How Much I Love My Children

I Love my Children so Much That .. A Poem of a Mothers Love

I love my children so much that;

I allow them the distance to make mistakes.

I love my children so much that;

I teach them to accept not everyone will like them.

I love my children so much that;

I allow them an open forum to speak their opinions freely & openly.

I love my children so much that;

I grew to be the example I want them to live by.

I love my children so much that;

I encourage them to try  new things by overcoming any anxious feelings.

I love my children so much that;

I allow them to be who they are without judgement or attempting to mold them into who I am.

I love my children so much that;

I show appreciation for their good grades and other accomplishments with a big smile, happy dance and a hug.

I love my children so much that;

I’ve taught them to enjoy the simple things in life, rather than be needy of materialistic items.

I love my children so much that;

I give tough love when needed, even if it kills me to do so.

I love my children so much that;

I teach them we are a family unit and each will have their own responsibilities to ensure the household runs smoothly.

I love my children so much that;

I raise them in an old school mentality that doesn’t easily come as accepted in society as we know it today.

I love my children so much that;

I allow their thoughts, feelings and opinions to matter, all the while letting them know I am the adult who makes the final decisions.

I love my children so much that;

I show them that their Mama loves them no matter what, forever and always unconditionally.

My Children love me so much that;

They shower me in hugs, kisses and include me in their pretend play time because they  know I love them so much.

 

How Long Before You Should Marry, or Know you Should Marry?

Most of my life I was set on the two year mark being that when you can decide if you really, truly should marry someone. Based on all of my readings on relationships and various documentaries, it clearly states that you have the first year to get to know each other and the next year to see if the two “real” versions of yourself work together. So one day, having found out that my best friend was engaged on her one year anniversary, I asked her “how long should someone wait before they get married?”, her reply resonated with me and made perfect sense. That got me thinking and so that is where this post came from inside of my writers brain.

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For starters, you cannot place a time frame on true love. Next, we are no longer teenagers, love is real to us, unless we are super messed up emotionally and looking for the wrong type of love or love in the wrong ways. Reference my post from yesterday, looking for love through physical contact is not going to allow you to find ever lasting love. Not one bit.

As my best friend stated, but not in these exact words, there comes a time in your life where you have already been through so much. We both already have children, we both have struggled to be a single mom {her longer than I} and we have challenges with our children that keep us from really being able to find that perfect-for-us match. I agree with Dwan, that once you reach the age her and I are at that you just know. It’s this feeling, not through the ways of lust, that makes your brain and heart collide and realize THIS PERSON IS THE ONE.

One year ago on December 28th, I met a man for coffee. Seeing his profile on Match.com and having only paid for a month of membership, I knew that I wasn’t going to settle and waste the money spent for that membership but I also wasn’t going to rush into searching and searching for someone. This man’s profile kept coming up as a recommendation or what not. I ignored it, after all he lived in Claremont and one of my rules through out my whole life is that I will not date someone from Claremont, amongst a couple other NH towns too. I just couldn’t get over that image of him holding a guitar and smiling. It stuck with me and finally something gave in, I had to message him.

We met on December 28th for a cup of coffee, he likes it black by the way and I love it with Hazelnut Creamer and a couple sugars. From that day forward we didn’t spend one day apart unless we had to due to our children. On New Years Eve of last year, we had our children meet for the first time. It was a united family from that day on.  The kids meeting is what solidified mine and Lee’s love for each other. We knew from that first cup of coffee that we never wanted to part ways again. We knew from the day our children met and having them hit it off great, that we would never want to be apart again.

Now, here we are in a home we purchased this year. Dealing with a lot of drama from people who wish ill upon our happiness, you know those kind of people who are not happy with their own inner self so feel no one else can be happy?! And yet, we don’t falter. Our love is stronger than ever and each day it only grows stronger, I’ve never felt a love like this, neither has he. It’s so complete and so fulfilling. Our love is based on something real, within us, that we cannot seem to control. A real relationship, finally, we both deserve it so much. I have always been a train wreck when it comes to choosing my partner, while I can say my ex husband and I didn’t work out, I still love my ex husband as a co-parent and friend. Lee knows this and it honestly amazes him how well my ex husband and I get along, it doesn’t bother him one bit.

While I cannot tell you personally how long to wait for marriage, I can tell you this; knowing if you are ready has nothing to do with anyone else around you, if you have children sure they play a role in it because you don’t want to disrupt their lives too early with a new step parent, but at the same time; children do not control the outcome of their parent’s love for another human being. When choosing a date or time to marry that love of your life, just don’t rush, if you two feel that love 100% completely then it can wait if external situations call for it, but don’t wait just because so-and -o doesn’t want you happy. Those who don’t want you happy are broken within themselves and that’s nothing you can control.

Love with all of your mind, heart and soul. If you feel complete with another, latch on and never look back. Marriage? Well that depends on one thing; You and your Partner, only you two know when is right.

 

Valentine’s Day Done Right

Despite your protest to this holiday, love is in the air. People love Valentine’s Day for everything it represents: love. When you have a special someone, it is important to do Valentine’s Day right. Don’t do it halfway, and don’t try to talk yourself out of it. Simply embrace your inner romantic and enjoy this blissful day full of happiness, romance and love.

Start the Day Off with Breakfast in Bed

Get up before her and make breakfast. Set it on a tray and bring her breakfast in bed. Buy one red rose, put it in a tall, skinny vase and bring it on the tray as well. It starts the day off right and sets her up for the romantic day that you have planned for her. Make sure to wake her up with enough time for her to relax and enjoy the meal that you have made.

Surprise Her with Flowers at Work

There are plenty of businesses around you can find specializing in plants and flowers. Order flowers a week before and schedule them to be delivered on Valentine’s Day. She will love the surprise at the office. It will make her feel special and loved. She’ll love showing off your romantic side as people ask who bought the beautiful bouquet. You can buy traditional roses, but for a more romantic touch, send her a bouquet of her favorite flower. It will set her apart from everyone else receiving gifts at the office.

Plan a Nice Dinner and a Gift

After the two of you get back home from work, whisk her away for a romantic dinner for two. Make reservations weeks in advance to ensure that you two have a table. Spots will fill up fast, so it’s important not to wait until the last minute. Give her a present while you’re waiting for your desert. Remember, this is Valentine’s Day. Don’t think practically, think romantically. Jewelry is a go-to gift for many, but there are other ways to be romantic too. You can do something relating to a memory or an inside joke that the two of you have together.

Valentine’s Day is about romance, and no amount of commercialism or despise you may have toward the holiday is going to keep it from happening. So, if you can’t beat them, join them. Go all out this Valentine’s Day. Do it right and make your significant other feel like the luckiest person in the world.

I Truly Love my Life

Sons are a blessingI truly do love my life, I feel blessed to have three AMAZING children. I have a roof over our heads. I have been self employed for four years. I have amazing friends and while on my dating ventures I am meeting some more amazing people. I am truly blessed.

Sometimes it’s so difficult to realize what it is you are thankful for when it’s staring you in the face every day. Hidden blessings seem to be passing by me every day and yet I fail, at times, to notice them as blessings. When my two older kids, who normally are butting heads, sit down to play something together or walk down the driveway hand in hand; those are true happy moments, small blessings.

IMG_20121211_190233When my youngest stops from doing whatever hyper activity he is doing just to say “I love you Mama” that is a true moment worth savoring since more often than not his favorite saying is “I hate you” even though he seems to say it in the most sweet way, it’s still sad to hear him say that.

When my daughter comes home from being gone for two days and just wants to feel my arms around her in a big hug. NO words. Just a hug. That is a blessing. When my daughter doesn’t call me mean once a day, that is a blessing.

IMG_20121211_164412Even when my kids do the most crazy off the wall things – that is a blessing- because I know they are comfortable enough with me and in my home to be who they want to be, to test limits, to figure out who they are as individuals in a zone where they know Mama will love them always.

I have shown my kids unconditional love and they have shown me blessings in disguises one after another, every day. I love my life and it’s always nice to remember that the little things really count the most.

Happy Birthday to my Little and Only Sister

Today is my little and only sisters birthday! Happy Birthday my sister, I love you very much even if we don’t say it, words need not be there. The love we have is always there through the good and bad times.

I hope that you have a relaxing day because you deserve it and enjoy that little baby inside of your belly! Much love to my sister on this happy day! We shall have to get together and get a little sisterly silly time soon!

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