I am a firm believer that actions speak louder than words. It is all too easy to say words, and for me it’s easy to write words, however, actions are what truly show how you are feeling towards a person. Involuntary body gestures show exactly what a person may be thinking or feeling towards you. In my own opinion if a person tells me that they are in love with me, then they would show this through affection, attention, support and little moments.
I recently read an article that reminded me of the characteristics I have displayed in my dating life, jumping into a committed relationship before I truly knew this man was the man for me. In my past I always went for the person who showed me the most physical attention, such as hugging, kissing and holding hands but as I got older and of course became a mother I started looking for a “safe” person, a person who would be able to stick with me long term, a person I could trust my heart with because after many bad relationships I wanted something “safe and content”. Of course, making this decision wasn’t the best decision I ever made, because obviously you can imagine where this relationship stands now.
To me a relationship is not all about intimacy nor is it all about gifts, to me a relationship is about a blend of romance, affection, gestures and love notes. I am not big on gift giving, I think gifts are wonderful but the thing that hits my heart fastest is a hand picked wild flower bouquet, I mean really that costs no money but it’s the right way to my heart! After reviewing many of my own and friends relationships I am able to visualize whether they will be able to last long term, and I have been right about 90% of the time. Why was I right that often? Well I have always been better at giving advice than taking my own.
I simply evaluate the couple in a way that determines ratings such as 1) Completely Sexual Relationship 2) Comfortable/Content Relationship 3) The Perfect Blend. As you can imagine rating number three is the one who would be determined to last long term, but ratings one and two are not going to last and if they do, the couple will face issues or find themselves not living their life’s purpose.
I have been known to have one of each of these relationships a few times in the past and well I ended up having kids with relationships that were not in the # 3 category. So my question is, do we stick with a content relationship for the sake of our children? To be continued ….