Having a Sensitive Child and Being a Sensitive Adult

Dinner was done Pajamas were on. Books were read. Boys were tucked in and Jenny the pug was placed on Aj’s bed. All was completed as normal. K-man was fast asleep. Then it happened…

Raising a Sensitive Child

Aj started having his issues that he has every so often, since he has been off of medication these occurrences are few and far between, but they still happen. Aj is a unique child with a bit of bipolar, anxiety, autistic spectrum symptoms and more all mixed into this compassionate, loving 7 year old boy. I am not sure what is the cause of my son Aj being more sensitive to energies of others, specifically mine, but I am the same way. The energy or aura that surrounds people is something I am extremely sensitive to and this is something that Aj struggles with. Being that I am 32 years old, I am better able to work with this sensitivity but a 7 year old cannot yet learn to cherish and work with such a power.

I used this sensitivity to benefit Aj the other night when he found himself, yet again, fixated on the idea that his belly hurt. Aj was very fidgety and slightly whiny over the fact that, within minutes of being tucked in, he was convinced his belly hurt. While most kids are honest when their belly hurts, it’s something for a parent to be concerned about, it’s not the case 99% of the time with my son Aj. Usually his “stomach aches” are more so to do with the fact that his mind is racing and anxiety for whatever reason has consumed his thoughts, thus bringing on a belly ache. Being that Aj fixates on things, a sudden belly ache doesn’t allow his mind to relax to sleep, instead it creates a whole bowl of stress for him and me.

I started to feel really frustrated as this was the second night in a row he was “pulling this stunt”, but I have an open mind, patient soul and loving nature so I knew there had to be a way to work with Aj to ensure he didn’t end up having to sleep on a make shift bed on my bedroom floor. I had to walk away.

I let Aj know I would be back in a few but do not be loud because I don’t want him to wake up his brother who was fast asleep on the top bunk.

After taking a moment to step away, Aj had some self control and didn’t go totally loud, but rather kept tossing and turning and whining about his belly ache while pouting. During my time that I walked away, I thought long and hard, I focused on clearning my mental clutter and freeing my own mind of any stress related topics. I essentially cleared my brain to a blank slate. I then returned to Aj’s bedside. I knelt down beside his bed with my head on his pillow and used my calm voice to relax Aj in an attempt to get his mind focused on sleep rather than the anxiety induced belly ache. Within moments Aj actually said I could lay on his bed next to him, this is something that never happens, as he has sensory issues with touch and doesn’t like people “in his space” when he is trying to sleep.

With a blank slate mind and nothing but calm, peaceful thoughts in my mind, I laid next to Aj and placed my arm just on him. Aj was laying on his side facing away from me and since he doesn’t like the weight of my arm on his body, again sensory stuff, I laid my feather light arm on his side as a way to help submit some of my calming energy to my son. Aj and I have always had this unique connection, he is the only one out of my three that really thrives on my energy, whatever energy I am giving off in my aura he feels and it affects him. Hence why I say my son is sensitive.

As weird as this may sound to those not as spiritually minded, I literally felt my thoughts transferring my calm energy through my finger tips on this side. I could feel energy being placed to him, slowly he stopped fidgeting, slowly he stopped speaking and finally within only just a few short minutes, he was breathing in his relaxed, fallen asleep state. I don’t care what you all call it, but I think in that moment, right there, I showed that I have a power of energy that I never knew existed, I had the power of using my calm aura to get my anxious son asleep without being stern while still remaining firm that he was to go to sleep and compassion for how he was feeling in that moment. I was able to use my calming energy to calm my son. This moment that happened was so spiritual for me and so magical that I felt this same feeling I had felt the first time I felt the warm sun beaming down on me after I had prayed so hard for God to give me a sign. I feel this was merely just another sign that I have more powers within than I ever realized.

Just When I’m At That Point

All day long my sons are pretty well maintained, easy going, happy and smiling. I have proof of that on my Vine video account but come about 3pm they are done. Usually 3pm is the time my youngest starts acting wild and crazy, wrestling too roughly with his brother, off the walls hyper and cannot seem to focus. It just so happens that about 3pm is also about the time of day when I am utterly exhausted, ready to sleep. My eyes fight to stay open and my body is ready to shut down but I still have quite a few hours left before I can relax, because I am Mom.

Summer Fun (5)

I have found no trick to getting 3pm to stop being the magic time when utter chaos hits. Tried sleeping more. Tried getting the youngest to sleep more. Tried entertaining them with a late afternoon movie time, but nothing works. Nothing.

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I just muster along feeling grumpier and grumpier until bedtime hits and then, if I am lucky, they sleep. Usually Aj goes right to sleep but that little guy of mine is just giving me a run for my money before he heads off to his first year of all day school in a couple of weeks. I just keep reminding myself, someday I will miss these times. I know I will.

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While my dog doesn’t pee on my bed, she does lick and lick herself for hours on end it seems which leaves my sleep number mattress wet and uncomfortable.  I don’t have time to let my mattress air out before I try to lay down to slumber and I hate all of the fur and allergens that get on my bed from owning this bed sharing dog. I also wasn’t aware of pet dander and the effects it can have on your sleep quality when I made the decision to allow my sweet pug on our bedding, that is until I heard about Protect-A-Bed’s mattress encasement. Protect-A-Bed wants to make pet owners and their pets happier, this means meeting in the middle by using the Protect-A-Bed AllerZip® Smooth Mattress Encasement, this cover for your bed creates a healthy and clean sleep environment for pet owners.

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Sharing my Queen Size Bed With Little Four Year Old

For some reason my four year old is really having a difficult time being alone anywhere. If he realizes I have left the dining room, he is on the mission to find me. He will whine because he is just so scared yet can not really formulate a good reason why he is scared to be alone. He is scared of his bed. Scared of his shadow. Scared of his bedroom. Scared of his closet. The list could go on forever.

I honestly have little problem with him waking mid night and sleeping in my bed or sometimes even he takes my recliner beside the bed. It doesn’t really bother me, at this point, however, I know all too well how difficult a situation this will be to break once he is passed his “I am scare of everything” phase. That my friends, I am not looking forward to.

So in the meantime, I have a little one who takes over my bed almost every single night, except on the rare occasion he sleeps through the night in his own bed, in his own room. He shares a room with his brother, so it’s not like he is “alone” per say, but his brother sleeps through everything, thank goodness! That means when the four year old wakes mid night yelling for Mama, the six year old is still fast asleep through it all.

For now, as I share my bed with this cute four year old, I will debate on how important it is for me to fight this co-sleeping mid night battle or not. I am not quite ready, nor have energy to fight this battle right now at this point in time in my life. Too much going on that is just making this the least of my problems. I enjoy singing “there were two in the bed and the Mama said .. get out, get out” I do that often to the little one and he just thinks I am silly.

What’s with the Early mornings?

I have tried various bedtimes with my two sons in the past, never having been able to get them to wake up much later than 8am. That was nice, but it only happens on some rare occasion. Regardless of what time my sons go to bed, you can count on them rolling out of bed between 4am and 6am every day, seven days a week.

Now I don’t know about you but when the weekend comes I want to stay up a bit later, watching a movie, hanging out or writing on my blogs but then I pay for it come morning time. K-man has been waking up a couple of hours, if not as soon as I fall asleep, for the past few nights. He then ends up in my bed to sleep for the night, waking up for the day around 5am when his brother is whining and wide awake demanding breakfast.

I have no clue what to do to deter this early morning wake up, now if you think about it the boys sometimes pass out between 7pm and 8pm, waking up at 5am puts them sleeping somewhere between 9 and 10 hours. I don’t know if that’s enough sleep for a 4 & 6 year old or not. The boys used to sleep closer to 11-12 hours per night and then they were in better moods, so I can only assume they are boys who need 11-12 hours of sleep for a steady mood through out the day.

Lately I can forget about doing much past mid day because their moods are so horrible from being over tired that I can barely tolerate them. I want so badly to enjoy my sons but lately with them not getting enough sleep, which is what Aj used to do all of his life up until about a year ago, I just can’t function as well or have as much patience. I hate watching as Aj is having troubles sleeping as much as he needs to again, after all I thought he finally had a proper mood disorder diagnosis and was on the right medication. Maybe due to weight gain and growing taller it’s time for the dosage change, but I am not sure that’s the answer quite yet. I happen to like that he is on the lowest dose of the Risperidone.

Whatever the reason, whatever the diagnosis; the fact of the matter is my two sons need to sleep more and how do I force them to sleep more? Trying to force them to stay in their bedrooms is like asking to have a tornado of screaming, crying and sometimes aggressive behavior in your home. I decided to do what I do best; reach out to my blog readers and community for help on how to get the boys to go back to sleep, stay in bed longer or even take a mid day nap??

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