I know there comes a time in our lives when girls reach the age of being a woman, or adult girl …. because after all we are all still very young no matter what age. I think of my great grandmother as young and she is pushing 90 I believe, so I do believe age is simply a number. In all reality we grow up reading fairy tales or learning that life is some happily ever after. Many will argue with me about a life being happy forever, but I firmly believe that your life, yes even your love life can be happily ever after!
Here is my point behind my statement; I have done some thinking over the past year about relationships because it seems that is the biggest or close to the only area in my life where sometimes I feel flawed. I was joking with my Dad about that not too long ago, telling him “I have been successful every where in my life except relationships, I swear I am totally flawed there”. While I was joking there is some truth to me feeling that way, although it isn’t a depressing thought for me, more of a reality of something I need to learn more about; a healthy relationship.
To me I have this fantasy that a relationship will always be labeled by a MAN doing the MAN things, and yes I have some stereotypical ideas of what a man should do in a relationship, even though I am perfectly capable of doing these things I tend to act spoiled in ways that those are the mans jobs and I will not do them. I do act spoiled and yes even selfish at times in a relationship, never really realized this about me until this past year.
What I have learned is that a relationship can be happily ever after if two people took vows to love each other forever, to always be there no matter what then those two people will make it. The key word in that sentence is TWO, you see it can not be one of you working because then it causes tension and strain on the relationship. One person trying means that person gets worn down faster, depressed faster and gives up. It is easier sometimes to simply wave a white flag and surrender to the D word {divorce}, but in all reality is the D word really that easy? Maybe … if your children are grown and you don’t have to worry about custody and visitation issues, but for the most part D should be the last word that comes out of your lips when times get tough.
Listen to me, I think it was the first word that came out of my mouth after a year of being unhappy and feeling like I was the only one trying. Two kids in two years can certainly play a toll on a relationship! Overall I firmly believe that relationships are no happy go lucky situation all the time and honestly I doubt I would enjoy that type of happy go lucky life, I do enjoy a little challenge here and there with everything in my world.
So here is to your challenging days in marriage becoming positive accomplishments in the future. It will be fun to look back on those days and remember them because guess what? Hindsight is always 20/20 or so they say.
