Suffering From Stress-Induced Insomnia? Here’s How To Beat It

Do you struggle to enter LaLa land no matter how tired you are at night? Thanks to WAHM job hours, money craziness, hectic parental schedules, and the pressure to run errands, the typical mom is tenser than ever, which means she may be getting less sleep than her body requires.

It is simple on paper: you are tired after long hours of work and it’s time to sleep, so you start counting sheep within minutes of putting head to pillow. But stress causes things to go haywire, and the exact opposite happens. Even a little anxiety can tense your muscles, prompt your brain to release stress hormones, and elevate your heart rate.

And even if you do manage to get a few Zzzs, stress is going to get the rest of your body more fitful. Also, you’re going to spend more time in the lighter sleep stages rather than REM or deep sleep, which increases the chances of you waking in the middle of the night.

The good news is that you can beat stress-induced insomnia on your own, without turning to over-the-counter medications or sleep specialists, through the following ways:

Sleeping gadgets are your friend

According to International Reviews, some gadgets can help you get more sound sleep. WAHM are always using smartphones, laptops and other devices to get work done: these devices emit high blue-wavelength light, which causes disruption in melatonin production. This can keep you awake for many hours after you finish the last blog post of the day.

Gadgets like BluBlocker sunglasses can protect the eyes from blue light, so you can put in a few more updates before going to bed. Likewise, moms can also take advantage of smart filters that reduce the blue light coming out of laptops and smartphones and coming in contact with the eye.

Natural liquid formulas

At Amoils.com there are natural liquid solutions available with homeopathic ingredients that help in treating insomnia symptoms naturally. For example, apium graveolens is an ingredient that contains a soporific active principle and assists when one has a difficult time falling sleep with an overactive mind or wakes up in the night. Liquid formulas can be applied directly to the temples and the back of the neck half an hour before bedtime, and reapplied during the night.

The use of plants and herbs formulas can too be soothing and calming. This is because plants are a source of cleaner air and absorb toxins with their leaves. Snake plants, aloes, orchids and bromeliads produce oxygen in the night. Formulas that feature jasmine plant will also have a positive effect on the quality of sleep by reducing anxiety.

Breathing exercises

Use breathing exercises as a transition time between home and work: concentrating on the physical aspects will divert you from professional thoughts and change your mindset. You can also perform this exercise while lying in bed and if you wake in the middle of the night.

Breathe in slow breaths right down in your diaphragm (feel your belly going in and out) until the lungs expand and stop before you get the feeling that you’ll burst. Breathe out slowly until your lungs slowly empty, but avoid gasping. Repeat this exercise five times: and don’t hold the breath at any moment.

Follow these tips to put insomnia at bay.

Do you suffer from insomnia? Do you have any tips to add? Feel free to leave comments.

It’s Okay to Not Like Your Children

I read an article recently and it isn’t the first one I have read that discussed how many of us parents put our children up on this pedestal.  I never have. I do think highly of my children, I do love them and I do think that they have amazing, unique individual qualities. I do think that my kids are awesome! That is not to say they are perfect. That is not to say that they mean more to me than anything, let me rephrase that, my children are important in that I would die for them should that ever need to happen, but that doesn’t mean that they will take anything way from ME. I am the most important person, my well being, my ability to be in a loving, committed relationship, my ability to focus on my own passions and ability to pursue what makes me tick, is important.

I have watched as so many marriages have fallen apart once the children are grown and living outside of the home. I once heard a mother say, “I hate that he cheated on me, I am angry, but we simply were so busy raising our children that we neglected our relationship”. One day this couple woke up with no kids in the home and did not have a clue who either of them were. This is the case for many, we put our children first and neglect the people who have vowed to be there til death do us part, all in the name of raising prioritizing children before our own needs.

It’s like your kids are grown, moved out and you wake up to a stranger. Your mind had been so focused on parenthood that you neglected the one person who will be there after the kids leave, because yes, let’s face it our kids are suppose to leave the nest. Don’t you want to ensure you feed your marriage/relationship while raising the children too? What is the point in being a parent if at the end of that full time job of parenthood, you find that you have lost who you are and lost the love for the one person who helped you on this journey? That would suck. I refuse to ever let that happen. I live for my children, but first and foremost I live for myself. To be all I can be. That is the role model I want to be. That is who I am.

While I cannot speak of what works best for your marriage and your world, I can speak of my world and what works best here. I have seen my first marriage end in divorce because one of the many reasons was – we had to focus on our sons; the first born son kept us pretty busy and we were stressed with finances, we fell apart. In all reality, we simply were not meant to work together because we didn’t and couldn’t. I am one who learns from my mistakes, or so tries to anyways. This time around, I am sticking to my commitment to the man I am engaged to. I adore him. We understand each other, we can communicate and we both work hard for not only our family unit, but for each other. We work to keep the love alive alongside raising four children who need a lot of support and guidance. There is not a day that goes by that Lee and I are not bickering about discussing parenthood and our relationship. I am with a man who puts us in line first with the children, we both know our family unit will not survive if we don’t work to keep our own selves steady and happy.

Raising Kids to Handle the Real WorldThere have been many a days where I have told one or more of my children, “I love you, always, never question that, but right now? I do not like you very much!” That is honesty. Children, just like adults, do need to hear that they are not easy to like. Not every parent gives birth to a child who matches well with them. I look at parenthood much like I took at adult relationships – not all people were put on this Earth to get along, it is completely normal and possible for your child’s personality to clash with yours. Obviously, if you are parenting a child where your two minds clash, it’s best to seek some guidance to ensure you raise your kid in a way that doesn’t ruin their self esteem and independent nature. Parenting is important, but so is being in love with your partner. I tell my kids this often.

Most recently, Lee and I had to get down and dirty with our household. It appeared having his teenage daughter move in with us caused a bit of a ruckus. Lee and I were off kilter, having taken the last year and a half working towards raising my three kids and still pursuing our personal relationship, we found ourselves with a teenager who didn’t have such a positive environment the last couple of years. Lee and I were clashing, arguing and even had a huge yelling blow out fight one evening when my kids were at their Dads and his was sleeping. It was hard. It was unsettling. My feelings are still hurt by that night, but I do love him. I am committed to our family, that means his teen, my three and him. I feel that he is also committed in the same ways. Which is why we work.

The easiest way to explain how I like my world to run is that the children know they are important, that I would do and will do anything for them, however, I will not destroy a relationship with a man I love because of them. If any of our four children are being unruly, rude or causing strain between Lee and I – we figure out a way to work with it. We do not allow our children to come before our love for each other because when these four kids are grown, we will be left to tend to each other and I will be damned if I wake up one day and not even know who he is. I refuse to wake up beside a stranger when our children are grown. He refuses the same.

Lee and I both believe in having our children raised in a way that truly prepares them for the real world and the real world won’t bow down to their every whimsical desire, so why would we?

This is why we parent in a realistic, cold-hard-truth telling, lovingly compassionate way, we want more for our children and we want more for each other!

 

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Unorganized Fun with our Crafting Items

This is a post that I meant to write a long time ago, when the kids and I sat down with a table full of crafting items and we just used our creative side to have some fun indoors.

Art Time with Kids

We have a lot craft items, actually we have a full shelf with two cabinets that is chock full of things just to be creative with. Quite often you can find use sitting at the dining room table; that has acrylic paint stuck to it for life, doing something colorful and fun with glue, scissors, and more!

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One item I recently was able to add to our crafting supply was glitter. Big mistake. Huge. My youngest makes an awful mess with this glitter, but seriously to see his face light up with joy because he made something sparkly .. melts my heart!

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We really do a lot together as a family and I wouldn’t have it any other way. My kids are being raised to know that family always comes first and that sometimes we do stuff for our family or siblings that maybe we don’t want to do; simply because it’s important to them!

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See here, my daughter is wearing a mustache. A pretend one, obviously. {please don’t kill me for having this pic on my blog, my dear daughter}. We can be silly, we can be real and we are very compassionate for not only our family but for the whole world. That’s how we raise ‘em in this household. Period. No buts.

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Nothing beats craft time more than a paper flower for the “best Mommy ever”. I seriously adore my children and am thankful that it appears I am raising them right. I am full of heart melting moments with them every single day. I just hope they realize I adore and love each of them so much. They do mean the world to me and they are my world. Always and forever.

Did you Read to me When I was a Newborn?

My youngest is my mini Curious George, that is what I call him most days because he has such an inquisitive mind. The questions my dear son comes up with always amaze me, while also taking me back for a moment where I am at a loss for an answer. This is the child who has encouraged me to be more creative as a Mama and to have a more open mind about the life we live. K-man never allows this family to have a dull moment, and today I am going to talk about this one particular conversation we had around the topic of reading books.

You see, I read to my children every night before bed. That is our habit, sadly I haven’t been reading out of the Chicken Soup for the Soul book with my daughter lately but plan to make a change and get back to doing that. I always read to my boys, but usually it’s K-man who wants a book every single night. One day we were talking about what book he wanted me to read that night, since he had library at school he wanted me to read this really cool new book he brought home. I let him know that I can read any book he wants before bed, that is our special time and the book choice is completely up to him.

K-man then wanted to know, “did you used to read to me always?” I told him, “why yes, I have read books to you every night for all of your life” and K-man asks “Did you read to me when I was a newborn?!” I was like “yes buddy, I have read to you since you were a little itty bitty baby curled up in my arms” and in that moment his face lit up and he wanted to know all about reading books when he was a newborn!

I told K-man that when he was a newborn he would lay curled up in my arms, sort of like we do now; he sits in front of me wraps arms around my legs and we snuggle up to read before bed. I told him, it’s not much different now than it was back then except now he is a bigger boy than he was in his itty bitty baby days. K-man listened intently, he was so amazed at hearing this story of his baby years and he seemed to have this feeling of love showing across his face. My son was so happy to hear that his Mama has always spent time reading alone with him, creating that special moment together, even when he was too young to remember the moment.

It is these little moments together, with all of my children, that bring me back to a place where love fills my heart and warms my soul. I love that my children are curious about things and I love even more so that K-man felt loved knowing that his Mama has always spent time reading books to him, even when he was a newborn baby. We both felt love in that moment, it was a connection … one between Mother and Son, a moment I won’t ever forget.

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