Attachment theory is a great science in regards to why it is human’s are attached to specific types of people as well as types of relationships. Attached. The new Science of Adult Attachment and how it can help you find – and keep – Love is a great book. Basically there are three main ways we all behave in a relationship, each of you may be able to say YES to one of these types, tell me which is your type? –
Anxious – people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back.
Avoidant – people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
Secure – people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
I tend to be the more anxious or avoidant person in a relationship. This is not that I am always this way but I certainly fall into one or both of those categories at one time or another during the course of a relationship.
Reading this book really has opened my eyes to the science behind adult attachment and hopefully once I am done reading it fully, I can walk away with a deep desire to focus on why it is I do the things I do or fear the things I tend to fear in a relationship.
More From This Book-
We’ve all met the guy who says he’ll call and disappears without a trace,
the woman who clings to that man who’s just not that into her, the man who
has been with a woman for years and yet feels completely alone feeling there
is nothing to keep the relationship together. Levine and Heller’s new
discovery about relationships provides the straightforward explanation for
all three above-mentioned problems and others.
If you do nothing this week I say you check out this book immediately. Written by Amire Levine, M.D., and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. this book is sure to open your eyes on how others as well as our own self handle adult attachment.
Disclosure: Book provided for free. All opinions are my own.