One thing I have noticed as a pattern with many woman, myself included, is that they get comfortable in their marriages or relationships and allow one person to dominate the financial support of the household. As a married mother of three, my husband and I decided that I would be the stay at home mom and that he would be the primary financial support system for the household. This was a great setup, but then one day simply being a “stay at home mom” wasn’t enough for me, the workaholic in me needed more, my independent attitude needed more.
I set out on a venture to become a blogger as a way to share my story, thoughts and ideas with the world. I then started my own virtual assistant business out of the blue because I was done with direct sales and never knowing what my next commission check would be. I wanted financial freedom from my husband, I wanted to know that if all went to heck in our marriage that I could survive financially without him. Little did I know that shortly after starting my business, my son would require all sorts of tests, extra attention and a very strict routine. My son’s problems certainly were brought to the front burner and placed as number one concern before anything else in my life at that time and I allowed my husband to yet again become the main financial support unit in our family.
No matter what my days bring, I know that I want to be financially free from my husband. Don’t get me wrong, I do love my husband, after all he gave me two wonderful sons and he supports my every venture, however, we are and have had some issues and I am not so blinded by our marriage to think that forever is such a term. As much as one wishes a relationship can be forever, truth is you never know.
All a person can do in love, life and business is stay focus, determined and keep that motivation you had before the stress of life took over! I am keeping my motivation alive, even through these depressing times of my life, I am determined to be financially free of my husband so that I can then make an emotional decision on how we can move forward in a positive direction in our relationship.
No matter how “comfortable” you get in life and love please be sure that you never give up your dreams, your goals and your aspirations. No dream is too big … no goal too little … remember that only YOU can change your life, business and relationships for the better!
Make it a Happy Day!