they walk & talk and there’s just a radiance that comes off of a person who is living their best life.
I often will get that from others, it’s like they can see I am just living my life the best I can, the best I know how and living it happily. Due to the way I live my life to be happier I have found I am a stronger person, my children are happier and starting to behave so much better and it’s like we just flow together now in our life and I love this feeling!
So no matter what you are struggling with right now at this moment in your life, remember there is no one but YOU who can make YOU at your best and at your happiest, so live for whatever it is that makes you happy because if you can do that you will be amazed at all the good that comes into your life!