Let’s Give this Dress Idea a Try

I happened upon a rack at Ocean State Job Lot that held a bunch of cute dresses. Usually, as a woman with wide hips, it’s difficult for me to find a dress that suits my body type.

Trying to Dress Up

I picked out two dresses, each I felt may end up looking odd on a girl with curves, but I actually adore this first dress I wore. Never mind my double chin, most of us who have given birth or not end up with one as we get older. I have learned to embrace this double chin even if I do hope it goes away as I work to lose my Winter weight.

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This is the pattern of the dress, one day I will have a full length mirror that allows me to take a full body picture, but for now, you get the idea. I am excited to start challenging myself with new colors and wearing dresses more.

Related Funny Story: My youngest child had never seen me in a dress before, this was a couple of years back, and we were at a local store purchasing some snack items when he lifted up my dress as a means to find my pockets. I was so embarrassed. I handled it well though, with five shades of red upon my cheeks, I explained that Mommy was wearing a dress and this dress does not have pockets, if you lift my dress, you will be giving the store a show that Mommy doesn’t want to experience.

Cleaning Your Room – Parent vs Child

The biggest battle of parenthood I see as a “choose your battles wisely” topic is cleaning your child’s bedroom.  So many parents complain about how messy their child’s room is, or complain about how they can’t get their child to clean their room. I see two types of parental mindsets with the topic of children’s bedroom cleaning;

  1. The parents who simply want their child’s room to be clutter free, organized and presentable.
  2. The parents who want their child’s bedroom cleaned and organized their way vs the child’s way.

Both parents are perfectly right, who’s to say it’s going to ruin a child by making them clean their bedroom a certain way. I am sure the child will survive the life of having to keep a clean and tidy room whether by their own standards or their parents standards. I simply choose to take another route. Spending many years in therapy with my middle child has really helped open my eyes to what battles are worth fighting for or not.

Cleaning Your Room - Parent vs Child

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How I think A Parent Can Handle Cleaning of their Child’s Room with Less Stress

First off, one thing that bothered me from my childhood was the constant need for me to fold clothes the way the parent did it, clean room the way the parent wants it, and even wash dishes the same exact way my parent wanted me to. I see a flaw in this; I believe parents are suppose to guide children to be individuals. No two people will do the same task in the exact same method but they can end up with the same positive result; meaning my bedroom can be clean by my standards but it may not be up to par with your view of what clean is. The dishes may end up clean, but the process I took to get there is not the same process you took. This is all perfectly okay.

Again, one thing most parents start to realize is that we parent based on our own experiences. I parent based on my own to shed a positive light upon things I felt agonized about as a child.

The key to alleviating stress when it comes to cleaning your child’s bedroom is as simple as allowing your child to clean their room in their own unique way. For example, my daughter has a clutter fest of a bedroom, she is a person who hangs onto everything. It drives me bonkers! I had a discussion with  my daughter, I listened to her side of what a clean room should be and came to my own conclusion of an acceptable approach to her bedroom cleanliness.

My mission is simple: I want the bedroom to be sanitary without food or trash anywhere. I want to be able to walk through my daughter’s room without stepping on anything, including trash. I want to be able to know which clothes are clean and which clothes are dirty in her bedroom and I want her room to be fire safe.

Pretty simple, right?

That’s how I handle the topic of cleaning a child’s bedroom. I allow that to be their space, organized just how they want but it must be a presentable place where I can walk into and hang out with my child or read a book with them without stepping or sitting on things. I want no trash nor food in the room so that the house is sanitary as a whole. This works for us and has actually increased the times my daughter cleans her room close to what I would clean it to more often than not.

There is no arguing over her personal space and there is no stress involved when I say “go clean your room up a bit please”. It’s a win/win and the way I look at it is this; if there comes a day when she can’t find something because of the way she “organizes” her bedroom, then maybe she will change her method up a bit. For now? We live in peace with sanitary bedrooms. I am good with that.

What To Do On Spring Break – Day 1

Last week my kids were on Spring break, all week long. The start of our Spring break was actually begun on the Friday before the break even was here. I had a phone call from my sister and it seemed she could use some time out of her house, so I ventured over to pick up my sister and baby niece Livy.

What do do on Spring Break Day 1

I just love how big Livy is getting, she is walking all over the place now and becoming quite the little character. I love watching her many facial expressions. I have spent a lot of time with my sister and Livy, so we have a bond that hopefully never breaks. Livy gets a little nervous when she thinks her Mama is out of sight, but overall she’s doing amazingly better with the separation anxiety and she seemed all too happy to have a girls day with her Mama and Auntie Quack Quack.

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Livy and my sister went grocery shopping with me and ran other errands with me that fine Friday. Shown here is Livy hanging tightly onto her Auntie’s wallet. I wonder if she thought Auntie had lots of money, soon she will realize that Auntie’s wallet rarely ever has any cash in it. Livy was very well behaved and seemed to enjoy grocery shopping!

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We finished our girls day with a little concert put on at the school, where Livy got to watch her cousin Aj perform. Livy did awesome in the concert and even was found tapping her feet to the beat of the music! It was a wonderful day, sadly the wonderful day had a moment after school when Aj was just worn out from having two concert performances and physical education that day. It was a major meltdown, one I haven’t seen in a long time with Aj and it scared little Livy. We got a handle on it and ended the day on a good note though. Sometimes I hate how much stress school puts on kids, they can only handle so much stimulation in a day, especially Aj.

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When we dropped Livy and my sister back to her place, I captured a pic of my daughter and her Auntie because, well, it’s been awhile since I’ve gotten a picture of them together. My sister was always there for me when Ki was a baby, just like I plan to be with my sister and her little girl. Family always comes first.

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After dropping my sister and Livy off, we headed to PayLess ShoeSource where the boys got to get new sneakers. The previous sneakers the boys had were completely worn out. Bad worn out, and it was time to get them some new sneakers. The boys were so happy with their choices! Since my daughter has a ton of shoes at her Dad’s home, I let her pick out sandals that were not of the flip flop type so she could wear them to school. The school doesn’t allow flip flops.

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We finished our day with normal bedtime routine, shown above is a pic of the boys and me before story time. Aj wanted to make a silly face and K-man is being his usual actor self. Day one of Spring break went well, or I should say night one because this day was technically a school day. I was a little nervous about Aj’s meltdown in the van after-school, but things panned out and we ended the day with warm fuzzies between a tightly bonded family unit. I love my life.

Shopping for my Tween Daughter

The time has come, that time when your child no longer accepts and adores your clothing selections for her. Yes, I firmly believe it happens to all of us. We all have been at that stage where the clothing choices our parents made for us would make us cringe and argue the fact that we are now too old to have our Mommy or Daddy buy us clothing. I remember being that age and I was a nightmare, I am sure, now I get to relive that stage with my oldest, which is nearing middle school age and is ready to show her true personality through clothing choices.

There are some limits you can place, as the parent, on your tweens or teens clothing choices and here are some that I have placed with my own daughter:

  • Halter tops are unacceptable as they show off too much skin for every day wear outside of the beach or pool.
  • Be appropriate in your choice of graphic tees that spread a message, make sure the messages on graphic tees are age appropriate and school acceptable.
  • Choose a variety of clothing so that you can dress appropriately for the weather.

My daughter’s current obsession is with printed leggings, she just adores leggings with a matching graphic tee shirt on top. I have recently noticed that rue21.com has a wide range of tween and teen clothing options for any picky dresser. There is a LOVE graphic tee that I know my daughter would totally wear, unless I bought it that is. Parenting gets more difficult as you head into the age of teens picking their own clothing, you must ensure that they are allotted their independence to choose high waisted jeans if they so desire but limit their clothing to age appropriate messages and ensure they cover their body fully. My rule is, the less skin showing, the better.

Shopping for tweens or teens really can give one a headache, it’s no easy task, but if you set rules and boundaries from the beginning; yes that means dressing them appropriately when you are the one choosing clothing from day one, then you will find their clothing choices will continue to be appropriate well into their teen years. Support your tween and teen in their individuality and remember; life is far too short to spend it arguing about matching clothes; let your child’s clothing be their artwork.

Shopping for Jeans That Fit your Style

After giving birth to three children, I have found that my body took on a shape of its own. No longer do I have this pre-baby body that can fit into any style of jeans and it’s frustrating at times. Up until about two years ago, I wasn’t too keen on shopping for anything except comfy clothing. It seems, even though I had given birth, I wanted to stick with maternity style clothing. It was comfortable. It meant I didn’t have to try on clothing and look in mirrors. It was a safe choice.

The problem is; I love jeans. I adore bootcut jeans the best and I wouldn’t be able to gain that confidence back that everyone loves about me, unless I started to wear those beloved bootcut jeans again. I have a variety of shoes that suit jeans more than those comfy sweatpants type outfits. I wanted more, for myself and for my children. I needed to lead by example, and so it came to me one night, I needed to start looking for some womens jeans that fit the body I have today.

Once I made the decision to look into womens jeans versus comfy clothing, I found out that shopping for jeans really isn’t that difficult, or painful. There are a wide range of designer jeans for any body type these days; it’s simply a matter of owning your body type and knowing what designer jeans will work for your shape. I personally love the bootcut jeans; there is nothing sexier to me than looking in the mirror at myself wearing that style of jeans with my favorite black leather heeled boots and a sweater style top. Sure, I don’t look like a teenager, but I am a thirty-two year old woman, that is what I am supposed to look like.

Far too many of us females get caught up in what we looked like pre-baby years and that, my friends, is no way to live your life. I say to you, make a decision to love your body, own it and find that style of designer jeans that works best to uplift your confidence and accept your post-baby body. Just because you have had a child, doesn’t mean you can’t look stylish or sexy!

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