Yes, This is my Child … Mister K

This child of mine, the youngest, is always up to something. Shown here, is my son after a ride home from his Grampa’s. Some how between stealing my pocket book to take all of my Trident gum and singing along to our favorite tunes on the radio for our twenty minute trip back home … he captured a pink highlighter. This highlighter is what he added to his already messy, chocolate ice cream face …

Baby of the Family Covers Face with Highlighter

Imagine my surprise when we pulled into the driveway to our house and I look to see him like this? I just couldn’t help but giggle and then, of course, ask to capture this moment with a picture. I love how he posed, so perfect for how he was caught with the highlighter on face.

During another visit to the farm, this child of mine, the one who lays in mud muddles and covers his face with mud. Every.Single.Time there is a mud puddle at his Grampa’s house, decided to make his mark on my Town and Country:

Mud Hand Print on Town & Country

Needless to say between the three kids, Mister K is the one who really likes to keep Mama on her toes. Good thing I have a sense of humor, you really need one to raise this child.

Always an adventure around here, what is something your child has done that just made you shake your head and giggle?

When Gentle Rain Turns to a Rain Storm

In theory blending a family with two people who are absolutely in love should be a smooth process. This is taking into consideration that the children get along pretty awesome and the two parents have an amazing communication level to work out the kinks. What happens when the theory of this is how we will blend the family turns into this is it, what do we do?!

Troubles with Blending Family

In theory two parents communicate to come down the middle road, or close to it, as a way to not turn one kids life versus the other kids upside down. His and hers. Hers and His. This would make total sense if the children in a blended family situation lived together for longer periods than just six days of the month, heck that isn’t even half of the month.

Once things were settled the plan was to set up some rules, guidelines so to speak and chore lists for all with rewards, you know how I roll…. creating guidelines, boundaries and responsibilities that also have a reward and consequence system that works wonders for any child I have ever seen this implemented on. I firmly believe that every child responds to my  methods, if allowed the time needed to live them for a consistent basis, not six days out of the freaking month! All opinions we have in life are based on our own experiences of live n learn. We find what works best and we tweak what doesn’t work. I found the solution in my world to be the parent with a side of friendship, in turn, I was trying to help someone else gain that as well. IT isn’t working.

Original thought was to have rules for the older kids alongside chores, reward & consequence system that was clearly written out on poster board for all to read. While the little kids would have their own set of chores, rules/schedule as well as a reward/consequence system. The issue I have is that these other children, whom I have fallen in love with, care for deeply and have taken in as part of my family, DO NOT want anything to do with rules, guidelines, chores or anything. These kids just do not like it, do not want any part in it and are at times with a mindset that I can not comprehend.  In all honesty, we cannot even seem to get them to understand what we feel to be the definition of family; to me family is anyone who you have taken into your world as “family”. This family definition to me does not hold by the standards of blood relation. I have so many people I call Uncle on my Dad‘s side that I think of as Uncles but they, in all reality, are just my Dad’s buddies who grew up with him and have been there since I was a baby. They have my back and I know that, they are family. On my Mom’s side, the man I call Grampa and know as Grampa, is not blood related but I will be damned if you tell me he isn’t my Grampa. That’s crazy. If someone has been a part of your life as “family” then they are FAMILY. If someone has come into your life loving you, caring for you, taking you in and trying to turn your world into a better, happy place, they are FAMILY.

I can understand kids not wanting rules, hell I know when I was a kid I loved having less rules and running the show so to speak. Rules? I wanted no part in that, however, the rules I did have, allowed me to become who I am today. I am very proud of who I am. In turn, I raised my children in a way that I thought would allow them to;

  • Learn boundaries.
  • Learn independence & who they are as a small person.
  • Learn consequences for actions are part of life, not a sign of lack of love.
  • Learn rewards come for those who work hard & try to do their best as well as be their best.

I wanted my kids to look to me as Mom, yup, I have been told I am hated by them from time to time. I have had head butting experiences where we just cannot get on the same page and I want to rip my own hair out. Then, on the flip side, we have it all – we love each other. No matter how much kids mess up, they have learned that Mom loves them NO MATTER WHAT. My kids have learned so much that while having a conversation with my 10 year old (almost 11) daughter, I am jaw dropped at how easily she understands and comprehends the reality of situations and how simple it would be if only others were to stop acting in such defiant ways simply because they are not allowed to isolate themselves from the world and sit on electronics 24/7.

This is a really hard road I am traveling right now. I am not traveling it alone. I have the most amazing partner in the world who is doing his best to work with me and gain input from others as to how best to handle the transition from his and mine to “ours”. We will get this because we all have fallen so in love with each other, or at least, that is how I feel. I would do anything for his kids just as I would my own kids, they are all part of “our new blended family”. I believe there is a solution to everything, the only downfall is that sometimes the immediate solution can sometimes be the most difficult of decision to make in your life. No matter the decision that must be made, it will have a positive end result somewhere down the line in the future!

My Grampa is Getting Older

My Grampa on my Dad’s side is 90 or close to it, maybe even in his early 90′s, honestly I am not quite sure his age but I am quite sure that he is at an age where he should be sitting back, relaxing and enjoying these last years of his life. While I will be super sad when my Grampa does pass because I love him dearly, he has lived a super long life and done so much. My Grampa is the one who taught me how to play solitaire and even took out the little kids section of the Sunday newspaper each year, well into my teen years because that was his habit to do so for me.

While I love my Grampa dearly, he is getting older. The visits to the hospital are happening every so often and honestly there isn’t much left to do except keep him comfortable and know that his time may be coming. I just wish my stubborn farming Grampa would relax a bit, then I think about it, he has spent his life farming so to not farm would probably not work well for his stubborn nature. I love that my family has the stubborn trait, but I think if I were his age I would be happy to finally just relax, enjoy the down time I didn’t have much of in my younger years. Not my Grampa, he still gets up and drives and even works on the farm here and there.

Relatives getting older is just a matter of life, it happens, not that it makes it any easier to handle. It is an emotional time when your elders get to the age of my Grampa and need extra care or should simply be utilizing caregiver services instead of working the farm like he does. There is no telling your elders what to do, they are their own person and I do believe being on the farm makes my Grampa happy, so that is what he does.  Grampa was in the hospital again, last I heard, he had another heart attack, his sugar was through the roof and so here I sit just waiting for another update.

Of course this post was written just as a found out, but probably will go live on site after I get another update about him. It is sad watching our elders grow, but it’s happy knowing that they have lived a long life and that there is care out there for them to have as they get older.

Retail Display Racks May Suit Farm Stand

As I have mentioned I have been heading over a couple of times a week to assist my Dad at the farm stand, but what I did not mention is that the farm stand is more of a stand combined with the option of making it into a cute local craft, product store too. Meaning that this is a great location to support local woodcrafters and others who make beautiful products locally.

I could totally see using Retail Displays within the building to sell various items made from local business owners or hobbyist. Many who have a hobby are pretty amazing at what they do, take my Grampa for example, he does amazing wood work and has a few of his items for sale at the farm stand. From home made wooden walking sticks to toys for kids and even train whistles the wood crafting my Grampa does is amazing.

Having a display for the cards made in Bradford, NH on display at the farm stand and other items would make the appearance more welcoming to those who enter during the “off” season for veggies.  Whether you are looking for displays for your big retail chain or a small stand such as what my father has, using retail displays are a great way to exhibit the products in an easy to access fashion for customers.

This is How We Rock Father’s Day

We pack the kids up to head to Vermont where our family farm is to spend the day with Dad aka Grampa. Hop in the pool immediately upon arrival…

Find a brother-in-law shark swimming around in the pool and rather than be scared laugh your butt off because you think it’s hilarious.

Then you get out of the pool, dry off and get some great conversations in with your family.

While you watch your father cook dinner with music in the background and wonderful entertainment for that is what your Dad is good for always!

Then you all sit down and grab some food to eat up a lunch/dinner combination late day/early evening!

This was a day well spent. There was a lot of laughter, smiles and just all around peaceful times.

Happy Father’s Day Dad

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