Rough Play for Kids Teaches Respect, Ethics and Boundaries

My two sons love to rough play and when they first started out with rough play, let me tell you what, I cringed! I really had to get used to the idea that rough play was fun for these too rough n tumble boys, and figure out ways to supervise that allowed them the fun with rough play. Through watching my two sons play rough, I have seen what it is that rough play actually teaches these boys and I am now an avid promoter of rough playing.

What Life Lessons Kids Learn from Rough Play

Many parents who come around, that are not parent to boys cringe at the idea that I allow my boys to play so rough. I have to explain this same scenario out to everyone who hasn’t had this experience; with rough and tumble kids. I want to be clear, girls can be just as rough and tumble as boys, they can learn the same skills that boys learn from this rough and tumble play so please be aware that this post may be focused on my sons, this pertains to girls as well.

What Kids learn from Rough Play With Supervision

Many nights a week my sons wish to wrestle before we start our end of night bedtime routine. If both boys are game, I allow them to wrestle which really involves some major rough housing. Take note: this is not hyper rough play, it’s calculated rough play where they each work to win the other. The goal, I believe, is usually for one of them to be pinned down over and over again. Poor Aj who lacks some fine motor skills, ends up on the ground more often than not. One rule to rough play for me, as the parent supervising, is I want to see that each have a smile on their face – meaning they look as if they are enjoying it. Rough play is for enjoyable fun, not for one to have a blast beating the other one up.

My little man started off these rough play adventures with a very arrogant side, he is my most self absorbed child which I feel is somewhat normal for his age group. I have had to work really hard to teach my little man to respect the boundaries of Aj and to really learn the cues Aj puts out there when he is genuinely hurt or simply not having fun anymore. Little man has come so far in learning his brothers cues and 99% of the time he does respect those boundaries. Each listen to ensure that they are not physically harming the other but boy do they take a beating.

Each love to grab and throw the other around, karate chop each other and simply run in a circle giggling a lot. They get rather rough to a point where I have to shut my mouth, the Mom in me will probably never be used to this rough play stuff, but it’s so important because it teaches some important life lessons and helps the boys learn how to handle testosterone boosts they will experience most of their lives.

Kids Learn life lessons with Rough Play

What Kids Learn From Rough Play

Sportsmanship - If supervised properly your children will learn sportsmanship through rough play. Each allowing the other to take turns, each respecting the other winning and being happy the other one. Each attempting to compete in a healthy way with each other.

Boundaries of Other People – If supervised properly your children will learn the boundaries of the sibling they are rough housing with. For example, the boys know when to be rougher with each other and when to be a bit more careful as they have learned to read each other as well as their sister when rough playing.

How to Handle Frustration – If supervised properly your children will learn how to healthily take out frustrations and testosterone boosts, your sons will have boosts of testosterone and frustration being of the male species, rough play has actually been researched and proven to help teen boys handle testosterone fluctuations better as well as learn to handle conflict properly.

Friendship, Bonds and Sibling Love – If supervised properly your children will learn to have a sibling bond of love and friendship with their rough playing partner, each having learned the three skills and lessons above, will eventually have a larger level of trust for each other, as well as the outside world.

Do you have rough and tumble kids? Do you feel they are learning some important lessons through this play? What lessons do you think they learn?

Shopping for my Tween Daughter

The time has come, that time when your child no longer accepts and adores your clothing selections for her. Yes, I firmly believe it happens to all of us. We all have been at that stage where the clothing choices our parents made for us would make us cringe and argue the fact that we are now too old to have our Mommy or Daddy buy us clothing. I remember being that age and I was a nightmare, I am sure, now I get to relive that stage with my oldest, which is nearing middle school age and is ready to show her true personality through clothing choices.

There are some limits you can place, as the parent, on your tweens or teens clothing choices and here are some that I have placed with my own daughter:

  • Halter tops are unacceptable as they show off too much skin for every day wear outside of the beach or pool.
  • Be appropriate in your choice of graphic tees that spread a message, make sure the messages on graphic tees are age appropriate and school acceptable.
  • Choose a variety of clothing so that you can dress appropriately for the weather.

My daughter’s current obsession is with printed leggings, she just adores leggings with a matching graphic tee shirt on top. I have recently noticed that rue21.com has a wide range of tween and teen clothing options for any picky dresser. There is a LOVE graphic tee that I know my daughter would totally wear, unless I bought it that is. Parenting gets more difficult as you head into the age of teens picking their own clothing, you must ensure that they are allotted their independence to choose high waisted jeans if they so desire but limit their clothing to age appropriate messages and ensure they cover their body fully. My rule is, the less skin showing, the better.

Shopping for tweens or teens really can give one a headache, it’s no easy task, but if you set rules and boundaries from the beginning; yes that means dressing them appropriately when you are the one choosing clothing from day one, then you will find their clothing choices will continue to be appropriate well into their teen years. Support your tween and teen in their individuality and remember; life is far too short to spend it arguing about matching clothes; let your child’s clothing be their artwork.

What is Happening With Society as it Stands Now?

Children Get Banned for SillinessIn recent news I read an article online that discussed a boy who was being bullied due to bringing a My Little Pony lunchbox into school. Apparently, due to the theme of My Little Pony seeming more feminine than masculine this young boy was being picked on about his choice in cartoon character lunch box. I am all for boys being masculine and girls being feminine. Totally, 100%. With that being said, we all can like similar cartoons or shows that appear to push to be liked by one gender over the other. I know many shows I watch are geared towards men, but I enjoy them just as much as the next male in our society would. There is nothing wrong with that.

We are raising our children to be judgmental and rude.

There is something wrong with that.

The part of the lunch box story that really struck a cord was that the school system denied the boy from using this lunchbox any longer, citing he had to bring a different lunchbox because this one was causing too much of a ruckus. Rather than dealing with the children who were picking on the boy, they decided to shun the boy for his choice of a lunchbox. I could see if this was deemed inappropriate content for a school, but I am pretty sure My Little Pony; a cartoon that promotes friendship, doesn’t fall into the inappropriate category. The children who were picking on this boy got a message sent to them immediately upon hearing this boy was having his lunchbox banned, the kids heard, “we can be in control of our elders and our peers”.

What is wrong is that our school systems appear to be sending the message to children that they can rule the world if only they be cruel & mean.

We need to be raising our children to accept and embrace our differences, this is what makes us a unique society to live in.

A more recent article that popped up on my feed was about a young girl who shaved her head in support for a friend who is battling cancer. The school banned the 9 year old girl from attending school because their policy cites that the child must have a wig or her natural hair grown back. That is their policy. Of course, the girl was able to return because this story got enough media coverage, but again, what in the world is wrong with our school systems?!

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Sharing Family Happy Moments in Photo Collages

Happy Family Moments in Pictures (3)

Sleeping boys. Hide & Seek Fun with my family. MineCraft creations by my daughter.

Happy Family Moments in Pictures (2)

Rose from my fiance on Valentine’s Day. Drawing with my sons. My Sister and her Baby Girl.

Happy Family Moments in Pictures (1)

Silly times with my fiance. Kids having a fun weekend time together. Boys getting along.

What are your happy moments of this past month or two?

 

 

What a Sense of Humor: Hello Kitty Diaper Bag

Being a mom does mean that your fashion lifestyle is over. Today’s mom knows how to let her personality shine through and one of the best ways is with her diaper bag. Instead of dragging an unfortunate-looking diaper bag, why not pick something with panache and style? There are so many plain diaper bags in drag colors with no embellishments and then, there are plucky diaper bags that are full of personality in bright colors with amusing embellishments.

Hello Kitty for Mom and Daughter

Some of the cutest bags I’ve seen are decorated with Hello Kitty. A fabulous pink or black Hello Kitty diaper bag might not be the best choice to bring to the office, but the Asian-inspired bags do have a place. These very affordable diaper bags look great with a casual outfit in pink or black, with fabulous shoes and some perfectly fitting denim. Since many moms will carry diaper bags even when their children are toddlers or young preschoolers, their daughters can also carry a cute Hello Kitty handbag, too. My daughter loved carrying a little purse that matched my bigger version and some Hello Kitty diaper bag styles actually have coordinating die cut purses, too.

Adorable Hello Kitty and Her Pop Art Styling

I absolutely love the Hello Kitty that is styled in black with only part of her face showing. Usually, this Hello Kitty has white eyes and whiskers along with a puffy pink bow. I think this version of Hello Kitty is more adult than the full-face white version, because it is more artistic and unexpected. However, Hello Kitty is so visually attractive that any variation of the pop-art cat on any diaper bag will be able to make you smile.

Diaper Bags from the Juicy Couture Design Studio

I do realize that not everyone loves Hello Kitty (although I don’t understand why). Fortunately, there are other fun diaper bags for the moms that want to stand out from the crowd. Juicy Couture designs diaper bags for women who want to look red hot and stylish. Each Juicy Couture diaper bag has some form of the Juicy Couture logo emblazoned on the front and on the handle as well as on the accessories like the changing pad and bottle bag.

Humor and Style for the Enfant de Juicy

Some Juicy Couture diaper bag styles play off of the Juicy Couture logo with a serious sense of humor. It seems like Juicy Couture designers are able to play off of their own sense of self, because who else would embellish a designer diaper bag with words like “Couture Baby” or “Enfant de Juicy.” The brand is known for being a designed for women who are not afraid to be sultry, so it is fun to see a brand place that designation on their baby gear, too.

Sense of Humor for Every Outfit

Where the Hello Kitty bags are really designed for a casual outfit, the Juicy Couture bags can be carried practically anywhere and they go with most styles of clothes. There is nothing that would prevent a mom from carrying a Juicy Couture bag to work, out shopping, on a night out, or on an outing to the park.

Surprising Neutrals with Fabulous Embellishments

Most of the Juicy diaper bags come in neutral colors like black, chocolate brown, as well as soft pink. But, you should also be able to find a great looking Juicy bag in a variety of blues, fuchsia, animal prints, and stripes. Most of the bags that I see have rich quilting or other textile styling. They are often trimmed in leather or suede for an expensive look. They also have decorative hardware and embellishments, too. You should be able to find them with fabulous bows in leather or suede, keys embellished with crystals, as well as attractive zippers on the many pockets.

High Styling on the Inside

What could be better than the outside of a Juicy Couture baby bag? The inside, of course. The designers at Juicy Couture have even embellished the inside of the bags. They often have a coordinating fabrics in bold stripes or solids. The bags are loaded with speciality pockets for bottles, pacis, blankets, wipes, and extra clothes. Many of the bags also come with coordinating and embellished burp cloths, bibs, and changing pads. Your baby will look so couture getting changed on the boldly labeled changing pad, while wearing her fabulous Juicy Couture bib as you wipe her sweet little face with the Juicy Couture burp cloth.

Have Your Cake, Eat It, and Get a Bag, Too

If you have a Juicy Couture fan in your life, you can easily make her next birthday or the first anniversary of giving birth (which I think should be celebrated) by ordering her a cake in the three-dimensional shape of the Juicy Couture bag that she loves the most. Add a few little baby shoe or baby toy cakes. Some cake makers are good at replicating the look of a Juicy Couture baby tote that she might not even be able to tell the difference between a real bag and the cake. If you need to provide the baker with a model, why not buy her a new baby that looks just like the cake she will receive. The cake could even have a few little baby accessories peeking out of the top for added fun.

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