I have to tune in another day I believe for a special but my local news station mentioned Monday night that Facebook is being blamed for one local couples marriage failing. Okay, I have to put my two cents in here … normally I stay out of other peoples business and opinions but I feel very strongly that if something fails or you fail there is no one to blame but the one or two people involved. In this case it’s the couple …
Okay so I don’t know the whole story on this particular couple, this write up is strictly based on the two second clip I saw on the television that clearly made it sound like the wife is blaming Facebook for her husband’s cheating or leaving her.
First off, if your spouse is on a social networking site and connects with another person in that way then you have more issues in your relationship than the fact that he was on the site in the first place. I use Facebook daily, I love Facebook and I am going through a separation with my husband, so is it okay for him to say Facebook is tempting me to go find someone else?! I mean really? If my husband said that I would laugh my butt off, because reality is a marriage has it’s ups and downs, a marriage just like any serious relationship takes work … hard work and sometimes it turns out that the two people simply just can no longer work together in the marriage.
Facebook or any other social networking site can not be the one to blame when a physical person starts to cheat virtually, in real life, whatever … the “person” is the one who decided to cheat. If a married person is truly happy in their relationship then they wouldn’t be open to such tempations is my opinion and if the temptation arose then they could completely avoid it.
I talk to both male and females on Facebook, before Facebook I was on MySpace which is actually where my husband and I started to talk. My husband has not once had a trust issue with me using any social networking site, nor would he ever “hack” into my account to see what I am up to. I am also pretty certain that even if I did find someone on a social networking site and that was the reason behind our separation that he wouldn’t blame the website, he would blame ME or blame himself, depending upon how he took it. I know if the shoe was reversed I wouldn’t blame anyone, I would simply accept the fact that our marriage had gotten to the point where we didn’t have the connection that a married couple should have and I would try my best to move on.
I am a believer that life is pretty simple, yet you can make it complicated. If YOU do something wrong, then it’s YOUR fault … you can’t blame anyone else for YOUR actions. I think that’s pretty simple. If only everyone thought that way, eh?
I am now going to try to catch the whole story because I am very curious where this wife is coming from with their particular problem.
Make it a Happy Day!