I think a big part of it is moving a ways away when you are first married helps to establish your family and your boundaries.

Yes, I think you get just what I am going through! And wow was that fast?! I was JUST at your blog! LOL

Great question Kirsten. I am not sure you can place an age on when is the best time to step away. I believe at 18 u are an adult but every parent/child relationship is totally different. For instance, if you have a child who is now 18 and wishes you to back away a bit then as a parent we would need to respect their wishes while hoping you did a good job raising them so that you can have comfort in knowing they are going to do what’s best for them. When I was 17 I was living out on my own, I grew up faster than most so I was ready to be out of my parents life fast. I have a very close bond with my father and tell him more than I am sure he wants to know sometimes, but my mother and I haven’t bonded in the same way and so what I feel is when I don’t want to tell her something about my life then I should simply have that right without judgment or criticism from her or her side of the family. It’s all a matter of how close you are and respecting what your child wants at whatever age it is they feel they wish for some freedom or independence, of course after they are deemed “adults”. Does that make sense?