I already have trouble with my sons sleeping, although I will openly admit that my son AJ is getting a little bit better about sleep. AJ is now at the point where he is fine going upstairs to sleep and pretty much sleeps away most of the night. I do get a nightly visitor a few times a week which means AJ has snuck into bed with Mama and Daddy but that’s okay by me … for now.
Baby K turned two in August and started developing similar sleep issues, not exactly the same but similar to AJ. Is this a boy thing I am finding myself wonder? My daughter never was like this, but I think back … I was a single Mom, I worked 30 plus hours a week, she slept with me in my bed nightly, we went to sleep at the same time and woke up at the same time, we were always together. My sons have a different life, Mama stays home, works from home and Daddy leaves house to work. My sons have both their parents in the home and of course now there is three children, not just the one as it was with my daughter for about four years.
Do all of the circumstances play into why my sons give me such a hard time with sleeping? I don’t know, but the other night when my daughter came downstairs not once, not twice but four times to inform me that she couldn’t sleep … I was irritated! I was just plain annoyed. You see I LOVE being a Mom, yes I DO, but come about 8 or 9pm on a weeknight I better be having MY time. I don’t care if I am reading a book, working, writing a blog post, whatever, it is now MAMA’S time! I am selfish in that way I guess you might say, I figure by 9pm on a weeknight my children best be sleeping, is that too much to ask for? Of course if they are sick, teething or something out of the ordinary then this waking up and needing Mama does not bother me at all, I am not cold hearted!
I think that the few gray hairs I have at the moment are going to turn into a full head of grays before my 30th birthday. I often wonder if I worked outside of the home could I even handle the hours? I doubt I could, why? Because my children DO NOT sleep well, EVER. If it’s not one, it’s the other and if it’s not the other, it’s the other one. I have tried every remedy you can think of to get my sons to sleep good, but nothing is helping, even AJ still has his issues. I have been told to give Children’s Benadryl, AJ is on meds for sleep which don’t do a thing different than when he was on melatonin – calm him to relax before bed, but he still doesn’t sleep consistently through the night.
I am realistic but I am also a woman who knows what she needs to be able to rejuvenate in order to be a good Mom the next day … let’s just say I am not able to rejuvenate. In the upcoming weeks I will be taking one night away, whether it be with girlfriends or my sister, I will be taking one night away from my home and sleeping somewhere whether it be a hotel, motel whatever, it’s me alone or with girlfriends out for a whole night while my daughter is at her father’s house and my sons are with their Dad because this Mama needs to rejuvenate her mind, body and soul!