I recently decided to do my daughter’s hair a new way. This girl has hair down to her bum, gorgeous hair that has only been trimmed her whole life. Princess Ki currently sports a layered hair look but other than that she hasn’t ever had more than a few inches cut off at a time. The other weekend when she was home with me I decided to try a new hair style on her, and she was completely open to the idea.
All I did was braid her hair as one big braid and put a hair thing at the bottom of the braid to hold the braid together. I then took the braid and put it up on her head and held it with a clip. She looked adorable and fell in love with this hairstyle so much that she asked me to do it for school the next morning and I happily obliged!
My daughter came home from school, and the pics shown here are from after school so the hair style doesn’t look as “perfect” as it did early morning. Running and playing at recess and gym glass probably made her hair go down a bit but overall the hair style still looks great and she felt the same.
When we were playing outside Ki had gone back into the house to grab her pineapples that she didn’t eat for snack at school that day. I asked why she hadn’t eaten her snack at school and she replied that the kids were mean to her and picking on her for her hair style. I guess only two of the kids in her peer group liked her hair but the rest said it was a stupid looking hair style.
I asked Ki if she still loved the hair style and she beamed saying “yes yes”. I explained to Ki that sometimes kids pick on other kids when there is something different, such as this “different” hair style. Maybe the kids are just not used to seeing this type of style and all that matters is that you love what you look like, other kids will pick on you through out your childhood but you need to know to focus on the two friends who thought your hair looked great and that you think it looks great. All that matters is what you think of yourself, let the others get used to the hair style and get over it if they never like it.
So as long as my daughter likes this hair style I will continue to put it in her hair. I used to wear a messy bun look in high school & man the kids hated it, I would get picked on so bad but guess what? Within a month or so everyone had that style of hair so …. maybe Princess Ki will set a style trend in her elementary years like I did in my high school years!
Kids will be mean and so will adults, so my question is How do you deal with your child when they come home having been slightly picked on?
To me this wasn’t a “bullying” situation where you should go report it because I firmly believe that children need to learn how to deal with others not liking them. Let’s face it, when we are adults we still face issues of not pleasing everyone & not having everyone like us, so children do need to learn how to deal with lower level “picking” events such as this one. Just my two cents.
I guess there’s a difference between kids being mean and actually bullying, but as a mom I don’t think my heart would feel a difference. I think the best thing to do is just teach her that it’s ok to like what she likes. Give her enough self-confidence and she won’t care what they think anyway. In fact, if she doesn’t let them phase her, they might just start wearing their hair that way. 🙂
You are right…. I do feel pain for my child when she is picked on like this, but at the same time I know if she doesn’t get taught by her parents to handle these type of hard situations that are not hitting the true “too much bullying” line then as an adult it will be hard for her to deal with real life. Even as adults we get laughed at and picked on but having the skills to stand up and stick up for yourself in those times and be confident in who you are will certainly pay off. I hope that is what I will be teaching my kids to be; confident in who they are!
I’ve been different my whole life. And you know what, my mom has always helped me get over the fact that kids where mean to me because of it. I love that you are just letting your daughter be herself. And that you are showing her that she doesn’t have to be like everyone else. She’s unique and one of a kind!
BTW- that hairstyle is totally cute! 😉
Thanks Miss RJ! I believe in allowing children to figure out who they are with guidance and support from their parents, of course I make mistakes who doesn’t? But I hope to get it good enough so the kids are well rounded and great adults!
I think Ki’s hair looks adorable. And what matters most is that she likes it too. Before people said anything and especially after. I agree with you – this wasn’t Ki being bullied but kids just being mean.
Thanks Kelly! 🙂
Kids can be mean spirited at times. I’m learning that raising my two boys. They come home on various occassion saying someone said this or this for the matter. Nothing majorly big but kids just being kids. I try to comfort them and tell them to brush it off because at the time the kids probaly had nothing better to do.
There’s nothing wrong with her hairstyle. Those are just kids TRYING to find some fault within her because she is so FAB! Keep the hairstyle if she likes it. In fact maybe they want it too!
Bullying is awful and so hard to handle. T even had to deal with some this year and she’s almost 14. Sad thing is, it never fully goes away and no matter how old you are you can always find a bully in the crowd. Tell Ki I said keep her chin up! 😉