Leashes for Kids – My Personal Thoughts

I recently took part in adding my two cents onto a forum at Moms.com about my opinion on leashes for kids. Someone wanted to know if they were useless. I couldn’t really say I felt they are useless and just like with most parental decisions, I have to only base my personal opinion on items, such as kid leashes, based on my own strong parental beliefs and experiences. I decided that I wanted to open my mind about this topic and find someone who could give me valid life lesson or some opinion on kid leashes that would allow me to better comprehend why some parents choose leashes for kids. I honestly have not yet been 100% convinced why a leash versus a stroller for kid makes any sense. At all.

Maybe you can read this, comment and change my mind, but for now… I just don’t get why a leash for kids is the answer beyond this; being a daycare provider with multiple young kids under their watch OR a parent with multiple young kids under their watch who wouldn’t necessarily fit into today’s stroller options. Any other reason given to me, such as a child being a bolter or a handful didn’t sell me on this topic of kids leashes and here’s why ….

What's your Opinion? Leashes for Kids.

I have three children; a girl age 11 and two boys who are now 5 & 7 years old. My boys are 2 years 6 days apart, so I get the whole handful comments, and bolter comments. My sons were bolters, come to find out my middle child, Aj shown above in the orange is actually on the spectrum, so he didn’t comprehend dangers in the way an every day child would possibly comprehend at a younger age. Honestly though, no kid really understands danger until maybe they have experienced or witnessed a dangerous scenario. It’s all about experiences in life even for children before we fully comprehend the depth of our actions. I get it, a leash for a child keeps them close, it keeps them from bolting off and thus possibly getting harmed badly or worse, killed. I have compassion for those parents who worry about that, I get it, raising kids is scary. Sadly, with or without a leash, our children can get hurt or have an untimely death, we just can’t spend our days in fear of that, I would rather teach the kids ways to be safe through consequences. A kid leash doesn’t teach any consequence, in my opinion.

I feel that a stroller makes way  more sense than a kids leash and here’s why:

  • I owned a double stroller for my bolting sons; if they were slipping out of my hand or I couldn’t seem to grab  their wrist in a strong enough hold to teach them “we hold hands with an adult when we walk”, then they went into that stroller. This made my son’s upset because they no longer could be mobile and on their own two feet.
  • The stroller taught a consequence; you bolt, you don’t listen to the rule of holding an adults hand, then you get buckle into a stroller for either a period of time or the full time we are walking. The boys learned quickly that they would much rather deal with holding an adults hand, being safe, then be strapped up in a stroller.
  • A leash doesn’t teach the children that they lose something for being a bolter, in essence a kids leash simply keeps them at arms length, separates the child from any physical touch of their parent and in turn could have issues with being too close to someone. I think the kids leash can actually deter a child from learning true consequences and alleviate a parents need to teach any life lessons regarding dangers in our world.
  • A leash allows the child to have mobility, yes, I get it. I think that’s great, but on the other hand, I feel that a child needs to learn if they are not safe that they lose that freedom of being able to walk on their own two feet. In other words: they want to act amuck and not be safe, then they lose the ability to be trusted to walk with their parents and will be restrained into a stroller.  Basically if a child is put on a leash, then they are never given the freedom to live and learn, they are essentially being sheltered and not being taught to make proper decisions.

While I feel extremely strong about not using kid leashes, that doesn’t mean I judge another parent when I witness a child on a leash. I tend to shake my head and frown because I feel that poor child isn’t learning anything. In many cases, you see parents with kids on leashes while they are chatting or texting on their cell phone, in those scenarios I really cringe. It’s parents who use leashes for kids as a means to not have to parent that really gives those parents who use leashes, in their own opinion, for true and valid reasons.  It’s a tricky subject and it’s a tough world we live in, but I am just old school in methods of teaching consequences for actions, do I want my child hit by a car? Do I want my child to get hurt badly? NO I don’t, but we can’t bubble wrap our kids forever. At some point we have to teach them the dangers of the world we live in and consequences for actions, if you start at a young age it will stick far into their teen years.

Now it’s your turn … leashes for kids? Do you say yes or no? Why?

 

How to Find the Perfect Pram

When you find out you are pregnant, there are lots of things you need to plan! Choosing the right pram is just one of these considerations and at first it might not seem to be a great deal of importance. It is in fact more crucial than most people realise, as your choice of pram will affect both how easily you are able to go out with your baby and your posture. Finding the pram or stroller which will suit you best requires a little bit of careful thinking. View it as an investment, rather like buying a family car. Reflect carefully on the following practical points to help you to make the right decision.

1. First of all, think about what age you need the pram from and how long you would like it to last.

Lots of prams nowadays are cleverly designed to suit you from 3 months to four years old. However, if the pram is for a newborn, the pram needs to recline at the very least 130 degrees from horizontal. Alternatively, if you are purchasing a pram for a toddler, you may prefer to choose a lightweight stroller. Then there is the future to consider. Are you hoping to use the same pram for future children? If so, a hardy and durable pram will need to be purchased.

2. Consider your budget.

Think about, realistically, how much you are willing to spend on a pram, taking into account other payment commitments you are making by purchasing items for the baby. Would a cheaper version of the pram you really like perhaps serve the same purpose? Would it be better to buy a pram that is adjustable for your babies development or would you rather buy a new pram from when they go from laying down to sitting up.

3. Ensure both parents are in agreement.

The pram needs to suit both Mum and Dad, in terms of design and the types of activities the pram needs to be suitable for.

·      How heavy is the pram?

·      How hard will it be to lift and fit the pram into the car or when taking it in or out of the house?

·      Will you need an adjustable handle to suit Mum and Dad’s heights?

·      How easy is the pram to fold or collapse? Picture yourself trying to set up the pram whilst also carrying your baby. Can it be done?

4. Consider the activities which will be done whilst pushing the pram:

·      Exercising – If you are planning to run with the pushchair, you need to consider brands designed specifically for this purpose so you keep the baby and yourself safe.

·      Going to the beach – Consider the effect exposure to sand and salt water on the pram’s surfaces.

·      Shopping – There are some 3-wheel models which have a wider wheel base designed for jogging or rough terrain. These models may not be as suitable for using in a supermarket.

5. Other things to consider:

·      Check the wheel locks – make sure they are not easily disengaged and that they are sturdy.

·      Is the basket under the pram large enough?

·      Does the pram have a 5-point safety harness which adjusts to suit the baby?

Whatever pram you end up buying, it should first and foremost be safe enough to carry your precious bundle of joy from A to B. It should also suit both you and your partner in terms of design and usability. If you are planning for more children, it might be wise to choose a pram which can continue to be used as the child gets older and which is hardy enough to last for the duration of your child-rearing years.

A natural born writer, Stacey Barton writes professionally and for fun across a wide range of niches with particular attention to how classic brands can continue to offer the same product for decades and somehow survive the turbulent and ever changing consumer market.

Pushchairs for Your Toddler or Baby

When it was decided that we would have our second child together within a couple of years from the first one, I knew I would certainly need to get some products to make my daily active life easier. One particular product I ended up getting was one of the twin pushchairs I found online. I need this because my sons are two years apart, used to be my double diaper duty team and right now at ages 2 & 4 are my double trouble team. You see, my sons were not twins but being just 2 years and 6 days apart, they may as well have been.

Someone said to me the other day that if you have three children you may as well have four or five because once you hit that number three children in the house, well the rest is just whatever. Having two would have sufficed but then I wouldn’t have my double trouble team to talk about and hang with all day long, what would I ever do with myself then?

Whether you are a parent of two closely aged children or a parent of twins having a pushchair like the Graco Tandem Pushchair may just be something you need to make your life less hectic. Parents are always going to have hectic lives, I am a firm believer of this. Each day I spend being a parent I learn more and more from my children. I will be 30 years old this October and even my father still learns things from me, or so he says.

Basically when we become parents to siblings or twins closely related in age then we must find products that will allow our lives {and the children’s} to be easier, more productive and less stressful.

What product, as a parent, could you not live without or wish you had while you were raising children?

Inglesina Avio Stroller Blog Tour Review

Today I get to review a great new stroller that I received. I use a stroller most frequently during Spring and Summer seasons and during Fall for soccer season with my youngest child. I had never heard of the Avio Stroller before and when asked to participate I was completely game, since my current stroller is worn out.

One feature I noticed first, was the instructions were not clear enough for me when provided in the box, I am not good at putting things together and so I went online to Google directions and found a YouTube video of the stroller put together so I was better able to put this together.

I think the five point harness feature is the best feature along with the umbrella top so that my child can be shielded from the bright sun on a NH Summer day. I love five point harnesses as they keep young ones held in tighter and safer when going for a walk or being out in a busy shopping mall.

The Inglesina Avio Stroller folds up so wonderfully that I get a full size stroller with small size stroller benefits. I am able to fit this stroller into any trunk of any car without an issue, which makes life of this Mom of three much easier! I used to have to try to cram my full size stroller into the back seat of the car in between my two youngest children leaving them with no room to feel comfy, not any more, I am now pleased to have a great sized stroller with little stroller benefits.

The Inglesina Avio Stroller glided along smoothly and has been a benefit to our family. I can not wait for Spring time walks now.

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Avio strollers are available at Diapers.com and purchasers will get a free fast table chair with their order by entering promo code AVIOFAST at checkout.

“I wrote this review while participating in a blog tour by Mom Central Consulting on behalf of Inglesina and received an Avio stroller to facilitate this review.”

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