I know everyone who is or has been in a relationship with children involved that you realize how hard it can be to focus on each other when your kids are constantly needing your attention. I am a Mom first, always will be, but I saw this tweet on Twitter the other day that stated:
It’s impossible to be a good spouse and a good parent if you are not a good you. You come first. Marriage comes second. Kids come third. – Tweeted by @AlisaBowman
I understand the whole reasoning behind it and it makes complete sense but in my life I have found having two sons who rarely sleep through the night at ages 4 and 2 that they have to come first. It’s just how this life is at the moment. I have seen first hand what focusing on children and putting all of their needs before your marriage can do but honestly my children will always come first, heck I put them before me most of the time. I know my health and well being needs to come first but overall my world is my children and there is nothing that will change that.
Should my sons start sleeping through the night then maybe I can start focusing on relationship before them, but at this time in my life I don’t like the idea of putting anything before my children. I feel that a marriage/relationship and children should be pretty darn close to the same importance. I am not and will never be a woman who has to make her move based on her spouse, I take his opinion into consideration but we are two independent people and sometimes I know I am way too independent but it’s me, it’s who I am. I feel J can love me or leave me, of course at this point I would prefer love me.
I appreciate what this Twitter friend was trying to say, because she is right in what she is trying to convey to people. I have seen marriages fall apart because the husband and wife spent years raising their children, focusing every little bit of their lives on the children just to find out that one day they didn’t know what to do with each other. The kids had moved out and off to college and now they were two strangers in a home not sure what to do. I think a balance would make a relationship work well but in my life I don’t have balance … yet!
So what do you think … do you think that the quote makes perfect sense to you or are you like me and feel it needs slight alteration?
It’s official Hannah Montana Forever: Who is Hannah Montana? is available now! My review will be going live on site soon, but for now I wanted to share some clips for all the Hannah Montana fans out there. My daughter loves Hannah Montana!
I can’t wait to share my experience watching this DVD! My daughter and I have seen it three times now! So keep your eyes peeled for my review or order it on Amazon today because this is a must have for any family with a Hannah Montana fan!
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About a month ago, there was a Free On Demand special on tv. You can’t even imagine how excited I was considering that lately I’ve been on a tight budget. I made sure to call over all of my friends and have an amazing movie night together. I flipped to the Free On Demand channel on my satellite tv from tvbydirect.com, and we were set to go. I cooked up a few bags of popcorn as well as making several shakes and rootbeer floats to go around. We all settled down and began to watch the movie.
We decided to watch Afterlife, which starred Christina Ricci. The movie was really fantastic and very sad. I hate to admit that I wasn’t the only one who was grabbing for tissues by the end of the movie! The movie is based on a girl who has a rocky relationship with her boyfriend. And after they get into a fight, she storms out and goes driving at night, in the rain, while in a horrible mood. Obviously, with all of those factors together, it was no wonder that she was in a fatal car accident! The movie then twists and turns and makes you think that she is still alive as the mortician, who can speak to the dead, is working on her and preparing her for her own funeral. The movie was really creepy and a load of fun to watch!
Today I give the floor to Mommycosm, who is a NH blogger I found while searching for other NH Bloggers! So here goes …. please meet Kim from Mommycosm …
Hi, I’m Kim Grenon, the mommy behind Mommycosm. I created Mommycosm.com in 2007, established Mommycosm, LLC in 2010 and recently premiered a live, interactive web show called Mommycosm Reviews which airs weekly on Tuesdays at 8pm (ET.)
I am not only a wife and mother, I am also a: professional product reviewer, social media marketer, freelance copywriter, brand ambassador, recent yoga enthusiast, high school softball coach, Reiki practitioner, dog mom, stem cell donor, Bon Jovi obsessed fan, latte addict…and much more…and not necessarily in that order.
My family lives on the Seacoast of NH, but threatens to move to Aruba each winter.
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We love camping, my whole family has had many camping trips over the years, and we have many fond memories. This year, we are planning to hike into the mountain range behind our house, and see if we can pitch our tents on the side of a mountain, it’s a bit daring, but it is something different. There is a steep path which will take us most of the way up, then we will camp for the night, and literally see where the next day will take us.
That is what we like about camping, we can go virtually anywhere, and for two weeks out of the year, we try and live off the land, which is why I always lose weight when I go on holiday. I do the cooking, my husband tries his best to catch us fish and the kids collect wood for the fire and wash up. Camping is all about mucking in and helping each other, and through our little holidays, we have grown to work as a team together.
My main job is to make sure the house is secure before we leave, make sure the gas is turned off, and the morning papers are cancelled, and to always make sure that I have set our home security alarm (Los Angeles adt home security online offer) before we leave.