Single Married Mom

You know the type, the mother who is married but feels like they are raising their children alone. There are many reasons a mother may fee like the single married mom, Dad could be in the military, Dad could be a workaholic, Dad could have an addiction problem or maybe Dad could simply not have a clue about parenting. There are also those mom’s who feel like the single married mom because they honestly feel Dad can’t parent the right way so they take it upon themselves to be the primary caregiver for the children.

Whatever reasons make you feel like a single married mom, reality is that it can be difficult emotionally and physically. When a married person starts feeling like the single parent they often question why they are even married in the first place. I mean if you are raising your kids alone in a married situation then why not just raise your children alone in a single situation?

Truth be told there are many factors that go into raising children together; both parents need to have common ground, communication, and the willingness to give and take. Although you may be married to the love of your life, you both may be different in the ways of parenting.

For example Dad’s tend to be more playful and fun while at the same time more stern. Mom’s tend to have that motherly instinct instilled in them. You know what I mean, that instinct that makes you feel no one can raise your children better than you, even your spouse. Mom’s tend to be about emotional connections with their children. Don’t get me wrong there are many Mom’s and Dad’s that don’t fit into either mold of parents I just described.

If you feel like the married single mom for reasons other than simply not letting go to allow Dad his time or your husband is gone more than home, then maybe it is time to rethink your situation. Feeling like a married single mom can lead to frustration, depression and bitterness towards your spouse. Open up communication with your spouse, explain how you feel without accusations and see if you can both find common ground to move forward in a way that will help you feel like the married mom versus the single married mom.

Focus together on what each of you needs to parent your children in a positive way, write the needs down, agree to move forward working together instead of apart as parents. Give it time and if the situation doesn’t get resolved then maybe, just maybe you will need to do some hard thinking to determine what decision will be best for your emotional well being  because after all happy parents make happy children, whether the parents are married or not.

Make it a Happy Day!