Comments on: Choosing “Friends” Wisely

By: Danny in Tampa

Danny in Tampa — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 02:58:11 +0000

Hey Brandy, It is great thing to always see the good in people. Sometimes though hanging around people who are always negative will tend to rub off and is not a good position to be in so I choose to surround myself with positive people when possible. Great post 🙂

By: Melinda

Melinda — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 20:27:54 +0000

i know how you feel. I’ve been able to successfully weed out the dead weight in my life and focus on those that matter and mean the most and the provide a support system rather than those that feed negativity.

By: Paul

Paul — Sun, 06 Mar 2011 23:32:45 +0000

Awesome post Brandy. Over the past couple of years, I consciously focused on spending more time with people who are more positive because the negative “always a victim” mentality can wear off on you if you are around it all of the time.

I do have a mental checklist (kind of) but it’s more about the gut feeling. I want to spend time with people who are positive, focused, good people, going places in their lives, etc.

P.S. I’ve been reading your blog for a few months now and think it’s great. 🙂

By: brandy nelson

brandy nelson — Sun, 06 Mar 2011 20:18:19 +0000

I have had the same problem my whole life…I dated the “bad boys” and ended up with jerks, (until I realized a nice guy was what I wanted!) and I have been hurt by many “friends” and had to choose to simply walk away and not look back. I am the type that gives trust 100% until it is broken, and always tries to believe the best. I have been (overly) generous, and I have been a doormat. One thing I have started really looking at while choosing friends is the amount of drama they end up involved in. I had one “friend” who claimed to HATE drama, and yet she egged it on and always seemed surrounded by at, all the while claiming she was the victim. Well, it turns out she creates the problems herself and then seeks out sympathy from others for the attention. I also take a good look at not only how they treat me, but how they have treated others, past and present. If a person has a history of not being able to maintain long-term friendships or relationships, there is usually a good reason for it! Also, there is the issue of substance abuse. I won’t associate with people who do hardcore drugs or are severe alcoholics. I know plenty of people who smoke pot, but I am talking harder drugs, like prescription pill addictions,etc…. Oh, and look out for obvious mental problems. I am NOT saying mental illness makes someone a bad person, but if they are unwilling to seek treatment, it can create a lot of problems for those who are close to them. Can’t you tell I’ve had to think about this a lot? lol…But since having a No Toxic People Policy, I am MUCH happier!

By: Sheila

Sheila — Sun, 06 Mar 2011 19:54:31 +0000

I do know that I don’t have to look hard to find good in you because everything about you is awesome. Hugs Girl! Happy Sunday my friend!

By: brandyellen

brandyellen — Sun, 06 Mar 2011 18:31:38 +0000

In reply to Sheila. Yes I know you do girl! ((HUGS)) One day we will learn and follow what we know is RIGHT ... it takes time and training! BIG HUGS and happy Sunday thanks for the comment!