Day 6: A Matter of Thinking

Now that my head was clear I was able to have a free mind and train my brain to take information into it and spit it out as positive or proactive thoughts/actions. For example if I were to receive a disconnect notice for a very important bill I would not sit here in tears wondering how the heck I was going to pay for it, I would actually sit here and focus on ways I could come up with the money, payment plan options the company offers, etc etc! My brain no longer allows stressful or what seem to be impossible situations seem like there’s no way out. I can honestly tell you that I do fear at times, it’s natural to get a negative response at first, the key is simply to train your mind to a point that that first instinct to fear or think negative is quickly turned around to a solution or a positive thought.

If you think about it, your thoughts can affect everything in your life from relationships to friendships to the work place. When a person starts thinking that their life sucks or that they are depressed, then they will start to feel that way.  Oh believe me, this sounds silly even to some of my family, all except my father who firmly believes your thoughts have powers. It’s all about training your mind to take over your body. If one is sick yet happy in life or in love do you notice how much longer they live? A person who has the ability to focus on what it is that’s important to them, what it is that matters may out live any disease a normally pessimistic person would wilt away from or get more sick from. It’s true, really, I am not just rambling!

It’s funny growing up I always always picked on by females, granted I was a very beautiful little girl and so my family always just said they were jealous. Now as a grown adult I can barely make any female friends and I don’t think that I am this drop dead gorgeous woman but I do feel I am beautiful both inside and out. I am beautiful because I think I am beautiful and those who pick on me are only unhappy with themselves therefore must lash out onto others. I used to feel awful when females glared at me or called me names or didn’t want to hang out with me. Due to me allowing myself to feel self pity I started to get depressed, drank alocohol at a young age, started hanging with the wrong crowds and eventually all of that stopped at age 18 when I got my underage DWI {blowing a BAC level of .05}.

As I grew and became a mother for the first time I think that is truly when I realized that my mind process had to be changed. I had to start thinking positive for my daughter, because what if she goes through the same crap I did in school? What if she is the beautiful girl in school that all the girls envy? If she is all of those things, then I knew I wanted to be sure my mind set was that of a positive, outgoing, social person that is confident and knows I am loved and I am awesome no matter what anyone else thinks or says.

I can tell you that although my daughter has problems here and there I am amazed to see her little self think of a positive stemming from any struggle she has as a young girl. I am seeing that my new mind set, changed only about 8 years ago, has truly affect my child in a positive way. Can you imagine how your life and your children’s lives would change if you were to start training your mind to focus on the positive and become more proactive when thinking about a challenge you face? Oh the possibilities are endless and it’s all a matter of thinking!