Let’s Get Real Honest Here. #parenthood #relationships

There is a lot in my brain these days. As the warm sun shines down and I feel my head start to clear up from the gloom Winter casts upon my soul. Spring has sprung they say, but here in New Hampshire we had a few days of 70′s then Mother Nature decided to have a hormonal swing and dumped a few inches of snow on our green grass. I won’t let a little bit of snow hold me down though, I am thankful for my mind to be more at ease. I say it’s my praying that has opened my eyes but it could also be the strength from the sunshine beaming down upon me, warming my soul and allowing my thoughts to flow more wholeheartedly.

Sunshine Warms My Soul: Thoughts from a Mom

My honesty today, all starts with parenthood; I am a Mom first and foremost, that is my job that will be mine forever. I like to say until my children are 18 years old that they are my 100% priority, but in all reality, I am sure they will be my priority long after age 18. It just sounds better to know at age 18, I may get a break from my Mom job. For now, my children are 11, 7 and 5 years of age. My 7 year old is on the spectrum, my 5 year old could be labeled as ADHD if you must place a label, and my 11 year old is my only girl who is battling the hormones that Mother Nature gave us females to deal with. It’s a juggle. Every. Single. Day.

I can honestly say I adore being a mother, it’s something that I do naturally, I was apparently blessed with a very huge maternal instinct and while no parent is perfect, I think this Mom Job has to be the most rewarding one yet and I am proud to say my three children get great grades, think for their own self, know what makes them tick and they have a heart of gold. To me, I’ve done my job and will continue to do my job. I lead by example and if I am not at my full capacity of happiness, neither are my children. All day I work to raise my children, it is my job to be their parent { and their Dad’s too, of course}. I am not one of those parents who wants anyone else to determine what’s best for my children, I am the one who spends the most time with them and I am constantly observing them to see how I can work to better them and teach them how to be well rounded individuals.

My Mom job makes it so that at the end of the night, when the children lay asleep in their beds, all I want to do is one of two things; write my little heart out on my websites OR put my feet up on the recliner watching a funny show to laugh the day away. What I don’t want to do is; have another adult around me. I will be honest with you and with myself, at the end of the day, the last thing I want to do is have another responsibility placed on my shoulders to please another human being. I don’t mind having company on occasion, I don’t mind engaging in adult conversations but reality is that I spend a predominant amount of my time working from home to make money and raising my kids; the last thing I have time for is a relationship.

I am finding this to be the truth, this lack of wanting or having time for a relationship, more and more as each day comes. My middle child has not been on any medications since January 20, 2014. He is excelling. My son has come so far and it’s taken a lot of hard work on my part as well as on his father’s part. We have worked so hard to ensure that our son doesn’t need medications, it’s a challenge raising children and if you are choosing to be with someone, then it should be someone who can help balance out the juggling with you. This isn’t easy to find. I am told far too often the level of parenting I do is something few see anymore. People commend me for my hard work as a Mom and honestly that makes me more happy than anyone commending me about a relationship status.

At the end of the day I find that I just, in all honesty, do not have time for another human being nor do I want that pressure placed upon me; even if that other adult isn’t placing pressure upon me himself, it’s his presence and the title of being in a relationship that can get me down. I feel weighted and the only area that is weighing me down is a relationship status. This is crazy to some, this isn’t me saying “oh my gosh I am with a total jerk”, it’s me saying at the end of the day, I am starting to see the Light …. I am simply someone who is too focused, driven and motivated in the areas of Parenthood and Running a Business to add to that. I have always been a hard worker, never been a hard relationship worker, while I feel I worked hard to try to keep my prior marriage to the father of my son’s together, it comes down to this – I am far too busy working on my children and myself to try to work on someone else being part of that. Not right now. It just weighs me down. The fact that this weighs me down, makes things a lot more clear to me, there’s nothing wrong with the relationship per say or the other person, it’s just me. I don’t do well with relationships when I am so focused on things I find more important; my children and my work. That may be selfish, but I am so unselfish with my children that I deserve a little selfishness in ensuring I am at my best!

It’s difficult to be this honest with someone, because I have had these conversations privately. They seem to go no where. It seems I walk alone on my path of ensuring my true inner happiness is always there. Few can relate to that, for society doesn’t condone us to be individuals and listen to our souls. Society wants to push us to be with someone, we can’t make it on our own, we must bow down to the powers of having that person beside us. I don’t believe that everyone is ready for a relationship when they happen into one, but they take the risk and hope it works out. Now, I am not condoning walking away from a relationship just because of a hard day or a week long funk between the two of you; relationships take work. Love takes work. I know this. I am simply saying; I don’t have the energy, time nor desire to put forth that type of energy towards a relationship right now. I am pretty sure that’s why I said yes to the ring but opted to push the wedding date out another year; something inside of me knows I am no good with relationships while raising my children right now.

My children need me at my best, that is the one gift I can make a choice to give them, even if no one understands it right away, including my children. I do my best to be honest with others and myself and this is me pouring my clear mind and warm soul out to the world.

Some Pretty Neat New Hampshire Wedding Venues #engaged #wedding #fiance

I am engaged. We were planning on a Spring/Summer 2014 wedding date but as time went on and my best friend announced her wedding date of September 6, 2015, we decided to push our date to 2015. With that being said, as time goes on I don’t want to wait, but we will see. With all that we have going on in our personal lives we have yet to take time to check out anything to do with weddings. That makes me sad. I wanted to enjoy the excitement and joy of searching around for New Hampshire wedding venues, to compile a guest list and to really just have fun with the cheap wedding planning part of things. This past week was a rough one for me, so I thought looking up some pretty wedding venues in New Hampshire would make me smile.

Here are a few venues in New Hampshire that I would just love to be married at ….

Whitney’s Inn – Jackson, NH

Jackson Inn New Hampshire Wedding Venue

Image Credit: www.whitneysinn.com

Whitney’s Inn in Jackson, NH looks like the perfect escape for a wedding party. They have a rustic appeal in my opinion which is something that speaks for my simple, laid back, country style personality. I could see this place speaking to us on our level, nothing too ritzy yet still elegant. Taken from the website “its unique post and beam barn, the Shovel Handle Pub, and beautiful 12 acres at the base of Black Mountain, provide the perfect setting for groups of 125 or less. The inn can also host outdoor tent weddings for groups of 200 or less.” I love how this one place has multiple location options for your special day!

Alyson’s Orchard – Walpole, NH

Image Credit: Creative Vision Photography via www.alysonsorchard.com

Image Credit: Creative Vision Photography via www.alysonsorchard.com

If you can’t get married on your family’s farm, why not check out Alyson’s Orchard in Walpole, NH. I think this location would be perfect during peak apple season, why? What a smell those ripe, sweet apples would give off naturally for your special day. I love the idea of an outdoor wedding because I love nature. I love the wind blowing in my hair on a hot Summer day, I love smelling the scent of flowers and all the aromas being outside in Spring, Summer and Fall bring. Taken from the website “with three unique, welcoming lodging facilities, a reception hall for up to 250 guests, and over 25 years of experience in the wedding industry, Alyson’s Orchard is renowned as one of New England’s finest destination wedding sites.” Again, I see a place that offers a wide range of activities alongside simply having your wedding ceremony there.

Searles Castle at Windham in Windham, NH

Searles Castle at Windham for NH Wedding

Image Credit: www.searlescastlewindham.com

The Searles Castle at Windham is really a princess dream come true, while I never spent much time thinking about a princess style wedding event, I certainly started to lean that way after visiting this website. What a memorable event we could have with our wedding if we decided upon Searles Castle at Windham. What bride wouldn’t want to have one of these three entrance options; arrive by Limousine, a Cinderella Carriage or through the Castle’s Windsor doors?! I would totally feel like this princess who is indeed marrying her prince. I think this would be the most elegant of wedding ceremonies to choose from. They help you with the planning from start to finish and have many package options available for you to choose from.

Overall, I think my dream wedding would be at the Searles Castle in Windham because it’s not something we would get to experience every day. I can experience the rustic wonder of our great outdoors and the apple orchards most any day of the warm weather season, but to be married in a place that is a castle? Well now, that does sounds like the chance of a lifetime!

Out of the three venues I have shared from New Hampshire, which one would appeal most to you?

 

{Giveaway} Oh What I Could Do with an Extra $100 Visa Gift Card

This morning I had a pretty interesting appointment for my son at his pediatricians office and with that meant coming home to make many phone calls. It’s times like this I wish I had some form of call forwarding because I can’t be answering all of the calls and I was about sick of the call waiting beeping in my ear at each sentence I spoke.

With recent news about what is going on with my son, I tell you an extra $100 in the form of a Visa Gift Card would really suffice me to pay for my gas that is used up during this rough winter driving. The van doesn’t much care for driving in these snowy, slippery conditions and uses a bit more gas than average. I know another thing I would use a $100 Visa Gift Card for would be to pay a couple small bills off, it’s that time of year, after paying for heating oil all winter to protect us from negative temperatures here in New Hampshire, that $100 could go towards the extra costs we encountered during the season.

I am sure I could go on and on about what one would do with a $100 Visa Gift Card, but instead I wanted to give you all a chance at a $100 Visa Gift Card giveaway instead. See below for entry form, this is not a giveaway hosted by me, it’s a giveaway I am simply sharing with you all.

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Remember, Happily Blended Blog is not responsible for prize fulfillment.

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{Giveaway} Edible Arrangements in MA, NH, and RI Raises Funds for MS

I have partnered up with Edible Arrangements to offer this fabulous giveaway in conjunction with spreading the news that the National MS Society has joined efforts with Edible Arrangements in MA, NH and RI to raise funds for MS research and raise awareness. 

How does MS touch my life personally? Thirteen months ago my sister gave birth to a beautiful baby girl after being told for many years she would never have a child. This little miracle baby entered our world and melted our hearts but then my sister started having some issues. Losing feeling on one side of her body, literally from head to toe. I was scared, she was scared and so the tests began. It was mind boggling what would be going on and put a bit of fear in us at the same time, you see my sister is my only sibling and while we had our ups and downs growing up, we are really close adults. Finally, after a few tests were completed it was deemed that my sister has MS. We found out that pregnancy can make MS symptoms flare up, this means my sister has to realize that she may not have any more children for it could really mess up her body with this MS diagnosis. Apparently my sister getting pregnant and having her child made the MS flare up, something she didn’t even know she had, and now she has to test out medications to try to lead a life of some normalcy and raise her beautiful girl. We both are not educated in the area of MS, but sharing this post to help spread the news that Edible Arrangements has partnered up with the National MS Society to raise funding for MS research warms my heart. Maybe it can help more families be aware of what MS is and find more research to assist those living with MS.

This is not the first year that Edible Arrangements has partnered with The National MS Society to raise funds, in the past three years they have donated nearly $33,000 to fund the MS Research and Raise Awareness. Mind you, the locations are in NH, MA and RI that are taking part in this particular cause.

Enter to Win Orange Citrus Blossom from Edible Arranements to Support MS Research

Edible Arrangements stores throughout Massachusetts, New Hampshire, and Rhode Island will donate $5 from every Orange Citrus Blossom arrangement sold during March, which is National MS Society’s MS Awareness Month. Orange is also the official color of the Society. Sharing this giveaway for you all is my way of helping to spread the word, because MS is something that has hit close to home for so may and now it’s hit close to home for me.

The Giveaway

One lucky person will be randomly selected out of those who use the Rafflecopter form to enter to win. The giveaway item is one Orange Citrus Blossom arrangement. The order must be placed in March, as part of this campaign, but may be scheduled to be delivered to anyone in the US during the 2014 calendar year. This is open to US only. This giveaway will end at 12am Eastern on March 22,2014.

Winners will be announced live on site and emailed directly. Winners shall have 48 hours from announcement post and email to claim prize otherwise another random winner shall be chosen using the random generator through Rafflecopter.

** one entry per person, while you can tweet once per day, all other entries are ONE TIME per PERSON. 

Using the Rafflecopter form below is easy; use name/email to log in or Facebook for login. Rafflecopter will not use your email or access for anything other than giving me a way to contact you should you be the randomly chosen winner! Winner will have 48 hours to claim prize or another person will be randomly selected.

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Stay Smooth & Smell Good with Vaseline Spray & Go Moisturizer #spon #sprayitforward @VaselineBrand

It arrived, a way to cure my Winter dry skin blues and it smells yummy too. When the box arrived with Vaseline Spray & Go Moisturizer inside, I was a happy camper. I also made sure to spray my daughter with this, I didn’t realize continuous spray meant that it was easily applied to your own body after a shower because it has a continuous spray nozzle … my kitchen thanked me for not realizing that the first time I sprayed my daughter’s arm to test it out. Live & learn, right?!

Vaseline Spray & Go Moisturizer

 

Today I am happy to be sharing with you some facts about Vaseline Spray & Go Moisturizer so that you can learn more about this brand, oh and there are options for men, so if you are a man don’t think you have been left out, they have Spray Lotion for men as well. Read on whether you are a man or a woman because these points can be applicable for all genders;

  • Most Important Fact for myself - Leaves skin feeling instantly soft – not sticky or greasy
  • Next in line of importance  – Convenient 360° spray dispenses lotion quickly and evenly
  • Another Fact you All Should Know - Contains multi-layer moisture complex
  • Bonus Easy to Apply – To apply, spray up, switch hands, spray down, and then rub in (“Up, Switch, Down,
    Rub”)

Vaseline Spray & Go Moisturizer Trio

I have had great success in using this product to test out for about a week now and I must say I am thankful to have a quick & easy way to apply lotion to my skin daily. As a busy work from home mother of three children, one having special needs, it’s been difficult for me to keep up with a lotion I have to rub on. I suffer from severe dry skin in these New Hampshire winter seasons but Vaseline Spray & Go Moisturizer is helping to alleviate the dry, itchy skin for me and for that I am confident you all will enjoy this product as well.

If I had to sum up how I feel about this product as a whole, I would say “I love that Vaseline Spray & Go Moisturizer Spray is easy to apply, doesn’t leave a greasy feeling and smells wonderful”.

As a way to help you save money off your very own purchase of Vaseline Spray & Go Moisturizer, you can head over to Vaseline’s Facebook Page to download a coupon. You can save $2 for you and $2 for a friend, learn more details by clicking here to enter the Facebook coupon page. Offer valid from 2/7 /14 to 3/9/14.

“This sponsored post was written while participating in my partnership with Vaseline and One2One Network, but as always, all opinions are my own.”

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