I never really had a fairytale idea of life, if you knew the way I grew up you would know that I didn’t have a fairytale book life nor did a lot of people, however, when I do meet a person who has parents that are still married and raised them together in one household I do wish I had that for my children. I wish that I had that for myself sometimes. The problem with hoping for that is that I grew up just fine raised by who I was raised by. I am happy with who I am. I am happy that both of my parents love me and I am just fine with the fact that the reasons my parents were divorced were reasons I would have been divorced as well back in the day.
My concern is that there are some people who have extremely high standards with what they expect in a partner, with what they want in their life long term that they hold themselves up to way too high standards and end up failing in love, life and happiness.
I think that sometimes we watch one too many romantic movies and sometimes we read one too many fairytale stories growing up or to our children that we start getting this warped sense of what a relationship and what family should be. I think that each person wants something different for their life depending upon where they are at in life.
For some they have grown children so the love life isn’t really a priority in a long term sense but rather a partner who they can have some fun with, watch movies, go for walks, read a book with and enjoy conversation over a meal. For others who have young children and are single parents they may be seeking out a potential step parent for their children, someone who can handle having children around, maybe someone who already has children themselves and is single, perhaps the single parent looks for a supportive personality so that they have someone they can lean on from time to time.
Whatever it is a person looks for our needs must be met, however, the needs must be set in as much of a realistic way as you would set business goals for your own company. Ensure your wishes of a relationship are attainable and eventually those wishes will be met by the perfect for you person.
Remember, no one person, including YOU is perfect, however, I am a firm believer that there is a perfect for you person out there for everyone!
Very true. I believe that Disney has a part in that whole “happily ever after” thing. I believe too that there is someone for everyone though.
I’m one of those strong believers of not lowing your expectations and settling for someone just to have someone. If your personal expectations are right for you that doesn’t mean they are right for someone else. It also doesn’t mean they are too high. I agree, every person can find the right companion for themselves but along the way you’ll find a lot of wrong companions as well. When you find the wrong one, it doesn’t mean your standards are too high, it just means it wasn’t meant to be. Sometimes we learn from those relationships. Everything happens for a reason, right? 😉
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