Regardless of how strong your relationship happens to be, there are bound to be a few bumps in the road that you will have to negotiate if you are going to live up to the promise at the altar of “until death do us part”.
It is an unfortunate fact of life that lawyers like www.slatergordon.co.uk are constantly handling divorce claims for their clients, so how do you defy the statistics and avoid the sort of relationship catastrophes that tear you apart?
Battling boredom
For some of us, the prospect of spending every part of your life with the person you love is something to look forward to, for a fair number of us however, boredom can become an increasing factor in your relationship.
Boredom is one of the most common factors in a marriage that leads to some questioning about where the relationship is heading.
The key to battling boredom is to try and keep things fresh, by taking up some new hobbies and enjoying some new cultural and travel experiences together, so that you plenty of things to talk about and share with each other.
Money worries
According to the Office for National Statistics, 42% of marriages in England and Wales, end in divorce.
Financial problems and arguments over money are a common cause for the breakdown of a relationship. The stress of making ends meet and disagreements over who should pay for what or over the belief that one person is spending more than the other is comfortable with, are all common reasons cited during divorce proceedings.
A policy of honesty and transparency about debts and finances in general, will normally help to solve any money worries before things get out of hand. A problem shared is a problem aired as the saying goes, so it is always best to talk to each other about your finances.
The art of communicating
There are various different ways of communicating with your partner, and getting it right is the key to a successful marriage.
Complaining and criticizing are not really effective and positive forms of communication, so try to keep things in perspective by talking to each other rather than communicating, which is a subtle but very noticeably different way of maintaining good dialogue in your relationship.
Loss of intimacy
A gradual decrease in sexual activity is perfectly normal over time in many relationships, but losing that level of intimacy between each other is one of the fundamental reasons why a marriage breaks down.
Finding the opportunity for quality intimate time together is not easy with work, kids and endless other distractions to get in the way, but you really have to work at keeping the sexual connection alive and find what you are both comfortable with, if it is not going to become an issue.
Some 60% of marriages are expected to survive their 20th anniversary, which demonstrates that your relationship can grow stronger over time, provided you negotiate or avoid some of the common catastrophes that can wreak havoc.
Ava Moore is a relationship therapist who loves her job. Always ready to help people and to bring them back into a positive state of mind, she writes on the topic of love for a variety of blogs.
I agree. Communication is the most important thing in a marriage. That and negotiating when necessary.
Finding someone you are completely comfortable talking to and communicating with is key! It’s the most important thing in a relationship!
Financial struggles can put a strain on any relationship. It’s important to communicate and work through things together.
Money problems have been the root of some marital problems. Gotta remember to talk things out.
These are all problems for couples I think. Money is one of the hardest to deal with.
It seems like communication takes a lot of practice. It’s super important to try to be open with each other though.
My husband and I could never understand where the boredom set in. We have always been the best of friends and always look forward to the end of the day and seeing each other. Things are always peppy!
Love this post. It is really important to communicate with your partner even when you both are miles apart, there are so many ways to communicate. Lot of problems will come, but if you are both willing to fight to go through with it with trust and faith, you both can get through with it.
Finding time to just be a couple is tricky with kids, but it’s worthwhile. At some point the kids will move out & I don’t want my husband to be a stranger at that point.
The numbers of couples getting divorced are always staggering. But being married is hard work & you’ve got to be committed to doing the work.
I think communication, honesty and support are essential to any successful marriage. Marriage isn’t easy, it’s work – and you need to be committed to making it work.
My brother-in-law gave a speech at his own wedding that I thought was very good.
He spoke about how important it is to be able to “tolerate” the other person in the long run!
Divorce rates are definitely on the rise. People don’t even expect people to stay married anymore. It’s sad.
Communication is the root of every great relationship, including yourself. I’m glad to see that you are finding the positive in the struggle
we’re celebrating 15 years this year and surprisingly I’m not bored. Thats not to say we don’t have problems but we work each day to grow and build our relationship
I have been divorced and it sucked! With my current marriage, I have made it a point to work as hard as I can to keep my marriage strong.