From the day each of my children were placed upon my chest in that hospital room to nurse from me, I have been their first and foremost advocate. As a parent, I work hard. Every single day from that first breath they took of air I have been the most loving, supportive and open minded parent. I have had to make tough decisions based on what’s best for each of my children and I have had to give some tough love from time to time, but it’s been the outcome of all these decisions that warms my heart the most. I have three very amazing, unique individuals for children. I have a bond so tight that it is left with no cracks for anyone else to tear apart. Sure, I am biased, however, I have been told how amazing my children are by others on more than one occasion, this is a reflection of their parents.
What really warmed my heart the most, to share a recent memory, is when my first born was relaying how our home works, how I have parented her and her brothers and how I am always there for them. No matter what. To hear my daughter explain that I do my best to always be there for the kids, no matter what. To hear my daughter say; we can tell Mom anything and she will listen, she will hear you out, even if she doesn’t always understand or “get” what the big deal is, she is there, no matter what. To hear my daughter say; even with Aj being special needs and requiring a lot of attention and with K-man being basically ADHD, Mom is always here no matter what. All of those words warm my heart so deeply and bring tears of happiness in my eyes and pride in my soul.
The biggest and most important part of what my children think of me as a parent is that they trust in me and have enough respect for me to always be honest. My children are not afraid to speak their mind, and I have taught them how to do so in a respectful manner. My children are not afraid to tell me everything, down to a recent crush, to something that happened at school or on the playground. These three children of mine have been raised to have such trust in me, that I feel as a parent, I did and am continuing to do my job right.
For the most part, I don’t have to worry much about what’s going on with my children when they are away, because they tell me everything. Sure, sometimes that everything is things that I don’t really need to hear; such as the boys obsession with telling me the color, shape and size of their poop, but if it takes listening to that to get my kids to realize I am there always, no matter what, then so be it. As a Mom, I have worked harder than any other job I have held in my whole life. The best moments about working so hard is that at the end of the day, I will eventually hear everything my children have to say, each get set time with me to talk, ramble, laugh and vent. I am their shoulder, I am their heart and I am their supporter! That is how all parents should be, I only hope every child on this planet can someday have the love that I provide to my three and I do so hope that my fiance’s daughter who just moved in, will grow to feel the same way my children do about me, even if it’s mainly with her father, because every single child deserves these feelings of happiness, love and support in their home! Every child deserves to feel like they are free to be who they are without judgement nor ridicule in their own home.
My kids tell me everything, too, and I am extremely grateful for it. It’s hard to find that balance between being a friend and parent so that they feel comfortable.
My hubby and I are working heard to keep that relationship with our kiddos. Open communication must start early!
*Silly typo! Working *hard
Great post. My niece and nephew tell me everything, and I hope it stays that way. I always make sure they know I’m there to listen no matter what.
It is great there is such a bond between your children and yourself.
I try to make sure my kids know every single day that I’m there for them and that they can tell me anything. Strong lines of communication are so important as they head into the teenage years.
My kids tell me everything now. They are young – in elementary school – I hope that I’ve nurtured them enough that they will always be that way.
Sounds like you are a great mom! My son would tell me everything when he was little. Now that he is almost 18 he tells dad more stuff. I still get my hug so I am okay with that. As long as he is talking to one of us. He knows I am always here for him no matter what.
I wish my son would tell me everything. He has always been hard to get information out of! Not because he doesn’t trust me- he just rarely speaks.
That’s great that you have such an amazing relationship with each of your kids. I love that each of my girls is a unique individual.
This is such a great post. I have this bond with my mom. I always trusted her and was honest and still do as an adult.
Sounds like you are a great mom. That would warm my heart as well to hear my kids say that about me.
It is great to have such a bond with your children. I have that type of bond with my daughter.
What you said at the end of your post is very true. I felt pretty open to being able to tell my mom anything growing up, but I tell her even more now that I’m out on my own. Sounds like you have a great bond with your kids!
It’s awesome to see families being so honest with each other. As my kids get older, I hope to have the same relationship
I can only hope my son grows up to be an honest man. Thank you for sharing!
Great post. The teen years are going to be interesting. Right now my kids are both under 5 and tell me everything!
It’s nice to hear our kids give us compliments! What a great post!
That is such a great thing to have your daughter recognize your bond like that! I am having a lot of issues with my teenager and her attitude lately. I wish she understood and appreciated how much I am there for her instead of just saying things like, I can’t talk to you, you’re MY MOM.
I hope your kids will always feel that kind of closeness with you. As they head into their teen years, it’s so important!
I couldn’t agree more! That is so important! Your children will always have a special relationship with you. It’s what all Mom’s strive for!
I hope that my boys and I will always have an open and honest relationship. I’ll be worried once they are in their teens.
I love how committed you are to your kids. It’s always clear in your posts, and how wonderful that you got to hear your daughter explaining how she feels about it/you. That’s awesome. 🙂
This is why we blog. Your thoughts on this were awesome. I hope we all can strive to be those type of parents.
There is nothing more important than feeling close to your parents and vice versa. It’s great that you are creating an environment that is open for them to communicate with you.
So true! There is nothing like a mother’s love. I hope that as my children grow, I hope they continue to share their feelings and secrets with me.
I try to be an open mom, I didn’t have that with my parents but did with some friend parents and always wanted to make sure I was open with my kids
Your last line is so true. No one needs to be judged or ridiculed at home. Home is a safe place.
You sound like an amazing mom! You’re children are blessed to have you.
You are a great mom. We try to be very open with our kids as well.