All day I am Mom, I expect to wipe booger noses, dress up like a pirate, get wrestled down to the ground to play, dress up barbies, race cars and make food all day long. By night I am working professional, I am a virtual assistant with clients of whom have deadlines, website traffic needs and SEO skills to be implemented. What I don’t expect to be is Mom by night, although there’s the rare times when one is sick & will require a bit more attention from the parent, and in that case I fully expect to be Mom by day and Mom and professional by night.
In my house 8pm is bedtime for all, the boys usually a bit earlier but I expect all three children to be in their beds quiet by 8pm. This isn’t unreasonable, I don’t make my daughter go to sleep at that time if it’s a non-school night she can easily watch a movie or read a book, do whatever she feels is fun for her own personal time but that’s it, come 8pm Mom has signed off and professional has signed online. I am very strict when it comes to that expectation, not so much the professional part, I don’t mind starting work at 9pm if I have to or choose to.
The thing that I do not expect is a four year old boy and two year old boy to cry and scream for a hug, for a sippy cup of milk or water, for a kiss, for a tuck in after they have thrown off their blanket for the millionth time. I do not expect my children to yell when all, except maybe the two year old, is old enough to go to sleep when the time has come for bedtime. Their bedtime has been the same all their lives, the routine has been the same. I read two storybooks each now, and it used to be one each, but overall the routine is there and it’s the same every single night.
For some reason my boys sharing a room is no longer a good thing, if it’s not one it is the other. If it’s not the four year old screaming for me to lay with him so I can pass out with him on accident it is the two year old escaping the crib and staring out at me. I love my kids, but the boys have made me crazy after years of lack of sleep. Even if I didn’t work at home, no matter how much I love my children and love spending time with them, there comes a time in their life when they need to get some sleep and their own relax time. Apparently my sons do not believe in this, the two year old used to sleep pretty good but the four year old has always had his sleep issues.
Staying in their own beds isn’t a huge problem, other than the occasional escape from the crib by a two year old but the constant whining because they are overtired yet can’t sleep for some reason is bound to drive the most positive person bonkers. Yes I said, I am being driven bonkers by the children I love and adore. My children are and forever will be my babies but I am a grown woman and I need my relax time too. I wish I could find a good way to get these two to sleep through the night but alas it hasn’t happened yet. I can’t wait until we move to a bigger house with a bedroom for each of the children, because that is when I think this will finally be enough already!
What do you do for a bedtime routine? What helps your child fall asleep with zero to little tears, there must be some baby deals around that you can share to help with sleeping issues?