Comments on: Comfortable Relationships

By: Faythe

Faythe — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 06:36:09 +0000

there may be 3 categories… but I do not think the 3rd is “perfect” blend, no such thing as perfect.. and there may be a very few that are close to that, rare!…
I think it is #2 with give & take, and love & respect thrown in… it is NOT settling by any means…

having been married almost 37 years together 39, we have been through many good times and many more hard times… I was much more quieter?? in the beginning but I was very young when married, and as the kids got older I got more courage & spoke up more, but my hubby never tried to put me under his thumb & was always supportive…
and he is the more romantic one in the relationship…

I look forward to part 2!!

By: Settling … For Children’s Sake | Happily Blended

Settling … For Children’s Sake | Happily Blended — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 13:19:05 +0000

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By: Dawn (Painter Mommy)

Dawn (Painter Mommy) — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 14:25:36 +0000

I am in a content relationship myself. Things are not always the way I would want them – romance, passion, and all that. But I have chosen to focus on the good of my husband instead of the bad. We all have something about us that could use some changing. I used to try to CHANGE my husband to be more like what I wanted and I found that it made me more frustrated. So instead, I started to change ME and the way I see things. This was life changing for me and eventually I started seeing a change in my husband.

Life with children is not easy. Our focus is split in all different ways. But instead of thinking about how we can get more from our husbands – we need to think – how can I GIVE more to them.

There will be ups and downs, fights, arguments, disagreements. But underneath all that mundain everyday life stuff – there is still a love that is what started it all. Keep that alive somehow. I try to do that by giving more, even when I don’t feel like it one bit. Focus on what made you fall in love with him in the first place.

I love ya sweety and yes, I think you should stay in your marriage even if it is only “content” at this point. Marriage is work, but it is also a wonderful gift. Stay positive girly. 🙂

DAWN
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By: BLOGitse

BLOGitse — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 14:15:36 +0000

to your question: yes, some do. Not all.
Waiting how the story continues…
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By: Tina T

Tina T — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 00:32:56 +0000

First of all, thanks for mentioning my article, I'm glad you like it. I think that you're rating system is right on point. It's true though, being a mom complicates the way we view relationships. We can't help but think about what we want most for our kids first, and what is best for ourselves second. Just don't be too hard on yourself, in the end you'll know what's best for you. .-= Tina T´s last blog ..The Biggest Dating Mistake Women Make =-.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 17:12:07 +0000

I don’t believe in Perfect. However, I think that there are things that make us feel good. My friend called it ‘love language’…how you recieve the messages from your partner, and how your give…That must be compatable. People are different, we all want/need/give differently.

I struggled for years trying to be compatable with my husband. He would tell me over and over…” I buy you this! I buy you that”…Unfortunately, THAT was not how I felt affection…The same was tru for how I was giving love to him…it was just not compatable with how he recieved it.

I’m going to stick with the whole “follow your gut”. You Know…if you are listening, you will hear wether or not you are in the right relationshiip. Tough times happen…but a realtionship should not be a constant struggle over who is doing right or not. You are either compatable or not…THAT compatablity is what will carry you through the tough times.

Much love on your journey…
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