Best Way To Survive Outings with Kids this Summer

It’s summer break and you want to be able to enjoy your children, I see so many parents counting down to the time school starts. Then when school starts, they count down to summer because the school schedule is a pain sometimes. It seems many parents are always counting down to the next whatever – be it summer or school. Stop. Enjoy the time you have with your kids, whether they are being totally awesome and getting along or having a case of sibling rivalry ALL DAY LONG, enjoy those moments. Time flies too quickly to not cherish every moment, yes even those patience testing times.

Here is how I survive summer (and other times of the year) with my three, very different children:

how to survive Summer outings with children

Always be proactive – you know how your kids work and what makes them tick. Planning ahead for things that will entertain them, allows the long drive to be more tolerable. For me, the middle child enjoys electronics as a means to keep himself occupied during a long trip, so I charge up the Nabi Tablet and encourage it being shut off when he’s not using it (as I don’t have a car charger for it at this time). For the other two, they bring along some small toys, coloring book and crayons or paper to play tic tac toe. Plan to have everything packed up and ready the night before to ensure you don’t forget anything!

Set Expectations – Let your kids know what you expect of them. If they are not acting properly in the car, I don’t care where you are, pull over and stop that vehicle. Do not yell and scream and get all stressed out because your children are not behaving, sure I get it, stopping and pulling over will make the trip take longer, but it’s worth it to teach the children that you will stop if they don’t behave properly in the car. Also let them know what you expect of them at the outing, such as not running off, staying a certain distance when walking with you, etc. One thing I do with my youngest, who is a bowl full of energy, is that he can run ahead a bit til I say STOP. He must stop when I say stop and not go again til I yell GO. This keeps him from having to restrain his energy, but also keeps him at a safe distance. If he doesn’t listen, I make him hold my hand, this involves him screaming, yelling and being pretty mad, but he learns that is the consequence and I don’t care if people “stare” at us, I am being the Mom.

Have Fun and Be Happy – Seriously, it’s as simple as that. Sure it can be stressful and overwhelming to be at a packed beach or facility, with kids, but get over it! If you set the expectations ahead of time, follow through with a matter-of-fact consequence things get easier. Do not allow yourself to think “well this kid knows better” or get all grumpy because your child isn’t listening. Kids will be kids. They will test limits; they will see what they can pull off, especially being out in public. Let your child know they have a consequence but have fun, don’t get all tense over having to “deal with your child”, it is going to happen, children will make the same mistake over and over sometimes too, it’s all about teaching them how to not keep making the same mistake. Get down at their level, have fun, be silly and let loose. Just because you are laughing, having fun and letting loose doesn’t mean your child won’t respect you as a parent, they actually will learn to listen to you more because they will trust you are able to get down on their level and enjoy this Summer outing.

I am sure I could go on and on with more tips, but these three have been the best for myself, what are your extra tips you may have that work for your family? Do share in a comment below…

 

I Won’t Let Them Suffer for Any of my Insecurities #motherhood

It was that time of day, my 9am to 11am shift at Moms.com was over, it was a sunny, warm Thursday morning and the boys had been so patient, entertaining themselves while I worked for two hours within the same room as them. I knew I had to do something, but we have been to the family pool nearly every day this Summer, I didn’t want to pack up and drive over to Vermont, I wanted something different today. The boys deserved to go out and have fun, because four week days this Summer they will have to endure me working 9am to 11am, they deserve to have the remainder of the day all about them. I work from home to make memories, so what kind of memories could be made on this fine day?

Overcoming my Own Insecurities to be the Best Mom and Woman for My Kids

In all reality, I really didn’t want to go out in public, I ran out of waxing strips awhile back so my eyebrows are growing in and my upper lip is certainly ready for a waxing. I wanted to stay home, sit in front of the fan and just veg out, but that is not what my son’s would enjoy. Summer break is about them, it’s about having the best few months ever during their break from school. At least, that is how I feel.

I needed to just suck it up, get on my bathing suit and shorts with a tank top, ignore my bloated belly and over sized breasts. I needed to just think about the type of person I am, not what the shell of my outer body says to others. By the way, who gives a crap what others judge my body image to be from; I always say it’s from having kids, Winter time and lack of my exercise routine. I eat pretty decently, and I stopped working out; but really? It’s not my place to explain to another human being why I look the way I look. I am me. I am happy and the type of person I am is the type of person I want my children to grow up to be; what I look like is irrelevant.

Overcoming my Own Insecurities to be the Best Mom and Woman for My Kids

I hate that my breasts are huge, they are huge because I fed my children though. I can’t complain for having large breasts because they grew from a C cup to an H cup because I fed my children. I lost a lot of weight at first from breastfeeding and I shouldn’t have to hide my top heavy body because people can’t handle seeing cleavage. I do not wear outfits like above, except when I am at the beach, but I do like v-neck shirts that are appropriate outside of the beach area. This is me in my bathing suit, one in which you wouldn’t usually catch me in, but this year, I decided to make a change. I decided to change my mindset…. I will be okay with my body. The wide hips, the lack of a bum, the large top heavy breasts, my large biceps, my upper lip not waxed right now, the eyebrows not perfectly waxed and the freckles that cover nearly all of my body …

I am embracing every bit of myself, because if I do not do that, how can anyone else? Also, how can my children learn to embrace their unique individual traits if not by their parents example? I expect the parents to be the role model, so while I can’t look in the mirror and totally LOVE my body image, I can do a few things; accept myself for who I am and focus on the love of my personality, accept my body as is or work out, excercise and go hiking with the kids to teach them that my body weight does matter health wise, but beyond that? My body weight will not keep me down. I will enjoy Summer break with the kids, and I will do so with my head held high, a skip in my step and a huge smile upon my face, because

I am making this the best Summer ever, and one in which will set the standard high for all future Summers.

 

Because Sometimes Having Kids Makes you Go – Just Go Girl

This post is sponsored by the Role Mommy Writer’s Network but all opinions are my own!

I recall having a discussion with one of my elder relatives as a teenager, it seems when we start having children that our bladders grow weaker. It only make sense, having all that weight shoving on our bladder for each pregnancy. My grandmother had four children and my mother had two. I … have three.

As many have read, I do work out on a regular, as regular as I can with some drop outs in between. Working out, after having children, can cause something called athletic leaks. 1 in 3 women struggle with athletic leaks, this is where our bladders leak a bit because honestly, the bladder is weak after birthing children. That’s just part of pregnancy and parenting that most don’t want to hear.

I heard it, loud and clear when some of my elder family units opened the topic of conversation with me. I knew having kids would create lack in bladder control, otherwise known as female incontinence. We pee a little when we sneeze, we pee a little when we laugh hard. I know most don’t want to admit this out-loud, but it does happen for 1 in 3 women, so I know it’s not an unknown topic to us mothers.

Stress incontinence and even athletic incontinence is common.

Being a mother is something that most don’t realize the full extent of; such as dealing with stress incontinence and athletic incontinence.

After the birth of her twins, Brooke Solis was determined to find a way to get back into shape. But an issue with athletic incontinence made exercise — particularly high-impact movement and jumping — a real obstacle. It didn’t take much research for Brooke to realize that she wasn’t the only woman dealing with athletic incontinence: Estimates find that 25 million women — from high school athletes and new mothers to women past their childbearing years — share her problem. That’s one out of every three women who may avoid exercise and its physical and mental health benefits because they are worried about athletic leaks.

It’s not uncommon. So why do so few talk about it? I assume it’s just one of those embarrassing taboo topics, but me being more outspoken as my age increases, I wanted to spread the word about this product called Just Go Girl. This product is aimed to help with those who deal with the unmentionable athletic leaks.

After several trials, Brooke designed a pad that’s not only inconspicuous under form-fitting workout clothes, but is also comfortable and absorbent. While the pads are less bulky than a traditional sanitary napkin, they can hold up to 140ml of urine. She then decided to make the innovative JustGo Pad™, available to all active women as a solution to what can be an embarrassing and uncomfortable problem.

Since this product has launched, more women are able to go out and be athletic without the worry of leaks. This is the perfect pad that doesn’t make you feel as if you are wearing an adult diaper, it is quite small in size so as to not fear leaks and not appear bulky in that area with your workout clothes on!

If you are ready to give this product a try, then you can click here to get a free sample of Just Go Girl. Don’t worry, it comes in a regular flat packaging that doesn’t invade privacy. No one will know what is in that package, except you. I invite you to take a look at this product and see if it helps you to move on in your world and to live life it to the fullest without fear of incontinence.

This post is sponsored by the Role Mommy Writer’s Network but all opinions are my own!

Where Did People Come From Mama?

I am a huge advocate of showing our kids the various beliefs in our world, to the best of my abilities, so when we were sitting down to read our bedtime story and Aj asked; “Where did people come from? Like how did the first person get on this Earth, Mama?”

I paused.

Then I had to figure a way to answer, “well buddy, there are a lot of different beliefs. Some believe God created the first humans, but others feel it’s more science based.”

Aj says, “yeah like we started somehow from little bugs, but how does that happen, Mama”

Funny Little Kid Answer to Where People Come From

I didn’t have to answer that second question.

K-man piped up and said, “Duh we came from Cavemen”

Aj replies, with a giggle, “Well where did the first caveman come from?”

My youngest responds, with a sense of pride in his voice, “Baby cavemen!”

Motherly Advice from Post Grains Cereal Survey

Information I am about to share comes from the Post Great Grains Cereal Survey that was conducted by Wakefield Research among 1,000 nationally representative women ages 40+, between January 24th and January 31st, 2014, using an email invitation and an online survey.

Motherly Advice For Mother's Day

There are very few survey results that hit my inbox and make me say, “yes I must share that”. The line that grabbed me with the survey completed by Post Grains Cereal was this;

1 in 3 women believe the most important lesson about womanhood a mother can give is “Don’t let a man dictate your decisions,” followed by “Speak up for yourself” (26%) and “Take pride in your accomplishments” (22%).

If there is anything at my age of 32 that I try to instill in my daughter’s mind is that she should never, ever allow a man to dictate her decisions and that she should always speak up for herself in a respectful manner. I also instill the sense of pride in accomplishing something. My daughter has sadly been the victim to many circumstances that make me, as her Mom, fight harder to instill certain positive, uplifting traits in her by being her example. I hold myself as the higher self image for my daughter, because we are our girls first and foremost role model. The best way to teach our girls to be what they should be is to live the life we want them to live as grown woman.

Love your Body

Upon review of the survey from Post Grains Cereal, this next part is something that interested me as something I first felt like arguing about, then realized this actually makes sense to fall down on the totem pole of importance;

10% of the women surveyed feel “Love your Body” is an important lesson about womanhood a mother can give. This places it at number 4 of important lessons mother’s should teach their daughters.

When I first saw that “Love your Body” was number 4 on this list I was rather mad. After a moment I realized that teaching our daughter’s to love their body is a concept that will come alongside the top 3; “Don’t let a man dictate your decisions,” followed by “Speak up for yourself” (26%) and “Take pride in your accomplishments” (22%). For women it’s hard to watch your body age while you look at all these celebrities and Photoshopped images in our world, however, if you have a high self esteem that comes with the Top 3 Lessons we should teach our daughters, you will learn to embrace your individuality and therefore automatically learn to love your body.

Most Empowered Moment for Women

Image Courtesy Wakefield Research

I think this image above showing when the surveyed women felt most empowered says a lot. If you notice, the top three times a women felt empowered was when they were doing something fulfilling for their own self; taking control of their life/fears, doing well at work, accomplishing goals/making changes, being a mother or grandmother. I think that these top three says a lot about how most women work;

Most women seem to feel tip top 100% when they are doing something that allows them to be successful; whether it is fixing their own self, building their self up or raising children/grandchildren – those are all rewarding ways to build up and solidify our inner strengths.

The survey went on to cover topics of such as if these women have ever found themselves starting a sentence with “I’m sorry” when voicing an opinion (46%). Why do we do that? It’s also interesting that 26% say they would feel most empowered by having a makeover by a celebrity stylist whereas 18% said climbing a mountain would make them feel most empowered. Last but not least, the net answer for “Have you ever been a mentor to another woman” was yes (46%). This is awesome, it says that just near half of us do see the true power behind mentoring other women!

Well there you have it, some fun tidbits from a survey provided by Post Grains Cereal. Some Motherly Advice from a group of 1,000 women surveyed, but I can’t leave this post without asking all the women out there this;

What is one empowering message you wish to instill/share with the daughters that live in our world?

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