Giving Kids Privacy, How Much is too Much

This post is an extension of my thoughts after reading Mail4Rosey: There’s a Fine Line blog post.

Giving your child privacy, what level is okay

Growing up I felt that I didn’t have much privacy, if any at all. I wasn’t allowed to have my door shut very often, I wasn’t allowed to have privacy on the phone, I basically felt as if I wasn’t ever allowed to think for myself and develop my own thoughts about who I am and what I want to be. I felt sheltered, too crowded and given too many expectations of who I should become and how I should behave. With that being said, I turned out just fine, sure there were some heavy bumps and road blocks along the path to adult hood, but I made it and am here today writing about children and privacy from a parents perspective.

I honestly think that no matter how much privacy you give your child, they will always seem to think that you do not give them enough. I am thankful more often than not that my oldest doesn’t seem to feel that way, however, I worked hard to be proactive in what type of boundaries I would set in my parental world to ensure that 1) my daughter and I would have respect for each other and 2) we would be close enough so that privacy wouldn’t really be a monumental issue as she grew older. Not all parents will have a child who feels that the privacy levels, if any set, are sufficient.

Personally I feel that you should give your child space to have privacy, a child needs to learn to think and make some decisions on their own. Setting boundaries between you and your child in regards to phone calls, journals, bedroom doors, going out with friends, being on the Internet and so forth, is really all about being consistent and upfront. Let your child know that they can have privacy and they will have privacy, however, at the end of the day YOU ARE THE PARENT and THEY ARE THE CHILD, this means that their privacy can be revoked at ANY GIVEN TIME if their behavior, attitude or any other similar situation arises that deems it necessary to snoop {the term most use for breaking privacy}.

My daughter understands that she can grab the house phone, text from her cell phone and surf the internet playing her games without me sitting over her shoulder 24/7 monitoring her every move and every word made. My daughter also knows that I respect her privacy with “girl talk”, that means when she has a sleep over, I don’t need to know every single little conversation that goes on privately with her girlfriends. It’s none of my business when it comes to the typical tween girl talk about school, boys and make up or whatever. It is my business when that conversation goes into topics that are just inappropriate; sex, drugs, alcohol, you know things like that.

Maybe because I have a really close relationship with my daughter where we can effectively communicate any concerns, issues and scares no matter what – it can be regarding me, my parenting style, a parenting decision I made or something as small as the latest tween drama at school. My daughter knows and trusts in me to 1) speak to her at a level, respectful tone in response to her feelings and 2) treat her as an individual, even if she is a child, she is still her own individual person.

Have there been times, as a parent, I want to snoop around and read her journal? Yes. Would I do that without telling her? No. At this time in her life there isn’t any red flags in her tween world regarding her friends, school and home life here that make me feel it necessary to break that trust we have worked hard to maintain. I honestly think that it depends on the parent and the child as to how much privacy you give in your household.

The decision to give a child various levels of privacy is dependent upon a few key scenarios:

  • What levels you are comfortable with as a parent; you are the parent to your child, it’s all about what your comfortable with.
  • How your child’s behavior is in general; are they a communicative, trusting child to begin with that normally makes good decisions?
  • How large your family is; the bigger the family, quite possibly, the less room you have for privacy.
  • What type of relationship you have with your child; if you have raised your child proactively to build a strong bond then giving more privacy would seem reasonable for you.
  • Are you willing to let your child make mistakes; part of maturing is learning from our mistakes, are you the parent who is willing to give some privacy in order to allow your child to make mistakes and learn from them while you are still guiding them.

There is a lot to think about when you are seeking to formulate a decision on what level of privacy you will give your children. I am curious what you all give your own children for privacy? What type of boundaries have been set in your household to encourage trust and privacy?

 

Wired and Wireless Security Cameras

Having a tough time deciding between a wired and wireless security camera system? Wired security cameras cost more and require professional installation, but aren’t as often affected by outside hackers or interference. Wireless security cameras are easier to install on your own and afford you access to video and audio recording capabilities of a higher quality, but are affected by wireless phone and Internet signals. Both types come with their own set of pros and cons, so it’s best to see what type better fits your needs as a home or business owner.   

Wired Cameras

A wired network camera operates on data and power cables that stream from the recording device to the monitor. If you plan on setting wired cameras up in your home, make sure that the required wires are not out in the open where a passerby can trip over them. You might have to hire someone to come out to your home if you want to conceal the cords or the cameras.  

Wired cameras can only be placed at any spot where a power cable is accessible. Just remember that once you’ve set up the cameras that you’ll have a hard time repositioning or moving them to a different location, especially if you have taken extra measures to hide the cables. Something else to think about is that wired cameras tend to be a lot bigger than wireless cameras, making them more visible to potential intruders.  

Wireless Cameras

IP cameras are an example of wireless cameras that are compact and simple for homeowners to set up around their home. One of the best things about wireless cameras is that you can set them up wherever you’d like as long as they remain within range of the wireless receiver. Consider a wireless camera if you’d like to keep your home security cameras hidden from the eyes of intruders. Audio and video transmission from wireless cameras is streamed into a monitor or remote recording device. IP cameras are noted for their high quality video and audio capabilities.

Wireless cameras have disadvantages too, of course. One of the biggest is that they still need a power source even though they don’t use a data transfer cable. You can work around this by buying a special adapter that lets you connect a battery to the wireless camera. It’s possible that you can buy a wireless camera that comes with a battery adapter of its own. No matter what kind of adapter you buy, make sure that you power it with a lithium ion battery or another type of long-lasting battery. Otherwise, you’ll have to change the batteries out too frequently to make it a viable option. Newer wireless cameras minimalize signal interference typically experienced from thick walls, cordless cell phones, bad weather conditions, and power lines.

When you decide between wired and wireless security cameras, the most important thing you can do is be sure to thoroughly research vendors as well as identify the unique security needs of the indiviual space you need to protect.

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Thinking About Home Security Systems

When you move to a new address, you must notify USPS among others of your address change and with that comes a packet with various details from companies offering you discounts because of your new move. In most instances I have looked at the deals and thought “yeah that’s cool, but I have no use for an of these” but this one particular address change this time around I found myself thinking about the home security offer that was found within the packet. I have always wanted to have some form of a home security system in place, granted we have things set up for security but not a big, huge home security system. The reply I get from most is that we don’t live in some huge city or anything with a huge crime rate, but still I like the idea of knowing I have a home security system in place for the lovely teen years. This is just in case my children pull half of what I pulled as a teenager.

There are many home security options out there in the world today, every company has their own little perks that come with setting up a home security system. As is the norm these days, marketing matters and gifts matter for some when they are seeking to work with a particular company. For me, I would much prefer knowing whichever home security company I went with, whether it be Vivint or one of the other companies I have seen around my local area, that they offer the best service possible rather than any gifts or deals.

Knowing that I have a home security system in place that allows me to see my home on the rare occasion I am not there and to monitor the home in a detailed manner would be ideal for someone like me who prefers to know everything in the home is as it should be.

There are so Many Home Security Device Options These Days

Where I live it has never really been thought of to ensure that your home is safe, per say. Back in the days of growing up, I recall the door of our home being left unlocked all of the time, windows were unlocked and it was simply a trust thing around that time in my world. Since growing up and becoming a parent of my own three children, I have become a bit more paranoid or OCD to be exact about ensuring my home, my children, my dog and my belongings are as safe as I feel them to be.

Some things that people pick on me about is that I have to check all doors and windows frequently in my home to ensure they are locked tight, this usually occurs at end of day or prior to leaving my home. The kids roll their eyes and want me to hurry but I can not leave without knowing I have locked down my home, every single time.

There are other ways to keep your home safe while you are away, sleeping or working in your home office, shut off from the real world. One could use a home security system.  There are so many options available these days to the average home owner to ensure they can find a home security system that works for their needs and budget. From wired to a wireless surveillance camera system, there is a choice for every type of person and family.  Knowing that my home is secured by a device I can access from outside of the home and monitors not only my home but maybe windows being opened or broken really helps me to feel safer.

It is so funny that I grew up in an era where people were still leaving cars and houses unlocked yet now, in this day and age, it seems everyone has become more paranoid, locked down and the sense of community trust has been lost due to the financial struggles of those who have turned to being thieves to support their families or those who simply are just criminals who don’t seem to know better than to be thieving from others.  No matter who you are, where you live and what type of community that you live in, rest assured that there are many home security camera system options out there to make you feel a bit more at ease when leaving your home unattended.

Tell me, have any of you used a home security system before, how did that work out for you? Did you choose a wired or wireless setup?

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